Foreplay is it really before?

Ooh LORD you are just too sexy when you sweat!

There is foreplay and there is just play and then maybe  replay.....
Men and women go through a series of  "What If(s)" which causes them to be in doubt constantly. When things become all about "What If(s)," you < pause> the actions to do the following for examples:
-What if... I had  not left home to go to a foreign/far away country to further my education, would I have been in a relationship with the girl/boy I grew up with?
Then maybe  I would not have...(fill in the blanks).
-What if I had not met what's his/her name.
-What if I had not fallen in love with that <wrong> person who seemed right at the time?
-What if I had not engaged in a sexual relationship so early, with  this  <wrong person.> Maybe I should had waited, okay, but you can't erase the experiences, it's now recorded in history!
-What if this relationship does not last long term. 
For-ever-after is a myth. Only time will tell if it was right or wrong. You can't fast forward and take a look at the end results. Like you sometimes may do while watching a recorded movie, or reading a story.
-What if I or the other person do a 180 degree turn after we have had an intimate relationship. My guess is.....that should be  considered  a "U turn" but you can't undo what you have experienced.
Am I ever going to get to the point when "what if(s)" will not matter as much as they do in the present time.
Here is a quick solutions to your dilemma:
Stop playing the  Games in your mind because these  "what if(s)" are just speculations about events  that have already happened or have not yet happened. If they have not happened yet, then you are just dreaming about them being a possibly of them happening. Overthinking what could, should, will not, can not, has no chance of happening, is self defeating...
Life is meant to be lived to the fullest. If you get stuck on the "what If(s)" you will most likely not be able to move forward from where you are right now.
Any psychoanalysis  who ask you questions.....Will triggering emotions that are tied to your past. They cause memories to come to the surface, causing you to rethink, overthink, in some cases have regrets. They will Cause your circuits to overload.
So what does this all have to do with foreplay, play or replay?
Well if it is not playing in your ears, in real time when your mind  start hearing a song, its foreplay when your mind starts imagining the "what if (s)." If I had not done this or that.... then this song would just be a song with no emotions, tied to it. If I played the song  during an intimate relationship then the song will trigger that feeling of happiness or unhappiness again and again. The <play> button you press will do either good or bad things in your mind, first. And it's always playing out in your mind before, during, or after the event.
So avoid overthinking, rethinking, regretting, or reliving the things you need to let go of.  Life is meant to be  played out in real time. Expect good things and they will happen, expect bad things and they will happen, by regretting all the things from your past, you will stay unhappy. Your what if(s) have caused you to overthink, rethink and you will avoid moving forward. So, skip ahead like your can do on a old school CD player from a few decades ago. Hit the play button  to enjoy life, in the current,  time. Hit Pause, if you have a need to reflect. The rewind button should be rendered inactive.  If you do that you will be much happier. Life can not be rewound.