Can you become a victim?

If you are lonely and looking for love be a ware of scammers. Now some of you might say it can't happen to you, but it happens to unsuspecting folks all the time.

My take is that often people are looking for love from folks that are pretty much like themselves... Culturally, Ethnic, language..etc.

There's an old saying, "Everything that glitters isn't gold." And, "The grass always seems greener from the other side of the fence." Take a moment to appreciate what you already have. You'll realize what you thought was gold is bootleg and the green grass is full of weeds! Food for thought!

 

This explains why, I believe, Manti Te’o fell hard for this scam.  

It's easy for me to understand this because I 've been  away from home a few times also so I understand this all to well; being lonely while  far away from home, you crave so much the things you miss. If you have ever left home and gone away to school for 4 years or more, or left home for a job oppotunity in another country or state you will understand what this young man was feeling. Hearing a female voice on the other end of the phone with the same accent as his own was comforting. This is most likely the reason he dropped his guard and fell hard for someone who was scamming him.  

I copied  the following from Dr. Phil's site. Because he is far better at explain stuff like this than I am.

Online Dating Red Flags: Warning Signs of a Catfish
With more than 40 million men and women online looking for love, there are bound to be some scam artists out there. A “catfish” is a person who creates a false online identity in the hopes of luring people into romantic relationships. Nev Schulman starred in the 2010 documentary, 'Catfish,' about being drawn in by a woman online claiming to be someone she wasn’t. Now the executive producer of Catfish: The TV Show on MTV, he advises you to think before you begin your next online relationship. Look out for these early warning signs that your love interest may not be who they say they are:

The Modeling Profession
If anyone says they are a model, watch out. It means that they are recognized as a very attractive person. If the person you are talking to says they are a model, but also has another amazing career, he or she may be too good to be true. Models are generally very busy and travel a lot. Also, it's easy enough for a scam artist to access model photos online and post as their own.

Facebook Profiles
If a person’s profile has fewer than 100 friends, and more specifically, if there are photos of the person with other people but the other people aren’t tagged, be cautious. These may be pictures taken off an unsuspecting person’s profile.

Traumatic Injuries and/or Illness
We see car accidents, deaths in the family and cancer a lot in catfish scams. This is very common because the best way to avoid meeting up is by having a traumatic experience. It will make the other person say, “Oh, my God, don’t worry about meeting with me now. I will just wait until you are better.” This is a way of tugging at your heartstrings and making you feel guilty. "Sympathy is an incredibly strong emotion," Nev says.

No Pictures
If a person can’t immediately send you pictures of themselves in this day and age, then you should proceed with caution. "You've got to expect and require them to show you to some degree that this is who they are," he says.

No Webcam
If a person cannot get to a webcam after repeated requests and attempts, then this is an early potential warning sign that they are trying to avoid you seeing who they really are.