You are not her " first choice!"

Who stands a better shot at entrepreneurial success - the young and fearless 20-something or the seasoned 40-and-over executive? Take a wild guess.

Just like business and in  personal situation, if you feel like you not someone's "first choice" you will struggle with your confidence in dealing with him or her. 

“ The tools to him who has the ability to handle them. ”~ French Proverb

 If we define “success” as still being in business after 5 years, which do you believe is true: pick what your think  below:

Founders under 30 have the edge (they’re relatively poor and hungry, can work long hours and are willing to break the rules to achieve a breakthrough)

Founders 40 and over are stronger (they have greater financial resources and are a better bet for raising funds, have more business experience and a vast network of connections) 

Age doesn’t matter (a founder who has run at least one prior business has the greater advantage)

Success stands a better chance when a young founder partners with a highly-experienced and older cofounder

  

Many folk treat the risk taking in business the same way they take risk in their personal life. so let's ask the same type of questions about ones personal lives.

If we define “success” as still being in together after 5 years, which do you believe is true: pick what your think  below:

Guys under 30 have the edge (they're relatively poor and horny,  they can have sex for longer hours and are willing to break all the rules to achieve a breakthrough and capture your heart.

Guys 40 and over are stronger (they have greater financial resources and are a better bet for raising kids, they have more experience in relationships and are ready to commit)

Age doesn't matter (a man who has been at least in one prior relationship has the greater advantage.)

Age and experience does matter ( a man who has been in at least 10 prior relationships has the greatest experience advantage)

Success in a relationship stands a better chance when a younger woman partners with a highly-experience and older partner.

***Now I will not be able to see what you picked only you will know what you believe to be true as it applies to you.

So here are a few things to consider. Most of the times you don't find happiness with your "first choice," now the "second choice" can be who you settled for. But only you will know if it was the right choice. over time it will become apparent that you  can't change the choice and go back and have a do over. 

That's right as time passes, lets just say a  year or two, do you think that your choice is someone you want to go on an exotic vacation with.

As you stroll together on the beaches of the Caribbean shorelines, do you have a good time naturally with this person as you are  holding hands? Or are you asking yourself the question: Is this all there is or will we be become happier the longer we hold on to each other?

We all believe that paradise is the most romantic when shared with someone special. It starts with  your first honeymoon (you don't need to be married to have one.)

The more your repeat honeymoons the more chance you will have at making it last.  Why?  Have you  ever played the same song over and over for a few days and then you play it again after a long time? Do you still like the song or does it loose something?
 Repeating honeymoons work the same way. You get in the right frame of mind to go away together, you pack based on what you dream will be happening. You find yourself dreaming ahead of time the anticipation makes your pulse race.  OK let's assume he is "Mr. Right" or "Right for the moment." Then your mindset will make all the difference as to how much you enjoy the experience. So here is were you have to do the little things to make the exiting things happen and last for a few days.

This  test will confirm your good or BAD choice.

Will he continue to be exiting and a Gentleman who will protect you (using his jacket)  from the elements as the breeze cause a chill to come over you?  Women always want a man to be gentlemen but do you pick a gentleman from the very beginning, because men who have habits don't break them, Good or BAD he will do what comes naturally to him. So your choices will tell you over time if it was an act or  was he  for real all along.

Now I know you might be thinking: What if you don't want a permanent relationship,you just want a travel buddy you can have fun with. Enjoy those things that you only do when you are traveling and are less inhibited 

 The possibilities of finding that type of guy is rear unless you are Kim K. so chances are you might wind up traveling alone.

Now if that's "your thing" then you are not alone. There are many women doing the  travel alone bit (maybe to meet someone), either on vacations or for the rest of their lives simply because you picked the wrong choices above. So do you think you should read the choices over again and see if  you might pick differently this time.

Like the persistent turtle in the race, you will get there.–your major competitor is you.