I Remember the good old saying from Alfred Lord Tennyson that stated "it was better to have loved and lost than for you to have never experienced love at all?" Love is a beautiful thing, but sometimes love isn’t enough. Many folks prefer to stay single rather than entering into a flaky committed relationship.
Do you prefer to live alone, or do you have issues from past relationships that make you feel uneasy about starting over? It’s estimated that 110.6 million Americans prefer a single life, according to the US Census Bureau.
There’s nothing better than having someone to snuggle up with on a cold winter night or to have someone to help carry your burdens in life. However, there are plenty of reasons why people don’t want to get married, and here are the most common ones.
Getting married for Love these days bends many of the old rules from years ago
There are way more women than men. so many women will have to be willing to share a man. Or just remain single.1. NO NEED TO SHARE MONEY
Money is always a big issue in a relationship. It’s no wonder that in places like the United Kingdom, an article posted in the Independent lists financial woes as the number one cause of marriages ending, and American statistics are similar. And in many other western countries also.
2. PREVIOUS BAD RELATIONSHIPS
Some folks choose to be single because they’ve already been there and done that when it comes to relationships. They have been burnt before, and they don’t decide to put themselves through the trouble again.
3. SEXUAL DYSFUNCTION
Sometimes, there are sexual issues that stem from abuse or medical issues. If a person feels that they cannot keep up in the bedroom, they may prefer to live a single life rather than hear complaints about it.
4. POOR SELF-ESTEEM
If you have poor self-esteem issues, you may not be interested in looking for someone. Sure, love can happen when you least expect it, but you’re not putting yourself out there where you can meet and mingle with other singles.
5. POOR DATING SKILLS
Some people don’t know how to find a love interest. They have poor dating skills, and they don’t know how to improve them. These are often people that put little effort into finding someone because they are socially awkward.
6. FREEDOM WHEN YOU’RE NOT COMMITTED TO ONE PARTNER
When you’re not tied down with someone, you have freedom of choice. But you run the risk of developing preferences.There are no arguments if your plans differ, and you call the shots. To a strong and independent person, freedom is everything.
7. FEAR OF REJECTION
There’s always the fear that if you put yourself out there that you will be rejected. If you’ve experienced rejection before, the fear of this happening again may be too much for you to handle.
8. WORK AND CAREER DRIVEN
( today's careers can demand very much of a person) Some people are married to their job. They have what it takes to be a good partner, but they don’t want to bring someone into their life because of their career. This is often seen in doctors, lawyers, and other high-power positions that require so much of a person’s life it leaves little time for other things.
9. ADDICTIONS
If you have a substance abuse issue, you might not be in the right frame of mind to have a relationship. You may prefer a fling on occasion, but your addiction is the driving force in your life right now. You know that being committed is not in the imminent future for you until you conquer your addiction.
10. THEY ALWAYS PICKS THE “LOSER.”
Have you ever heard the term “loser magnet?” Some women feel that they always attract those individuals that are going nowhere and have nothing to offer.
Final thoughts
I overheard two pretty lesbians arguing about marrying eachother. One was OK with getting married while the other said "I will date another lesbian but I will not marry one." " I believe marriage is for a man and a woman! I want children, so I need someone from the opposite sex to make that happen.This is from the bible." She was adamant about her beliefs.
Honestly I was totally surprised when I heard it. I have seen more gay men marrying eachother and they have tryed to adopt children as a gay couple, Lesbians may marrying eachother, but they might not want to get pregnant by a sperm donor.
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