“You are just like….!” Why does that statement bother me so much?
Men through out the ages have heard it so many times that they are “just like someone,” be it their fathers, other members of their community, their race,their gender.
Men from the time they are born are being compared to others. You look like your dad, your grandfather, “you behave like all the other men I’ve known”, “You are this or that just like,,,,”
Why is this such an association problem? It is somewhat simple, to figure out if you take the time to understand what is happening. Many young black men grow up not really knowing their fathers, their only point of reference is what they were told about by others, be it their mothers, grandmothers and even strangers.
Men have to analyze what all of these comparison really are doing to them mentally. If a man is just like someone, is that the speaker an admires then it’s a good thing, but if it’s the reverse then it’s for sure a bad thing. Women do it and do not know how damaging this can become, because these triggers are loaded with false narratives.
Men have live with comparisons of inadequacies or whatever guilt trip these comparisons have been lay on us.
A man has to live with his short comings and comparisons. They learn to hate these false narratives….
Society have stereotype men so much that many guys have trouble living up to many of these stereotype. Weaker men can let this stuff depress them, they feel inadequate, if they feel like they can’t live up to whoever they are being compared to.
I knew that after some training you would behave just like Denzel Washington
The most frequently expressed complaint women have about men is that men don’t listen. Either a man completely ignores the woman when she speaks to him, or he listens for a few heart beats, assesses what is bothering her, and then proudly puts on his Mr. Fix-It cap and offers her a solution to make the woman feel better. He is confused when she doesn’t appreciate this gesture of love. No mater how many times she tells him that he’s not listening, he doesn’t get it and keeps doing the same things. She wants empathy, but he thinks she wants solutions.
When a man has made a mistake and feels embarrassed, sorry or ashamed then he needs her love and appreciation more….The bigger the mistake the more points he gives her for expecting the best from him.
Final thoughts
Men often are not sure what women are using as data to validate them.
Women can reject a good guy because she wants a "B" bad boy, to excite them.
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