She doesn't want to share with you what she has

 

Why did I not see you for who you were  from the beginning?

Many men wonder what happened to the mindset of a women who said their vows and then a few years later demands a divorce, as her values change. 

1. First the vows are not a contract. They are just words to the ears of the other person. 

2. If a woman want out of the marriage because of financials reasons then you know she had an agenda to take what you have, and deny you the opportunity to take anything she has. 

3. Many men who have some wealth will try to protect it from the women they choose to share his life with. The woman will only get what he will allow her to get if they spit, and nothing more. 

4. A contract written before the marriage is always a good idea if you (the man) have doubts that the relationship  will last. Most often it is driven by insecurities and lack of trust that the woman is sincere. 

5. The behavior of these spouses are often selfish, self serving. The behavior of some is based on “what’s in it for me,” I want more than my share, if you let me.. get access  I will take all and leave you out in the cold. 

6. Until death do us part, does not always mean physical death of one of you  in all cases. It often means until the death of the relationship. Which can happen at any point in time.

7. If a woman loves you unconditionally she will do all that she can to make things work, if not, she will dump you like you are yesterday's garbage. 

8. She will stop caring about you, unless she can’t really make it on her own then she will declear herself the first wife and therefore act like she is entitled to all that you have. 

9. Men who don’t really understand how a woman was raised will struggle to understand her cultural influences. Example if she was raised to get all that she can get out of you, that is what will motivate her to stick around until most of her needs are satisfied. 

10. Be aware of the ones who want to know about all that you have and all that they can get. They will fight to gain access to what you have. 

Her hand is on the man’s pocket while her focus is on the camera lense!

 This is her mindset on getting what she thinks is now hers!

Final thoughts

The term gold diggers is often mis-used as they refer to women. Why? Because these women do not dig for Gold, they wait until Gold has been discovered and dug up. They want the end product. Shiny and polished Treasures, not in its raw form, all cover with dirt needing to be processed. She wants to show off her shiny discoveries.

After I got divorced, I realized how cultures played an important role in how women acted in the beginning and how they acted in the end. I got hooked by a number of types. The first one that had 3 marriages, and was the woman that went after the men that were husbands to  women who were perceived to have the golden rings and want to be the trophy women that took the men away from the wives who had what she wanted.   

You got it right, dude, I’m now the queen Bee!