No relationship is perfect!

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Every marriage has its own set of problems or issues whichever way you may call it. However, the ability to solve those problems and leave them behind is what makes the marriage stronger. It is important to know that leaving these problems unchecked could go a long way in ruining the relationship.
The following are a few examples:

Holding grudges over minor annoyances

A stark reality occurs when you move in with your lover: Your swoon-worthy lover—the very same one you couldn’t wait to see every day—is suddenly also the person who leaves their damp towel on the floor or the bed,  and puts the empty milk carton back in the fridge. These minor irritations can grow into serious annoyances over time, leaving you far angrier than the situation warrants.

The simple Fix: The solution is simple, although that doesn’t necessarily mean that it’s easy to stick with: Don’t let anger over small things fester. Great couples learn not to let those little things distract from the major things, like love and commitment. That said, if you know it makes your partner nuts when you forget to clean the lint trap or empty the bathroom trash, try harder to remember to tackle these small tasks

Undervaluing your partner’s opinion

Most of us know that we’re not right all the time, but it can still be hard to really let ourselves value another person’s opinion with the same weight we give our own views. But respecting your partner’s opinion, and assuming that they’re acting out of the best intentions..... the worst...... important for a healthy relationship. If you believe your spouse’s intent is to make your life miserable, then you will most likely never have a good relationship. If you actively work to believe the best in someone, then it changes how you view what they do.

The simple Fix: Try to put yourself in your partner’s shoes. “I could radically change a relationship if couples are willing to do this more often. A lack of valuation not only causes conflicts, but can stall a couple’s overall progress. If couples do not feel loved and valued, they are less likely to engage in difficult topics from a collaborative perspective. We approach conversations with adversaries much differently than we do partners.

Tallying percentages

Most couples agree that labor, both physical and emotional, should be split fairly evenly between both partners in a relationship. But if you make it an obsessive proposition, worrying more about perfect equality than happiness, the relationship will suffer greatly.

The simple Fix: Break the habit of tallying up your contributions and comparing them to your spouse’s efforts. As long as no one feels taken advantage of, or like they’re doing the lion’s share of the work, there’s no need to count percentages. A better way to reach equality is to keep communicating honestly and make your own needs known.
Relationships require two willing participants who understand and accept that sometimes one needs! more than the other emotionally or sexually. There are days when he will need 95% of you and vice versa. As long as you get enough of what you need, it’s a good working relationship!