So who will step forward and be better men in this New Year!

Men it is time to start being better men in 2015 and beynd and stop with all the negativity some contribute to dating and relationships. I understand that some of you may not fully understand the damage you do to women, and to the overall state of relationships, but that’s why I am doing my part to make sure you are now informed on the reality of these issues. Be brave and drop the pride, steps to becoming the best man you can be.

Let’s begin with these 3 things many we men  need to start doing moving forward:

1. Stop Playing Games: Be Honest About Your Intentions

"That was great, just like the first time,
lets  hookup again when I'm in town in a  few months."

If you’re simply looking for some booty, then please stop allowing her to believe that you may want more than that. It’s not cool, and it is simply causing more damage and more dysfunction in the crazy world of relationships. I mean don’t get me wrong, I know when a woman says, “If a guy just wants sex, then just say it” is not a suggestion that will typically help you reach your goal. It was a great line some woman came up with to help weed out the guys who are just after sex.
example: She is as fine as well shelved bottle of fine wine (figure 8). the expiration date is blank. Treat her like she does not need an  expiration date. She does not need to  to be validated or exploited, for your pleasure and be disposed of. Don't treat  her like you don't want someone to treat your sister, Mother or even you. Do the right thing.
However, it would still be best to take an honest approach. You can still find women who are on the same page as you, and you don’t have to lie or “play boyfriend” to get what you want. I’m in no way saying that sex should be your focus, because it shouldn't but I understand that this is what a lot of men desire while dating. Just take a better approach so that you can avoid creating more issues.
A quick side note: these days women can be just as much players as men can, they will jump your bone and them head off into the sunset, like the lone-cougar. some even come back from time to time to get serviced. knocking at your door at 2am, or  flying in from somewhere else to have some fun. and telling you stories that she was hanging with some friends and their conversation got very sexual and she thought that since you both  had gotten together not too long ago that you would not mind doing her again. 

2. Stop Being So Dependent: Learn How to Be a Man of independence
The behavior of being dependent on a woman to take care of you, and not knowing how to stand on your own two feet is unacceptable. What the hell do  you mean you can't  cook a meal or wash your own clothes. It needs to stop immediately. You will never be able to properly take care of a woman in a way that she needs or desires if you have yet to learn how to take care of yourself. Some of us men  may know how to stand on our own, but we may be what some consider a “momma’s boy”.
example: these days women have the better jobs, but you need to step up an define your niche in life.. If you can't find a well paying J-O-B. then  work on become an entrepreneur, or an independent labor( skill) worker. take some classes on how to do things that can make you marketable. Lear how to create Apps for the smart devices for example. Just do something that is forward moving.
It’s great that you love your mother, but if you don’t learn how to cut that umbilical cord now, you will have major issues when you get married and you keep putting your mother over your wife (which in my opinion is not a good move at all). It is time to stand on your own merits and start being the best man you can be. Your future girlfriend/wife is not going to be happy with some guy who can’t take initiative to do anything for himself.

"Mom, what's for dinner, I'm starving!"

She is not going to be happy carrying an extra burden in the relationship because she does not have a man she can count on. Yes, I know some of you are being taken care of by your woman, so you may figure “if it ain’t broke don’t fix it”. Well guess what, it is broken, you just don’t see the cracks and dysfunction clearly. Trust me, if you keep it up , it will become painfully clear how broken it really was the entire time.

I haven't got a clue what are you so upset about!

3. Stop Being Clueless: Try to Understand Women


I always say, “You don’t have to understand all women, just focus on making a genuine effort to understand your woman”.
Which is true, however, gaining some general understanding of women is a great place to start and it will help you move forward. You may think you know plenty, but many times you may not have a clue. That reality will eventually slap you in the face once you’re in a serious relationship or marriage. So here is the deal, you can either wait till that time comes and try to learn on the fly or you can get started now and be ready for when that day comes.
Example: It's New years day. and you are thinking Rose Bowl Football game, she is think something exciting (NOT football) . Find a way to compromise so that she does not feel left out. while you are sitting on the sofa watching the  game with a beer in your hand eating chips and salsa. heads up  that's  just your thing that does not include her, unless she is into college football like you are.I’m not talking about tips and tricks to maneuvering through a woman’s mind and heart. I’m talking about a genuine attempt to understand women and the ways that many of them operate. You would not wait until the championship game before you raise your level of play, you would practice well in advance so that you have a shot to win that championship. Well, it is the same thing here and if you’re smart, you won’t waste another day waiting to prepare yourself. 
another quick side note: Women are very complex, so understand you have to listen very carefully, to tone, attitudes, happy  moments, and sad moments. If you master reading the signs you might just be able to deal with her better. Example do not  suggest a walk in the park when she has leg and feet pain from walking in high heels the whole week. Offer to rub her feet and remove rough spots on the sole of her feet  and Massage her calves instead, it might even lead to something else. she might reward you for being so attentive.  


There it is right there and I’m sure many women would agree with this list. The man that takes heed to these 3 tips  will be a few steps ahead of the other guys that are too prideful to take some good advice. If you’re a woman reading this, pass it along. The more men we can get to start doing better, the more we can create a positive environment that benefits both men and women. It’s  a New Year, and it is time for  new approaches.