Don't trip, know how to pick her up and sweep her off her feet.

Fellas, a little planning goes a long way.
In the court of dating, women are judge and jury, but the testimony that they'll hear—mostly from their hearts, but also from their Greek chorus of girlfriends—will all take place out of your earshot. The rules are unwritten (until now), but they are set in stone. Give the ladies a really good reason, however, and they'll toss the tablets aside—along with most of their inhibitions. That's because women want you, the right guy, to make the decision easy. How? By following these simple tips to master the art of flirtation.



1) watch for the signal. i.e. SHE already sent you the Zoolander eye lock, the eyebrow raise, and/or at least two smiles (full, open-lipped, teeth smiles).Go over there and talk to her already. Caveat: There's a small chance she thinks you're funny looking (not funny ), but go ahead, have some balls. She's worth it.


‎2 Convince her Quickly

Once you have the green light, it doesn't matter what you say first. You now have 5 minutes to


 convince her to keep talking. Make the most of it.


3 Obey the 2-Day Rule
If you call within 24 hours, you'll seem desperate. If you wait 3 days, she'll be annoyed that you purposely waited 3 days. So call on day 2.
I was corrected on this one. a female friend told me: The majority of women don't think like that. Women usually want a guy to call them. Only men put rules on when or when not to call, and use the term desperate. If she likes you, she wants you to call. It's simple like that.

‎4 Don't Ask her to Hang Out


When you ask her to "hang out" and it's just the two of us and you don't have a girlfriend (or boyfriend), she will assume it's a date. To avoid confusion, say, "I'd like to take you out" instead of, "Wanna hang out?"

‎5 A smart Man Plans Ahead


If you want to see HER this weekend, call HER by Thursday. If you want to see HER naked tonight, call HER before you're drunk at 1 a.m

‎6 Know When to Quit

If you call HER twice and get no callback, game over. Don't keep calling, e-mailing, or sending flowers. when you do them, SHE THINKS "stalker."

7 Should you panic if  you  drop the L(bomb)? 

here’s no going back after those three little words slip out of your mouth. And according to a new Glamour report, more than half of the 1,000 men surveyed admitted to prematurely dropping the words, “I love you.” 

Infatuation, which is marked by physical attraction and intense chemistry, could play a role. It lowers your inhibition. Think about it like drunk driving: When you’re having sex with someone you can’t get enough of, it’s as if you’re operating under the influence. “Mix that with alcohol and you have a guy who is all too willing to blurt out the L word,”  (Do men fall in love faster than women?)

An “I love you” in this “intoxicated” state could be just that: an expression of a moment—more connected to desire and arousal than the relationship itself. (If you’re curious, here is what sex does to your brain.)

But you’d be surprised how many proposals happen in the bedroom during sex. While that sense of chemistry and attraction is easy to downplay—oh, I was drunk—it’s also what builds a relationship. So if “I love you” slipped out, it’s not to say you’re not with the right person, it just might not be the right time.

A good way to tell you mean it? You want to include her in all parts of your life—and want to be included in hers. If your boss invites you to dinner with his wife and you don’t want to bring yours, something’s missing

8 Have game plan for her BAD mood.

If she’s not happy, you’re not getting anything: attention, dinner, or—most importantly—sex. Time to help her bad mood. According to a Harvard University study, it’s not that tough: Women are happier in a relationship when their partner understands when they’re upset. How come? Researchers believe being in tune with her emotions shows your investment and engagement in a relationship.

But how do you “show you understand?” Follow these three tips

9 Thou Shalt Not Solve
It’s a well-known male trait: You like to fix things. Broken window? I’ll fix it right now. But if she starts talking about her bad day, don’t treat her like a broken window. “Women are more interested in expressing the problem than hearing the solution,”  Listen with open ears and a closed mouth. If asked for solutions, come to the rescue. Remember: Simply expressing her problem to you can relieve her anxiety. 

10 Use a Parallel Situation
Here’s where we’re similar: Both men and women are sensitive to nonverbal cues—if you have a feeling that she’s acting absent or cold, you’re probably right. The trick? Don’t try to warm her up

Instead, use a parallel situation. If you have a hunch her bad day has to do with Karen at work, talk about some of your coworkers’ annoyances, and then ask her about her day. She may be more likely to tell you what’s up if she knows you can relate. If she explodes, don’t worry. Here are 11 Ways to Calm Down an Angry Woman. 

Use the Magic Number Three
“Women are bakers and men are chefs.”  You want the instant gratification—flipping a burger, or knowing she feels better right now. She will set something in the oven, wait, and feel better after some time.

Ask three times what’s going on. If she doesn’t budge, then drop it. “Space is a form of nonverbal communication,” says Salem. Use it wisely. Asking too many questions can push her deeper into a well of denial or depression. She might defer talking until a later time. Let her. She’ll appreciate you waiting to talk when she wants to.

This info came to me  as a result of many years of me F****UP and still living to talk about it..