Are you really Hot for her or will you cool off after some time

Women may think, based on experience, that men don't stay Hot for them for ever after. 

It started off Hot but the stone has cooled off a bit

What does a girl really mean when she tells you she needs you?

She convinces you that you’re very important to her and that she needs you. She makes herself appear weak and helpless without your advice and emotional support. She tells you she needs you, and that she’s very close to you, and she doesn’t know what she’d do without you in her life.  She blows hot and cold.

Well  some women who think this way may have a good reasons!

Here are some things that you ladies might be thinking about:

• His Behavior is “Hot and Cold”. Hot and cold means he acts like he’s still in love with you one day and then acts as if you don’t exist the next.
• He Tries To Make You Jealous. Is he putting up pictures of himself with hot girls on Facebook and Instagram?
• He Reaches Out Even Though You Asked Him Not to. The “No Contact Rule” is a post-breakup must for one reason: it works.
• He Calls You When He’s Drunk & Makes Emotional Confessions to You.
• He Shows Strong Emotions When It Comes To You. The opposite of love isn’t always hate.

Final Thoughts

When past experiences play as a constant movie on replay in your mind, you find yourselves drawing comparisons. They impact your thoughts consistently, this can be a good and bad thing. Good if these thought can prevent you from making serious mistakes. And bad if they stop you from moving forward with someone who could make you happy. Not all situations will be the same with a new person, as they were with some you were once with. 

example: a lady once told me she liked me because I was mot that dark, but didn't trust me because I was not that dark skinned.  SMDH.  I left her alone after that because I felt she was stuck in a rut. comparing me to someone else or multiple other individuals.  

Sometimes when the past grabs a hold of you it does not let go.

Are we moving in the right direction

 

I was told  we can stare into each others eyes,on occasion,

  but it is very  important, even more so,

 if we stare in the same direction at the same future.

Young couples these days want to get together for many glamorous reasons.  

This ring is about  the size I had hoped for.

So where is he? What is taking My prince so-o-o--o long … to come my way?

Many women are dealing with the 10 to 1 ratio and are wondering if there is a man out there that is just right for them…??

Getting annoyed, frustrated, and at times feeling hopeless…. It’s not an easy path to walk, however I’m a firm believer that when done right, the universe is without a doubt going to provide the benefit of you having a mate… maybe not a perfect   “Soul mate” that you are seeking….. but “yes” a mate… just a mate!

Well to be honest, the responses to your questions is often “yes” and “no”….It’s “no” in the sense that you are not locked to get a specific man, no matter what you do, The idea that there is a “soul mate” who you are guaranteed to be with is simple not true… You have decisions in life you have to make, and plenty of people make choices that block theme from being with the person who is truly perfect for them.

Notice I said “person who is truly perfect for them”. This is where I believe the term “soul mate” can be applied, and this is where the “yes” comes in to play when you ask the question “Is there really a man just for you?” If you have purpose in the choices you make, then the flow of good thoughts and the flow of positive energy will bring what you seek to you. You may not be able to just sit back and “wait for your Boaz” which is basically a reference or symbolic saying waiting for the man God (the universe) has for you. Because when you move forward with patience, you might just stumble across that on person who might be a good match for you. Note I said “GOOD” not perfect…..

You are not the prince I first pictured!

Some key things to think about: 

• Will you be attracted to him?

• Will he Love & Cherish you?

• Will you have to make him into a Man, or will he come custom made tailored right?

• Is he looking for a Helpmate, and not a playmate, which one are you currently?

• Will you experience a genuine Connection with him?

• Will he Love you unconditionally, and will you love him unconditionally?

• Will he want all of your love, not just a piece of it?

 

Start by questioning your past relationships and figure out where you might have gone wrong…the following example might trigger a few thoughts.

Example: You loved the man you spent your best years with…. I understand you feel you loved this man, but was the feeling mutual…? 

Another example: You were told that you should be more willing to build with a man, recognize his potential and work with him from there.

Another example: A lot f men just want sex, and sometimes women may be OK with that arrangement. So figure out if there is real chemistry … it can still evolve into a real relationship. So why can’t you just enjoy friends with benefits, and go with the flow?

Extreme example: People tell you that you are too picky… You might want to be more flexible on some of

your desires, and be more open to dating a guy that may not be really all that good looking. You are in your childbearing years so you want your future husband to be someone that looks really good to you, and therefore your kids will have 50/50 chance of being good looking also. 

Final example: You are very social so you have met a lot of guys that you find interesting, but you are not really sure if you have ever experienced a real connection.

 

 

 

 

Good things come to those who wait, but not to those who wait too late

You mean my window of opportunity has closed?

When you wait too long, opportunities can be missed, especially when it comes to men and  women relationships. 

Let me talk to the Martians here first on this one.  

Since women are not from Mars even women who are lesbians are all still from Venus. They don’t think like men do.  

When a comedian writes a book “Act like a lady, think like a man” you need to start laughing because the joke is not realistic. 

Allow me to explain:

When a man thinks ‘hmmm I think she likes me, I will just wait for her to come around.’  He will be waiting way too long. Why? 

For a few reasons. 

- women don’t want to be seen as “thirsty”. 

- Women can be aggressive however they want to be wanted, needed, they want to be persuaded, etc. 

- They don’t want to be the one to chase a man. 

- She wants “the mountain” to come to her.

These are facts… not to be debated just because you don’t want to believe them.

I was told that… "All good boys go to heaven, but BAD boys bring heaven to you?"   

As a man who has many different experiences with women, I'm not boasting. I grew up with many women in my own family, was married for 25 years, dated before I got married and after divorce. So even the  women in Chicago,Atlanta, Miami, Caribbean Islands  and N.Y had these same things in common. My now ex-wife and ex girlfriends were from different countries, Islands, Cultures and they all acted the same way when I became interested in them.

My actions had to be thought through carefully. So I learned a few things, over the years  even now I’m still learning.  

She might be a bit shy, 

so don’t approach her like you are  a predator. 

I’m on vacation and want to have some fun.

Let’s find a guys that rolls my way 

and makes my days and maybe even my night, 

an experience I will never forget. 

Every woman is unique, even twins are, so men need to explore what is special about her . do not assume you will find the things in one and also in the other. She will surprise you.

I once overheard a buddy of mine say “all women are the same…” My response to him was….. ‘so you have never had experiences with more than one woman, then!’

Needles to say he just disagreed with me as if he thought that I was judging him as an inexperienced guy. 

If you have not  taken the time to try to understand women you might think to yourself “why bother just treat them all them the  same way.” Guys who do this…. Find Out that treating women the same, is like driving different means of transportation the same way. You will crash a few times until you realize a sport vehicle handles differently to a sedan, and a SUV does not handle like 18 wheeler.  

OK, women are not vehicles but I think guys will understand what I’m saying here.