Where have you been all my life?

We go online these days for almost everything, even tips on finding that Special someone. From learning how to date, getting over fear of commitment, to first dating tips, here's where you'll find everything you need to know about  dating, selecting a life mate, and latching on and securing "Mister perfect," your dream husband in the real world. 

www.WeHaveTheAnswerForYou.com 

There is no such website, CD, video or book that will do exactly what you want, especially if you are in a  confused state of mind. 
Relationship experts cover topics for everyone in cyberspace. If you are  recovering from a divorce, or a breakup you are in a different state of mind. So why are you at the wrong place? No one is on this beach but you. Well, these sites offer a one-size-fits all dating formula. Their mission is to help a few get back into the dating game by just following their advice therefore making them successful Matchmakers of the very few. Hell they even have you covered, they pinpoint the ideal place where singles can meet to find friendship, romance, love, and even long lasting connections. Based on a Computer App. They make it as easy as possible to get back into the dating game..... To start searching for Singles near you simply visit their website. Once you're on the inside you'll be able to take advantage of a wide variety of features, all for free! You can create a detailed dating profile, add up to 20 photos, view other singles their system matches you up  with others based on your profile, search for matches, or contact other members. I'm a Software engineer so I know how these Apps work. They match keywords that is about it. The Keywords you pick connects to others Keywords in a database, so you are matched up based on similar Keywords...... Rocket Science?... Not really ... but  Sometimes it works because people believe it. 

OKAY, here I go again. They don't know anymore about matching you up than you do..... If you have been in a relationship before, you did something right in the beginning of that relationship. I'm not an expert on you, your like, your dislikes, so I can't write a Application program that will pick a perfect mate for You!  But I am a man and I know what attracts me to a lady. Since most women believe that all men are alike.... then one man's opinion is all you need..... Right? So do you want to know a secret to attracting a wonderful man? 

Just Be seen in public in a JOYFUL mood. That's it? That's it! It sounds simple, doesn't it? But many single women have trouble attaining such a playful mood in public, and accomplishing it takes self-mastery and focused intent, which will immediately put you in a category apart from all others. A happy and spontaneous woman with a warm smile who's obviously in a leisure moment, and not too occupied to pay attention to social overtures, is much more likely to receive attention than a woman who's rushing somewhere on a vital mission, head bowed in anxiety, face stiff with the fear of an unwanted approach. 

He will react to your energy, if you are joyful. And most single women in public act as though they want to avoid what they actually wish would happen:  would make intriguing small talk with a man of Denzel Washington-like charm

Feeling confident in public places widens the range of eligible men to whom a single woman will be exposed. And it lessens the chances of being approached by the truly predatory, who are more interested in the wounded, fearful, and anxious. 
Click on Think Safety First

First, identify a public place and turn it into your personal parlor. Find a place where you feel comfortable visiting with friends, eating a meal, or having a cappuccino and reading the paper, alone from time to time. Get to know the staff and management, and become a recognized and welcome customer.This need not be a bar. 

But it does need to:

1. Be within easy walking or driving distance from your home
2. Be open as many hours a day as possible so that you can alternate times when you visit
3. Have a social atmosphere congenial to you (your type of music, your type of food)
4. Have a friendly service staff that you can joke with 
5. Offer comfortable chairs where your feet reach the floor (if you're short)
6. Have lighting soft enough to enhance your skin and strong enough to read by (you look intelligent  when you are reading something)

It may be a cafe, or a neighborhood restaurant that serves breakfast on the weekends, or a place where you can drop in for a double espresso and read the paper after Grocery shopping. Perhaps it could become  your favorite restaurant where you can eat a snack or a full meal, depending on your mood.

Consciously make this place your hangout (your spiderweb). Make this comfortable spot the place you have lunch with your girlfriend (preferably a married girlfriend, other wise she is your comp.) once a week,  or meet new acquaintances for a drink or coffee. You will look relaxed in your zone. Get to know the names of the service staff, and tip well, so that when you show up everyone recognizes you -- and they'll always note when you're talking to someone new. Joke with the staff which make you laugh.  Become a favorite customer. In particular, get to know the hostesses in such places because they are like the captains of the ship and watch everyone who comes and goes. You'll never fear being approached by a weird stranger once you feel surrounded by friends.     If you're going to be seen with friends, make sure they are a delight, so that you laugh and smile frequently. If alone, make sure you look around you frequently and make eye contact with someone occasionally. If you cultivate the right place, it will feel like a home away from home. And you will notice who comes and goes. Feel free to relax and be receptive to eye contact and smiles from people you don't know . . . yet.  Why not? You've created your own safe, public parlor.  

It beats chilling at home texting people you already know will not make the grade.

Certainly, at first you'll probably have to consciously create the circumstances in which to relax in public. Then, you can expand and similarly create other public spaces in which you feel "at home" enough to receive attention from men. Say, you branch out to a local bistro where you can listen comfortably to some music on a Saturday evening. Remember, you're in charge, not the space, not the people around you. When you do this, your face will relax enough to invite an approach from a man who is assertive enough to make a small overture, and healthy enough to choose a confident woman with whom to do so.

I recommend that any single woman who wants to meet more men practice the discipline of socializing where she can give and receive mild flirtations without endangering herself or feeling anxiety. Think of it as a discipline in public. Walk that razor's edge of being both relaxed and alert to the World around you, and you will never feel dis-empowered in a social situation. The end result? You'll meet a lot more of the kind of men you want to meet.  

REMEMBER: This is about you applying your own personal style, to the above suggestions. Do what makes you comfortable. But remember to become the best You, you can be. If you remember how that worked before, then it will work again. Someday, someone will walk into your life and make you realize why it never worked out with anyone else.

Who knows you will Possibly be asked:

"Where have you been all my life?"

Vacation for Two, anyone ?