Biggest Relationship Mistakes!

Wow, where do I begin..... the following are my list of 15 major mistakes.... LOL. I can list them easily because........? You guessed it, I have made them all!

#1 Forgetting to Be Friends
The root of a healthy relationship is friendship. Don't let your romance (or lack thereof) make you forget that.
As time pass folks forget what really attracted them to each other in the first placed.Love is something that requires work ...lots of work.

#2 Intentionally Saying Hurtful Things
This is a tactic that some people just didn't grow out of after high school like they should have. Even when you are arguing with each other, don't say things that you know will hurt them. Don't disrespect them or say something that could affect them negatively.
 In the beginning We make it a point to say positive things to each other... names like honey, sweetie  just roll off our lips.... Stupid, idiot, B!tch were not words we used during the courtships... then a few years later those are the word that float around in our heads about the same person that was the honey bee in our lives. Negative emotions are natural.. choosing to express then is a choice, we can choose the alternatives... It's always a choice!

#3 Not Resolving Conflict
It's become pretty popular to avoid saying "I'm sorry" at all costs these days. This may work for you if you'd like to make your partner feel terrible, but owning up to your mistakes will be worth it for both of you.




#4 Can't Handle Distance
It is not uncommon for someone to have a job that takes them far away at times. Some people are not cut out for a relationship like this but will make the mistake of trying to stick with it anyway. It may seem brutal to break it off because you can't handle the distance, but in the end you will only be saving each other from years of misery.

If you know from the outset that there will be distance, you should not expect that will  change just because it no long feels good... consider that you are the one who has to traveling constantly... and your partners is hounding you about it... You would not like the feeling... so think about how you are making them feel.... when you complain that you want it to change. And they are powerless to change it....... in an instant!

#5 No Romance
Sure, feeling like you're in a chick flick can be pretty cheesy, but sometimes it's those cheesy little moments that really show your partner that you care.
Shares on Facebook, personal quick emails...... text msg. that say silly things.
it's all about attentiveness.. the more creative you seem the more attention you put into you next surprise text or facebook inbox message..

#6 Don't let them embarrass you!
A lot of people will accept being with someone that makes them feel embarrassed, or worse, someone that is embarrassed to be seen with them. Don't sell yourself short just because you're afraid of being alone. You owe them and yourself the respect to get out.

#7 Not Compromising
Let him pick where you go to eat if you get to pick the movie or vice versa. In the end, neither of you will really care what you did that evening, but you'll always remember that you were both willing to do something just because the other person likes it.

#8 Not Being on the Same page.
Some couples have a problem with one person feeling more committed than the other. The best way to ensure this problem never arises is to make sure you're on the same page about everything. Talk it out, assure your partner of how you feel about them.

Seeing eye to eye does not mean you can't have differences.... but if you take the time to see your partner's point of view it will go along way to getting along better.

#9 Not Seeing Things From Their  Point of View
You need empathy to get through any other relationship in your life -- with co-workers, your family, your friends -- why should it be different with your partner?

#10 Making Assumptions
One of the biggest assumptions made in a relationship is thinking that your partner is a certain way just because you met someone else that's that way too. The whole "all guys/girls are the same" idea gets old fast.

Think about it you don't like to be compared to an ex... what makes you think your partner would accept it either.

 Pretending to Like Things You Don't
This is a textbook mistake that people have been making since the beginning of time! Be with someone that shares your interests or at least someone that respect your differences, you will be much happier. Hear we have that in common is music to the ears!

#12 Expecting Things to Change
This is a hard lesson for some people to learn, but you can't change your boyfriend/girlfriend. Only they can do that and only when they decide to. If you're waiting it out, expecting something wonderful to happen, you're only wasting your time.

#13 Constant Fighting
You may have been raised to think that men and women are supposed to fight like cats and dogs, but this is far from true. If you find yourself fighting nearly every day just to make yourself heard, it's probably time to head out or send your partner packing.

#14 Avoiding the Issues
Couples that argue all the time are not healthy, however couples that never discuss the tough issues may be worse. If you both keep sweeping problems under the rug and pretending to be happy, the downfall may be drastic.

shrugging off responsiblilities is jus ignorant... She is not your mom, and he is not your Daddy.. be mature and do what mature people do. Do the right thing.

#15 Expecting Marriage to Fix Everything
Too many couples hurry to the alter expecting it to magically fix everything. Marriage certainly can feel magical sometimes, but it does not make life suddenly perfect.

many folks make the mistakes where they know going in that there are red flags... but they think: " I will change the other person in time."
The fact is Men marry women hoping that they will not change... and women marry men with a secret  plan to change them.... See the problem... change will happen but not how we hope or you plan or expect.