I WOKE UP with a song in my head. I must have been dreaming about someone special. isn't it funny how the mind works? I seldom remember the dreams the next day.
I am dreaming about a special tropical resort.
Dreaming is a natural process that all humans experience, from being unborn fetuses dreaming about our experiences in the womb, to our older selves, dreaming about life experiences. It is known to be an illusionary process that occurs in our subconscious mostly during REM sleep, but to many, dreaming is not just a scientific process that occurs while we sleep, to many, it is something more. Spiritualists define dreaming as a connection to our inner selves, a connection to something much greater than us. They believe that in sleep, our souls are connected to a higher power, who uses dreams as an avenue to tell us things or give us warnings. Seeing women in dreams can be one of those avenues, but these connections tend to be cryptic; below are some of the ways seeing women in dreams can be interpreted.
When You See a Beautiful Woman:
This is a very basic and “on the surface” interpretation for seeing women in dreams. Should you see a beautiful woman in your dreams, it may signify you being in love, especially if it is someone you actually know. And this does not just go for men; women can interpret this as their homosexual desires surfacing.
Seeing a Pregnant Woman:
A woman blessed with a child appearing in your dreams can signify new beginnings in your life. Pregnant women carry children; these children are new to the world and of a pure origin, so this means that you may be getting a chance to start afresh.
Dreaming about women is interpreted differently. If you dream about a beautiful woman, it indicates that you will go through a good, healthy and a happy year with lots of financial income. If someone sick dreams about carrying a woman, it suggests that they will be cured. Speaking to a beautiful woman in your dream suggests a salutary, wealthy and a happy year. A woman entering into your house is interpreted as happiness and surprise.
Dreaming of an ugly woman, however, means that you will go through an uncomfortable period. It indicates that you will have financial difficulties. It indicates general unhappiness, or even mental health issues. It is interpreted as the polar opposite of the dreams about beautiful women.
Alternatively, dreaming about women might represent your enemies. There might be people around you who act like a friend to your face, but speak behind your back. It suggests that you should be cautious around other people. Dreaming about a woman that you’ve never seen before indicates sudden compliments from one of your friends.
Dreaming of a woman who suddenly starts to ageing indicates your good faith and strong personality. Conversely, dreaming about a woman who suddenly starts to get younger represents new career opportunities and increased income. Additionally, it represents change and surprise.
Dream interpretation of kissing a woman is living a good, healthy life. It suggests that your life will get easier and you will overcome your financial problems. It also symbolizes achievements and indicates that you will achieve your desires that almost seem unreasonable and impossible right now. Some interpreters will say that kissing a woman in your dream indicates that you’re chasing pointless dreams in your life.
Dreaming about female genitalia indicates increased income, or getting something worthy. It suggests getting rid of your problems, resolving your money issues and getting a good reputation among others. It also suggests that you are an admired person. If you’re planning of having kids, this type of dream indicates that you will have a female child. These interpretations are parallel with the sex-related dreams.
Dreaming of a grumpy woman represents a set of obstacles. It suggests that you will face different problems in a short period of time. You might be anxious and irritated in the near future. It also symbolizes suspicion. It suggests that you’re suspicious about something and you will try to get to the bottom of your suspicions
Dreaming about a woman who is giving birth indicates that you will go on a vacation and have a pleasant holiday. It also suggests that you’re a loved person and you will get to a better position in your career. It points to your artistic personality and it suggests that you will pick up a new hobby.
We Black Men Don't Like Black Women hair, like we should
Everywhere from pop culture to the hood, men are either consciously or subconsciously telling black women they aren't "wanted."
Let me start by saying this: I know writing this blog post is going to cause quite a bit of controversy, so let's get this out of the way: I am an intelligent, definitely not what society deems "ghetto," and from what I am told, and given where I worked in the corporate world, I am fairly attractive. Why is that necessary to say? Let's start below.
Black men don't like black women curly hair enough. Yes, there I said it. I don't meanallblack men, but it's true of many, and it's a growing problem. I think I wouldn't really care ifotherraces felt this way about black women, but the fact that we black men do.... . Let me not be an hypocrites. I have date even lived with women of liter completions and straight hair.
My friend and I were having a conversation about black men vs. black women. (He is black and Puerto Rican mix. there we have the real problem), where as I'm all black with a Latino first and middle name we feel the need to always find the other culture in a person and to identify it. It started getting intense, and I said, "You don't get it! we Black men are viewed as somewhat sexy and, in a sense, a 'trophy' for other races, if we have money but black women are never deemed the most attractive. Other races are always seen as a trophy on the arm of a black man.
He looked at me like I was crazy and said, "You don't understand the pure black-man's struggles, because like me you are not all black. They look at black inner city black men like criminals, an you and me don't fit the stereo type.
In a sense, I might not. But I thought in my head, 'At least many black women value black men like me. It's becoming rare to see the reverse.'
This all started because I was referencing a conversation we'd had when I was with my pregnant now ex-wife with our first born son. My friend had said lightheartedly, "I hope your son has better hair. than your wife" he , Mr. P.R has, softer curls, a genetic gift from both his races combination.
