Relationships are a gamble.

 That’s why it’s always best to go slow and take your time getting to know the other person.and take your time getting to know the other person. "Whatever you have is gonna die and you are gonna have to rebuild it as something new. You have to be willing to ride the waves.
”There’s gonna be some flat days and some stormy days, and that has to be OK.” ~ Will Smith

Let's just have fun tonight!

Unfortunately Black women often have so many things they  are trying to juggle that it can sometimes become second nature to not smile or take a moment to say "hello." they miss out on  Fun THINGS that take a backseat when they’re fighting to pay bills, continue their  education and make a name for themselves in the corporate world. Because of this, some Black men believe that women of other races maintain a more light, airy “fun girl” approach to love in our adult years, which we  ultimately find more attractive, on some levels . We men  feel that after a while, black women   focus shifts from being the "fun girlfriend" to being more practical instead and solely concerned with insuring the house is clean, meals are made and children are taken care of. Those things are most important, of course, but remember that relationships need full-time nurturing and maintenance too.


Black women LOOK LIKE THEY CAN'T BE BOTHERED

why am I even here?

I've heard other men tell stories  about  Black women often come across as if they  don’t want to be bothered when they ’re out and about in public. Whether in a store or leaving the office, they  often appear more focused on what’s ahead or the next stop and not on meeting someone new.
Is there some truth to the perception that some of black women  can overlook a Black man or not be as uplifting because instead she thinks they need to have already arrived before they give  a man a chance? Some brothers seriously think so, and feel they've seen evidence of it early on within relationships. They often say they feel more supported by women of other ethnicity earlier on in their careers and during their college years.

Black Women are "MORE INHIBITED" SEXUALLY

Not tonight!

Often Black women have been raised to keep their poise and act like a lady at all times, especially in public and while under pressure. However, Black men tell us they love the freedom and ability to know their woman can be flexible and go with the flow in certain more spontaneous situations. And that may mean feeling comfortable enough to act out his wildest fantasies knowing he won’t be judged for asking. Hell he might just rejected completely. Black women are less likely to let a man run her life, including her sex life. she has to really be in the mood to let a man act spontaneous, so spur of the moment will not be happening.    



Black women WANT WHAT THEY WANT
When it comes to settling, they’re usually not the ones. If they've taken the time to work hard they often want someone with the same drive or better (he better be 6’1” or taller, attractive, have a minimum of a bachelor’s degree, God-fearing, and have passport will travel), and so often they would rather wait for this man who meets all of their requirements based on their achievements which is not always in abundance depending on where  they live. Is every single item on your list all that important? Maybe or maybe not. But it is something to think about.

YOUR  FRIENDLINESS IS OFTEN MISUNDERSTOOD

I want to take my time and get to know you 

If black women do say "hello" to a man, sometimes they  feel that the man automatically assume they want a romantic relationship with him whereas if a woman of another ethnicity says a random "hello," they wants to network, or plays the damsel in distress role he often feels less threatened and more willing to share. It’s really more their problem than the woman's, but unfortunately black women  often appear “desperate” even "thirsty" to men when they are being friendly because there’s an assumption that they’re always on the hunt for a husband. It’s sad, but true.