Want to be HAPPY? Learn to shut-up!

When it comes to relationships, do you find yourself constantly saying the wrong thing at the wrong time? I've learned this the hard way, I'm now sharing my simple solution: Just shut up.

According to new research from Emory University, meditating can help you appear more understanding and calm her down. Best of all: You don’t need to cross your knees, raise your arms, and say “om” to make it work.

The trick is zipping your lips and focusing on her body language. Meditation increases activity in the part of your brain responsible for empathy by releasing oxytocin, or “the love hormone,” and looking at her body language also does the trick. She’ll perceive your focus as empathetic interest—and that could be just the thing to calm her nerves. She might stop Yelling at you, Fellas

Here are three ways to win her over without saying a single word.

1. Stare at Her (Without Being a Creep)
Every woman has her own ticks. The key is figuring out her normal body language so you can tell what isn’t normal—Is she about to go off on you -- a surefire way to pinpoint when she’s upset or stressed: is she  blinking: If she normally doesn’t blink much but you notice she’s suddenly doing it twice every second, you know she’s under stress. the tease are welling up and she does not want to cry.

 Some other things to watch for:

    Her voice: Pay attention to the pitch. It might be subtle, but when she’s stressed it’ll change.
    Her posture: If she moves her hands to cover her breasts or neck, she’s feeling vulnerable.  It’s her way of taking cover.
    Her lips: She’ll likely bite her entire lower lip when she’s upset. (On the flip side, you know you’ve won if she nibbles at a corner—a sign she’s aroused .)


2. Mirror Her Movements
You’ve probably heard that when people are in love, they tend to mirror the other persons movements. The trick works for arguments, too. Don’t go "Simon Says" style, but subtly start copying her—say, cross your arms if hers are crossed—so that puts you on an equal footing to talk. At that point, start de-escalating things. Slowly uncross your arms and after a minute or two, bring your voice down. If she doesn’t respond right away, slow down and try moving in closer to make eye contact. Once she follows your lead, briefly touch her arm or thigh to reinforce your physical connection. The slow de-escalation can be contagious—she’ll likely cool off with you.

3. Touch Her—But Don’t Overdo It
Get all touchy-feely when she’s in one of her moods and you’ll receive a swift slap. But if you sit close to her and face her, you’ll remind her of your intimate connection. Men and women see intimacy in different ways—women through being face to face, men through doing things side by side,  Make sure that your legs or hands touch, too:


Had I paid this close attention to these simple solutions and acted on them with precision, maybe -just maybe , I could have saved a few relationships that failed. "Experience usually comes from BAD experiences"  GHM (God Have Mercy) I've had my share. I hope I can remember all of them and avoid repeating them .
Remember these quote and you might remember key things in how to handle  conflict with the love of your life.
LOVE PROVERB
"Love me when I least deserve it, because that's when I really need it."
Swedish Proverb  

THE LENS OF LOVE 
"Love looks through a telescope; envy, through a microscope."
Josh Billings

WHEN LOVE BEGINS OR DECLINES
"We perceive when love begins and when it declines by our embarrassment when alone together."
Jean de la Bruyere