Some men – not all – have been known to be clueless when it comes to dating a good woman and staying in a relationship with her. No matter how sincere you are, good women will walk if a man is guilty of any of the common mistakes. Check them out.
Before we deal with the "Do Nots" you may want to understand a few things.
Fellas: Are you a breast man? Butt man? Or do legs drive you wild? If you appreciate an hourglass figure, smoldering eyes, or humble breasts....... the following can give you hidden clues about your relationship style based on Research.
Ladies you may also want to read this so that you understand what is happening and why!
If you like her EyesTheir hidden meaning: You’re probably thinking of how her eyes say “I want you.” So subconsciously, you’re thinking about babies. For example: Men with blue eyes are more likely to be attracted to women with blue eyes.They want babies with blue eyes!
Your stealth flirtation strategy: Once you catch her looking at you from across the bar, maintain eye contact for a moment longer than you would normally. If she holds your gaze it’s a good indicator she’s down for a drink or two.
If you like her Smile
The hidden meaning: You’re probably thinking of how her smile says “I like you too.” A woman's genuine smile is the one thing that will let you know if you can hold her attention. If you can get her to smile without any effort then you are on a level playing field. Obviously your approach is what will make the difference between her smiling automatically or not. So if she smiles when she sees you,,,, you can at least approach her.
Their hidden meaning: If you like smaller breasts, you may be more likely to settle down. When men are shown pictures of breasts in five sizes ranging from small to extra large, researchers found that men who preferred larger breasts also had lax attitudes toward sex and favored short-term commitment.
If you like her Curves
Their hidden meaning: When researchers tracked the eye-movements of men looking at photos of women, they found the majority of men looked to the torso first when judging the attractiveness of a woman. The reason: Subconsciously, you’re seeing if she’ll make a good mom.
If you like Her Body—And Only Her Body
The hidden meaning: If you’re more concerned with her shape than her face, you’re not thinking about settling down. (Surprise!) OK, so you don’t need research to tell you that one.
If you like Nothing about her
The hidden meaning: If your buddies are drooling at the Tilted Kilt waitress but you’re just asking about the wings, that’s a sign you’re happy with your relationship you are in. (Or maybe you’re just whipped.)
I hope that gives you a little to think about..... NOW lets talk about the Don't.
10 Dating Turnoffs for Women !
Sometimes this is considered the hardest thing for any guy to do right. Being confident is very important, however if you look her in the eye with that look that says "are you ready to get it on, right now" she’ll notice right away. Being overly sexed is a huge turn off to women; it either means that you have too much self-confidence or that you are in a hurry to get her in bed.... before getting to know her first.
Don’t be overly Aggressive
If a Guy thinks a woman likes him he can be pushy at times if they’re looking for sex. Especially if they are inept at reading the signals women send their way. If you know (not just think) the two of you are in agreement on the sex, then go for it, but leave room for "STOP, I'm not ready." Trying to get naked too fast is off-putting to many women. So, keep calm and carry on with the right moves, the rewards will be all the sweeter at the right time.
Don’t be a Slob, show some class.Just because Ashton Kutcher and Charlie Sheen can get away with looking like hoboes doesn’t mean you can. Look presentable and have good hygiene. In other words, don’t go into this with bad breath and last week’s laundry or walk around with your pants hanging way below your behind. If your date sees that you’re not putting in the effort to make a good first impression, why should she bother with you?
Don’t be Rude
Be respectful not only to her, but to everyone you encounter along the way. If you’re treating the restaurant staff like trash and insulting them without reason, your date will assume that you’re going to treat her the same way. The last thing any woman wants is to be disrespected or talked down to. Don’t fake it either. If you are an A$$, it may work out for the first few times until she gets to know the real you. So, if you act like this in general, work on changing yourself first instead of looking for someone else to inflict your rude behavior on.
OK, I'm not player hating here. One of the worst things to do - EVER - is to lie about being married or separated. Typically, women don’t like being a home wrecker, or discovering that they are one. If you are currently separated, be up front about it. If you’re married, don’t even think about dating. However if you are separated you may be able to convince her that you weren't happy in your marriage so meeting knew people is your way of finding the answers to what you want.... Good luck she might just think you are confused and are not ready to move on! Smart women don't want to be rebound lovers....
If you’re on a first date and you say “Oh, so you’re that type of woman”, it’s pretty easy to assume she won’t be back for a second date. Jumping to conclusions about your date from the way she answers a couple of your questions is a 100% full fledged mistake. You have to let her answer the question in her own way before you arrive at any conclusions about her. However if you are stuck on stereotypes and those stereotypes lead to pretty much your stereotypical behavior, then I guess you will find yourself in the same situation, often. Where no matter what.... all women look and sound the same to YOU.
Put your cell phone on silent or better yet, turn it off. Checking your cell phone every 15 mins sends the wrong message to your date. It says that you are not engaged in the conversation, which means you’re not interested in her. No one likes to have to fight for attention. Remember your manners. You have to tune out the Instant Mgs and focus on who you are talking to in person.
Some guys are fantastic salesman or great negotiators, which means they can talk about business 24/7. But, it’s not good to turn your dates into business transactions. There is a time and place to do business, and a time and place for leisure. If things work out with your date, it’s going to be better if she knows she can relax with you instead of being consistently uptight and focusing on the next big transaction. Let me explain.... Women want to know that you are success oriented, but talking about your latest business deals and where and how, can be boring to the lady she may not want to understand all that stuff, instead she may want to know about how you will sweep her off her feet......
Don’t Be a Showboat
Maybe you have access to the Company Jet and you just flew in from Italy helping them solve their debit crisis, or have a timeshare in St.Maarten/ St.Martin and you just received a huge annual bonus, don't flaunt your good fortune on your first date. While she might be impressed and all that does sound great, it’s not going to be enough if money is all you have going for you. Also, it’s not good to advertise your material wealth. In order to guarantee that second date, it’s best to let her get to know YOU and not what you own. But if You can afford to fly her to a exotic spot for dinner, she might be impressed to the max. Ask yourself this question however --- So what do you do for an Encore?
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