So now You know that being alone is NOT what you really wanted

There are women who have come out of long-term relationships like a marriage and are finding the dating scene a challenge — they're trying to find their way through Tinder and seeing all this dishonesty. 

So how long has it been since you became single?

Every so often we men may attend a social even and see a woman and think to ourselves “there is no way she  is single!” 

Our instincts tell us if she looks this good she must have a man. OK maybe she had one but she may not currently. Why do we assume that she must be in a relationship maybe because we feel that attractive women in their prime years will attract someone long term. Unless she is just rejecting every dude that  steps to her. 

This came to mind, as I started writing this blog post.

 

While on this  rollercoaster ride called “Life”

You have to take the good turns with the bad, 

Even smile when you’re sad, share love 

Appreciate what you’ve got and remember 

What you had.

Always forgive, but never forget. 

Learn from your mistakes, but never regret.

People change. Things go wrong. 

Just remember, the ride goes on,

Just hangon  you are strong!

This song was a song I remember from in the days when  I was growing up

The road is long, with  many winding turns that leads us to who knows where!

They say that faith is the ability to believe in things unseen. What if the thing you’ve never seen is love? Can you have faith in something you’ve never experienced? Can you hope to embody that thing you’ve never experienced without royally messing it up? Or delivering it badly? Because you’ve never experienced it, and you don’t really even know what it is, or how to do it? And what role does forgiveness play? After you have been hurt. To be able to forgive is to love in- spite of being hurt. But that implies that one must have experienced love to begin with, doesn’t it?

Final thoughts.

Single women maintain really strong friendship groups throughout the course of a lifespan so they have lots of people to rely on. Sometimes women stop believing there is the right person out there for them. They have been on so many dates with the wrong people, they just give up on the hunt.

Men, on the other hand  run the risk of becoming a little more isolated than women do, hence why a happy marriage can be a particularly protective move for men to meet their social needs.

People who have been scarred by a past relationship and aren't willing to put their heart on the line again.

People might have been abused or emotionally tormented … that needs a lot of deep exploration and sometimes they need to work through that with someone more experienced, like a psychologist, before coming into a new  relationship with someone like yours truly. Being willing to entertain  a new union, is almost always based on past experiences.