He said, "B, I see you struggle with your hair, keeping it short, and I think it would be nice if he had my curly hair. You wouldn't want him to have coarse hair if you could help it. It would be easier to manage if his hair was curly was all I'm saying."
I'm showing some Ethiopian and Eritrea women, in this post with softer hair.
they were never colonized so their people never shipped to the Western world. their features look so much like black Latinas. this could make you go Hmm, how did that happen?
What was he trying to say about my choice in mates, my woman has kinky hair?
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Everywhere men are either consciously or subconsciously telling black women they aren't "wanted." I have seen black men not even look twice at black women whom I see as beautiful, yet I've seen them break their necks for decent-looking -- dare I say unattractive -- women of other races. Huh?
Why are rap songs all about white women? If you think I'm wrong, listen to your music and get back to me.
Granted, I think everyone is entitled to a personal preference regarding whom they like. But when, as a black man, you start saying things such as, "I don't date black women; I don't find them attractive," I think we have an issue.
Even Psychology Today published an article about black women being unattractive. (It's since been taken down.)
Black men, your mommy is black. Your sisters are black. Your favorite aunt is black. Do you think they're all unattractive?
As I've gotten older, I've met many men who will openly say they don't want a baby with a black woman. They want a baby with "light skin or light eyes and good hair."
IF I HEAR. THAT. STATEMENT. ONE. MORE. TIME. I. WILL. LOSE. IT.
Black men, if you don't support your black women, how do you expect them to be able to support you?
I never understood why it makes a certain type of black man feel good to have a white woman on his arm. It would be one thing if it were true love, but some are just doing it because they see it as a prize. Trophy!
Even on social media, my heart will sink as I see black women I've known from high school or elementary school now say they're "black and Filipino," "black and Puerto Rican," "black and [whatever race]" -- just don't say you're fully black! It seems these women have been conditioned to think they're not worthy if they're "just black."
These statements below are the most common things I hear about why black men don't like black women:
"Black women have too much attitude/ghetto."
Before I met my then girlfriend's mother in person, she thought I was mixed with white. No kidding. From the way I spoke on the phone to the way I "acted, The point of this is that I don't have an attitude problem, nor am I ghetto. I will get an attitude over normal things, like any man would. I have friends of many backgrounds, and I've seen Asian women, Caucasian women and Latina women all get an attitude (mind-blowing, right?)
I have many black friends who would prefer to not be confrontational and would rather pretend an event never happened than address it.
Most of my friends are educated -- some more educated than their significant others -- and grew up in families from middle- to upper-class backgrounds.
Black women are attractive. but society does not think so. But we have been conditioned to prefer the less curly hair. My advise to black men who prefer other women of other cultures consider North Eastern African women
Physical beauty is often coveted in our cultures. People think that if you’re attractive, you’ll naturally end up in a happy long-term relationship. Surprisingly, this isn’t true. Attractive people aren’t always lucky when it comes to their love life.
A research study at Harvard University found that, in general, physically attractive people don’t stay in a relationship as long as other people. In another part of the same study, researchers found that the most physically attractive people were more desirable. Still, they often had short-term marriages that ended in divorce.
The blessings and curses of being physically attractive don’t stop at troubled relationships. Studies reveal that beauty affects your ability to get a job, whether you’ll be convicted of a crime and whether you get good health care.
While it may seem that people who are more physically attractive have an easier time finding a partner, this may not always be true. Physical attraction definitely plays a role in selecting a partner. People are first drawn by what they see. Attractive people have an easier time drawing new people and potential partners in. There’s no denying this.
However, the attraction is more than just about the outside. Attractive people can have just as many struggles finding someone to connect with as someone who has average looks. There are plenty of reasons that someone beautiful and fit may have the same dating woes as everyone else.
Physical beauty is often coveted in our culture. People think that if you’re attractive, you’ll naturally end up in a happy long-term relationship. Surprisingly, this isn’t true. Attractive people aren’t always lucky when it comes to their love life.
A research study at Harvard University found that, in general, physically attractive people don’t stay in a relationship as long as other people. In another part of the same study, researchers found that the most physically attractive people were more desirable. Still, they often had short-term marriages that ended in divorce.
The blessings and curses of being physically attractive don’t stop at troubled relationships. Studies reveal that beauty affects your ability to get a job, whether you’ll be convicted of a crime and whether you get good health care.
While it may seem that people who are more physically attractive have an easier time finding a partner, this may not always be true. Physical attraction definitely plays a role in selecting a partner. People are first drawn by what they see. Attractive people have an easier time drawing new people and potential partners in. There’s no denying this.
However, the attraction is more than just about the outside. Attractive people can have just as many struggles finding someone to connect with as someone who has average looks. There are plenty of reasons that someone beautiful and fit may have the same dating woes as everyone else.
So, it would seem that being attractive isn’t all it’s cracked up to be, especially when it comes to long-term relationships. Here are seven reasons why an attractive person may not be able to find a long-term partner.
