How does Pornography Rewire Your Brain‏!

  Is Porn Really Bad for You? REAlly?

I was 15 years old when I discovered my father's porn collection. It was after midnight, a school night; It was in his private bookcase. Books? Yes,-I use to hear  people say; "if you want hide something put it in a book." these were pocket novels,  there were no pictures, just  descriptions. So I had to read it to imagine it and visualize what was going on. So sex was about how good an imagination I had at that stage of my life.
I let myself just imagine being the guy in the novel, assuming he  was this stud that could make a woman scream in ecstasy, I found myself feverishly masturbating to the images in my mind. These were moments that was ingrained in my brain  for years.    I was perched, naked, in my bed , which I had covered with one of my mom's best large beach towels,which I tossed in the washing machine after to be washed, if I had to change my sheets my mom might figure out what I was doing. Since I grew up close to the  ocean, having a beach towel needing  to be washed was normal because I went swimming very often after school. Porn in my young brain was what  I use when I had sex with girl later in my teenage years it made up for my lack of experience.
Shortly afterward, my mom  discovered my new hobby,  I branded pornography as the forbidden, but thrilling hobby— perhaps all men's—had these same vice, because I saw it as my dad's reading material of choice. I could now understand why I suddenly could not see a girl in scanty clothing (mini skirts) without picturing her in my bedroom, for years, my desire for the naked pretzel women, contorting into yoga like poses just waiting for me  to bring them pleasure . My Dad's  porn habits was not anything I thought about because he read a lot of books  and would read before bed every night, and often woke up very early and killed time reading—which, my mother later told me, spanned my parents' entire 45-year of  marriage—seemed to be worth more to him than watching TV. Reading became fundamental to me as a way to expand my knowledge and make my imagination and creativity grow. As an adult I've watched hard-core porn multiple times but I'm not obsessed with it, because the movies that I created in my brain for years are just waiting for me to hit the replay button. But years later, in a scene from the film I watched with a girl friends—a woman bent over, her pointy breasts swinging like pendulums as the stud was banging her from behind —surfaced in my dream multiple times. It reignited that once you see it or imagine it is there for ever until you find a way to erase it. Does porn somehow invade the deepest recesses of men's minds? Or women's? And if so, does every man carry a mental cache of un-erasable erotic images. (Is erotica making you crazy? Discover the surprising link between depression and porn.)

As an adult, these imagination have carried over into my relationships; even a Victoria's Secret catalog seems like it can get my imagination rolling, like a gateway drug to cruder desires. I know intellectually that porn addiction is actually quite rare. That most men can look at it and still lust after live, breathing, imperfect women. Yet I still have a nagging fear that the naked images will fade from my mind and I will have to settle for just reality. That will cause a serious depression in my case.
 I didn't  spend hundreds of hours sifting through various studies  in an effort to find out what motivates us mortal men, what penetrates our  brains. And the more I've learned, the more my earlier views seemed oversimplified.

Part of my job is to equip businesses with solutions for problems giving them data they need to improve their businesses  bottom line - profit.Yet my understanding of pornography—a part of most men's sexual repertoires, I know—was shaped entirely by my personal  experience, where imagination was what made it exiting.


So I turned to science for answers. And as I dropped references to this story among my Martian friends, they were fascinated. Turns out, I'm not the only one who wonders what life in the age of porn is doing to us.

Imagination is not necessarily what excites us, when we can just flip to the soft porn TV channel or insert a DVD, or find the porn-site on our laptops. - I just remember a funny story, when my ex-wife accused me of using  the family PC to watch Porn, I had a laptop, so  why not use that PC?She was browsing through the history on the sites  visited. It turns out my oldest son had been busy. Some porn-site automatically open a new sites, as he would click on the close button of the site he was viewing. So my poor son was trying to get out of sites one after the other and they just kept opening new ones until he turn the PC off. LOL. I can just imagine what he was going through his head, he knew that his Mother snooped to see what the history of usage was (maybe she was trying  get evidence that I was up to no good and maybe Cheating on her.) So when I asked my son about it, he fessed-up. I had to smile because I  knew that his panic was traumatic enough punishment.  He relaxed when he saw me smile.Why scar him for life by grounding him? My wife disagreed, but we had an agreement that we would not second guess  the other  parents decision when it came to our kids. So he was not punished because dad understood what teenage boys do. 

Many psychologists believe that men have evolved to pursue lusty, busty women who are willing to engage in casual sex. According to Paul Wright, Ph.D., an assistant professor at Indiana University who researches the social aspects of sex, that is may be because a woman's appearance can give more clues to her reproductive potential than a man's can. However, Emory University research suggests that men and women are similarly interested in visual sexual stimuli, but what they find sexually interesting definitely divides along gender lines. Men prefer novelty, while women are more interested in stable dynamics.

Porn could be bumming you out, and not just because of the slow buffering speed: New research links pornography use to depression. But don’t worry, that’s no reason to trash your downloads folder just yet.
In a recent study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, more than 500 subjects completed a survey about their media use—complete with questions about the importance of using pornography in their lives, feelings of depression, and their perceived health.
Those who watched a lot of porn took more sick days and were more depressed than those who didn't claimed they didn't view any smut. Which is interesting, since we've long touted the Health Benefits of Masturbation. So what’s going on? Maybe putting a pole in you house and have your wife strip for you can be the answer to avoid depression, or maybe not.