Don't lockout your potential Soulmate.

He could be your soul-mate, all you need to do is give him the green light to say "hello!

 he might be a romantic guy.. who might take you on a vacation will never forget! 

 

Women who have been hurt by some mistakes they made in the past, sometimes continue to  lockout possibilities with a new good guy. Men are not all the same. We men are like  cars in a parking lot , different colors, different makes, even different models. ....with different taste in places to take you on a romantic dinner.

 

From my point of view as  a guy who has seen it, all to often, where good women have been hurt by one guys actions that the spend a lifetime alone.  They were hurt because a guy did not appreciate all the "Added value" attributes she brought to the relationship, stomped all over her heart.  Let's face it this is as old as the beginning of time. We men only learn to appreciate good women after we mature (which take time 35 and older.) We can't help it. we are condition to look at sexy and beauty as the only factors that matter. We seldom choose the smart and self confident female first. That is a positive thing, ladies. Because we will appreciate you after we have made most of the wrong choices and have made all the major mistakes  we can make, this  leads to better choices do to maturity (experience comes from BAD choices made in the past.)

You don't want to be "his first choice," you want to be "his last choice." ( This becomes  life long commitment)

 

In sharp contrast we men really want a woman to prove to us that she is not coming to us with  over-weight baggage( not your size, but your drama.) We men are like the airlines we weigh your baggage and decide if it is too much stuff to deal with. So travel with only your necessities. Everyone travels with some luggage, bring yourself and some "Added value items"  only. You need new stuff, this is why you are moving on to a new relationship. By bringing junk you don't need, you prevent yourself from having a  chance to true happiness. He might be your soul-mate ( women think about having soul-mates, while men just want a good mate,) who will help you in areas, you thought  no one would care enough  about you, to help you with. Help you with your career, raising your kids (not his), helping you in areas no one else was willing to deal with. These are all the areas that you need help with because if you didn't...... you would not be dealing with the problems that you are dealing with right now. Men can be compassionate not just users/losers. Ask him questions when you meet him, was he close to the women who he grew up with.

If he say "Yes" he is a keeper.