No woman has ever gotten her heart broken from just a kiss

A kiss is just a kiss,
or is it an introduction to advancing  agendas?

Let's face it…. Men always have an agenda when it comes to approaching and pursue a woman. We sometimes believe that women don’t have agendas when we men are pursuing her. But as much as women may lay back and let men do the chasing, we men have to be aware that her agenda is not so different from ours simply because she is allowing a man to pursue her to the point where he gets closer. Therefore allowing and welcoming a kiss that could start a fire.  Women are waiting on you to start things so they can advance their agendas. Guys, ask yourselves who was it that came up with the “red sole shoes design.” How more alluring is the red shoe sole? You can compared them to the proverbial “red dress.” Each one of these symbols spell danger that is sparked by the color known for danger. Does it mean “stop” like a traffic light, designed to point out the obvious. Or does it mean the eye catching sign of “come yea hither!” look in this direction dude, start at bottom and picture what’s whats at the junction point and beyond..... 

The fact that the soles of her shoes shows that she has tried this “red bottom allure” approach before!

We men may not ever know what a woman is thinking when she wears some articles of clothing. That’s because we are not the designers of women clothing. Warning!  if she is wearing matching Panties and bra then you fellah are not the only one thinking about having sex. We think we understand the signs but we don’t. The signs are not crystal  clear because we men, are trying to interpret what they would mean if we had designed them to suit our purposes and desires. Well “Hello 21st century,” at the tale end of the last century the  1990s. Those of us who saw the change in the new millennium coming didn’t fully understand that “change” was not going to be just a myth. The late artist “Prince”,RIP, can out with a Male/female symbol as his emblem… He also recorded the song “party like it’s 1999” which meant to me that we should party because  it was the end of things as we knew it in the 20th century. Women will be kicking the "same old, same old to the curve." They are not settling and waiting for the guy who is clueless as to what women want and need, to screw up their lives. They are much more progressive, than their mothers were.  As I walked in on a conversation one early morning. Where a Risk analyst was explaining the facts of the new World changes to some old schoolers and a new generation guy who were all clueless as to what he was talking about.

Risk analysis is the process of identifying and analyzing potential issues that could negatively impact key relationship initiatives or critical projects in order to help organizations avoid or mitigate those risks.

I understood instantly where he was going with his Risk assessments. I have an analytic mind,  so I knew the technique of “what if ” “when” “where” and “else” “default to” logic he was talking about. Even though our professions are somewhat different the same logic applies in both arenas. You see what you think you understand, as an old schooler who thinks it takes buying a woman things and taking her to dinner and taking her to places she could only dream of seeing,  is what will get you on base with her. He is willing to spend money, and time in his pursued of the “cookie”. A new age man thinks it’s not worth all the effort because he does not have the resources, so his mind set is very much different. He does not see the need to do all that…. He is thinking “bang it and kick it to the curb”, “L-O-V-E” is just an unnecessary emotion!

Final Thought

We are all individuals, but we are all programmed by our cultures, our gender and our set ways. Anyone that thinks in a “particular fashion.” will not be able to turn 180 degrees and flow with the new current. If you have spent time mirroring others that you  associated with, over the years, then they have had a profound effect on you so you will have a hard time re-adjusting to “changes” you will go back to your “default ways” instantly. When the changes don’t go your way. Especially if those changes do not make you feel comfortable, happy and satisfied.  this is My crazy Risk assessments analysis. Find what makes you happy and who makes you happy and move forward in harmony.