Ladies, these are your lucky 7 points to a satisfactory sexual relationships.

 As a man and husband to the same woman for 25 years  and a personal Fitness trainer. I have talked to many women who have issues mainly with their personal body weight and body shapes. I have decide to do this blog on 7 point that I see as problems that can be solved , this  may help a few of you to  understand what a man sees, but he may not talk to you about it.

1. Don't Talk Yourself Out Of What You Need
It's too easy for  women to convince themselves to settle for less. You're so helpful and accommodating, so eager to please and afraid of rejection that You're quick to give up the things you need, including when it comes to sex.

What women need to see is that doing this will leave you chronically frustrated. While it's true that every relationship requires a certain amount of compromise, going without the things that women really need just doesn't work. You end up unhappy in the relationship or resentful toward your partner.

The bottom line is, women need to know what they can't live without, sexually or in other areas, and what you just can't live with. Women ignore these non-negotiables at the expense of a fulfilling personal life.

2. Share Your Needs And Feelings With Your Partner
If you can't ask your man  for what you want in bed, you shouldn't be sleeping with him. Good sex happens when women feel safe and at ease. If women are afraid to ask for something or to tell their partner that they don't like something, sex will never be more than mediocre.

This second tip follows from the first one, in that once women identify what they want and don't want, women have to express these things clearly. It's unfair to expect your partner to be a mind-reader and "prove" that they care for you, and most importantly your happiness, by somehow knowing what women want without you having to tell him. Healthy sex comes out of healthy communication.

3. Accept Your Body As It Is Now
Women need to be in touch with their bodies; with what feels good, what feels not so good and what feels wrong. Women also really need to stop judging themselves in terms of their weight and their shape. Only a superficial dope would give herself  a hard time over her imperfections. If someone makes you feel bad about your physical self, this is more a reflection of his inadequacies than of yours, Ladies.

Your negative self-talk has to stop. The running commentary on how fat you are, how much cellulite or how many wrinkles you have is guaranteed to kill the mood, often before it even starts. Feeling good about your bodies is crucial if you're going to let go and enjoy yourselves. Being physically self-conscious will keep women from experiencing the joyful abandon of great sex.

4. Never Refuse Sex As A Punishment Or Use It As A Reward
In the bad old days, some women were led to believe that the way to get a man to toe the line is to offer sex for good behavior or withhold it when the man has displeased them. Most of us today recognize this as hateful behavior and a recipe for disaster.
Men don't want to be controlled or punished, especially around sex.  We  don't want to be made to feel like little boys. When women are hurt or angry at  their  partners, They  need to share their feelings with him in an adult way. Women can even say that they are too upset for sex, right now. What women mustn't ever do is make us feel like we're deciding when we get to have sex, based on whether we've been "good" or "bad."
On the other hand, using sex as a reward turns women  into sex objects and makes sex into a commodity for your partner to "earn." It's no longer two people being intimate or enjoying each other. Commodifying sex makes it into a business transaction and our bodies then become objects for trade.

5. No Pets In The Room ( this is my biggest Pet peeve)
You might love Fluffy or Rover, but they don't belong in the bedroom when we're being intimate. Your pets are very territorial and could get jealous or want to play, too. Dogs might bark or even growl. Cats might jump onto the bed and start walking around. You can avoid these disasters by remembering to shut the door and leave your four-legged friends outside.

6. Have A Sense Of Humor
Sex is about connection and intimacy, but also it's about having fun. It can be mind-blowingly great or occasionally, things can go wrong. Having a good sense of humor about sex will keep things in perspective.
Being able to laugh at yourselves and at the comical aspects of sex will take the pressure off the whole experience. We might love and adore our partner, but we don't have to be so serious about making love to them. Humor relieves pressure and is a great way to connect. Hit him with the pillow and watch him react, with that look, Oooh she is in the mood.

7. Enjoy The Give And Take
The best sex is the kind in which each person is trying to please the other one. The sharing in sex is one of the things that make it great. It can be technically amazing, but when one person gets the impression that the other person really isn't there with them, it can ruin the whole experience.
What makes someone a fantastic lover is not their technical ability or their repertoire of moves but their attentiveness and their efforts to make their partner happy.

When both people show that they really care about meeting their partner's needs, sex becomes something wonderful. You will be experiencing that Oooh, Aaaah feeling continuously.