BECAUSE THERE ARE TOO MANY OPTIONS
While this may not seem like much of a problem, having too many options when it comes to dating can be just as difficult as having no options at all. I think attractiveness gives you more options in terms of relationship alternatives which might make it harder to protect a relationship from outside threats. In this sense, having too many other choices is likely not beneficial for relationship longevity.”
THEY’RE JUDGED BY others because of THEIR LOOKS.
After all, this is the first thing that many people see when they meet another person. Attractive people can be judged on their looks just as easily as people who aren’t as attractive. Whether this comes with the “Ditzy Blonde” stereotype or the “Meathead Jock” stereotype, attractive people are often judged based on their looks. This snap judgment makes it hard to make a real connection with someone after they’ve already decided your personality based on how you look.
Attractive people are no different from anybody else. They have good days and bad days, chores to do at home, and bills to pay. But beautiful people are often held to a higher standard than other people. There can be an expectation that they are hard to get to know. These perceptions aren’t usually based on knowing the attractive person, but based on their good looks. Because of such judgments, potential partners often distance themselves from an attractive person.
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Having an overwhelming number of choices regarding dating can make it hard to connect with one person. After all, dating is something that can lead to connecting and falling in love with someone for the rest of your life. The idea of having to choose one of many can be daunting.
POTENTIAL PARTNERS ARE WARY OF YOU
Attractive people may intimidate potential partners from making a move because they’re vibrantly aware that they have an array of different people to choose from. This can stop the good-hearted and genuine people from trying to make their move and get to know a person better. It can be disheartening to be part of a competition for someone’s affection, and people may not want to risk being turned down.
Attractive women sometimes find it hard to feel at ease in social settings. They may experience a lot of unwanted attention, so they are more guarded. This makes them come across as cold or stoic. Or they may not be comfortable initiating conversations because they’re used to others initiating towards them. Surprisingly, attractive people can lack self-confidence. Because they have experienced being used in the past, they keep people at a distance to protect themselves.
PEOPLE WANT TO USE THEM FOR THEIR BODIES
One psychological study found that many attractive people see their beauty as a detriment. But why?
Attractive people often face the unique challenge of people using them for their looks and their bodies. They may be faced with people who try to get close to them and feign interest in them long enough to get intimate, and then being dropped emotionally. This may put people on edge and make them closed off from connecting to other people because they’re used to being used.
Attractive people are often unsure of a partner’s real intentions. This makes them prone to being guarded in dating. They aren’t sure if they can trust the person because they’ve been used in the past. You often read stories about beautiful celebrities finding long-lasting love with a very normal non-celebrity type person because this person loves them for who they really are, not just their beauty.
ATTRACTIVE PEOPLE FEEL SOCIALLY AWKWARD
Attractive women sometimes find it hard to feel at ease in social settings. They may experience a lot of unwanted attention, so they are more guarded. This makes them come across as cold or stoic. Or they may not be comfortable initiating conversations because they’re used to others initiating towards them. Surprisingly, attractive people can lack self-confidence. Because they have experienced being used in the past, they keep people at a distance to protect themselves.
In part, this awkwardness may stem from the whispers they hear behind their backs. Good-looking people often have a stigma attached to them that assumes that they’re loose. Attractive people are often seen as sexual creatures and nothing else.
Their self-esteem is stripped from them, and people often refuse to see them as wholly realized people with interests and opinions. It can be extremely draining and put them off of dating.
IT’S HARDER TO FIGURE OUT PEOPLE’S TRUE INTENTIONS
When men see beautiful women, they are more concentrated on how she looks because they want to ‘have’ her, and so they don’t want to go deeper and get to know her…in other words they become Intimidated.
Hence, attractive people will be faced with the problem of trying to figure out what people really want from them. They’re often stuck with trying to figure out if someone is interested in them for their personality or looks, which can make connecting with people difficult.
THEIR LOOKS CAN CAUSE DRAMA
This can range from people talking behind their back based on stereotypes associated with their looks or even the source of jealousy. Dealing with drama can be difficult for any person, and attractive people are no different. The drama can make dating difficult because the word of drama often spreads quicker than it can be contained. Everyone loves drama, except when it comes to drama based on your looks.
Your potential partner may assume because you are attractive, you will flirt with everyone around you. They assume you may cheat. This can be hurtful because it’s making an assumption about your character simply based upon your appearance. This type of mistrust eats away at a relationship.
At the beginning of your relationship, you and your partner kept everything divided equally. But over time, you may grow selfish and less apt to be as flexible in what you value. If you see yourself shifting towards selfishness, resist it, and work towards being ready to give rather than receive.
2 – GOOD COMMUNICATION
Seek to be honest and share your feelings with your partner. Good communication is essential for a healthy long-term relationship. Once you start to harbor your feelings, you may get bitter or build walls against your partner. Talk about what you’re feeling calm before it grows into a full-blown angry outburst.
3 – THERE’S NO WINNER OR LOSER
Don’t let competition seep into your relationship. When competition is part of your relationship, it takes away the genuine love and cares you have, so you feel like you’re in a football game. If you compete to “win” all the time, you may find yourself losing big time in your relationship.
