The pro answers to a question are simple!

I'm a guy who has been looking for the right kind of woman since my divorce, for a while now. NO I'm not crazy. OK maybe I am a little crazy, but the more I think about the possibilities I think this could be what I've been looking for. But maybe I could be wrong!

First allow we to give you a little history. I was married for a long time.  during my marriage I decided to become a self-employed consultant as an IT-Analyst and Software designer/architect... My wife at the time supported the idea, because I made a lot more money 4 times what she made. But this was not her idea of security. It didn't cause our divorce but it put a heavy burned on it for many years. when I worked on projects that paid very well she was happy but when I sometime took too long (in her mind ) to find a new contract, it caused stress between us. I figured it out maybe to late.. that she liked the idea of me taking calculated risk but she was not willing to take  any... she liked the steady income of a  9-5 even though she never worked those hours, her hours were more like 6am- 3pm.

Reginald F.  Lewis books.

You see my ex-wife did not take the time to  read this book, and I did, this made me take risks she would never take!

Most entrepreneurs are crazy. so why explore the possibility of dealing with another entrepreneur who is also crazy? The pro answer are simple:

·          You are Being crazy together. It's no secret that entrepreneurs need to be a bit cracked in the head; otherwise, why would we start our won businesses when 50% fail in the first year?

·         Networking. Aside from always having a much-needed companion on my arm at networking events, we both benefit from the connections that we make.

·         Piggybacking. Being an entrepreneur means being scrappy and trying to leverage what's at our fingertips. so taking advantage of each other's businesses, can be a big advantage.

·         Motivation. Your motivated and she's motivated You don't let the other one get down if things are going right!

·         A built-in writing buddy. There is no question in my mind that women write better than men. I proved this years ago when My girl friend in College would correct all of my turn-papers and improved then 100 % 

But Maybe the con answers are also simple:

·         slow times  problems: when things are slow for both your businesses it can be tough on your relationships, but if you take time off together and go on vacation it could be sweet, just kick back and forget about your troubles.

Chilling in Anguilla in the winter can be Oooh so good for any relationship

I’ve always been a strong believer in that age-old saying, “What you believe, so you shall be.” One’s beliefs and thoughts about themselves and the world around them can dictate their steps and how they interact with and impact the world.
I was always taught growing up that it’s not about what someone says or does to you but what you think and do for yourself. Thus, if you believe you can do something, and you turn that belief into action, you will do it.
True, there are some things many of us can’t yet fathom being possible or happening in our lives. But having a mindset that welcomes the unknown and laughs in the face of the “You can’ts” and “You won’ts” has gotten me a lot further in my career and life than one that embraces “That’s not possible.”
There are amazing athletes who have trained their minds to believe they can do something and then went further to train their bodies to fall in line. Well, what if you could train your mind to facilitate success?

Female career burnout, what's causing it?



Are you a Gen-Y female who’s already feeling burned out? You’re not alone. Not by a long shot.
Go ahead and add this to the list of reasons that being a 20-something isn’t all that much fun. Turns out Gen-Y women are at a greater risk of developing a host of mental health issues that their male counterparts — and those generations before them. And this may be due in large part to their waning confidence in the workplace.
More than a quarter of Millennial women say they’ve never discussed promotions or career development with their bosses, while nearly half say they feel that there are a lack of career opportunities available to them, according to data compiled a recent study on women in the workplace conducted by Accenture.
This data drives home a common refrain we’ve seen for young women in business — particularly those who are in STEM careers: Gen-Y women see bleak career opportunities, lose confidence and run for the hills. Another recent report showed that while elementary school girls actually tend to outperform boys in math and science, many are weeded out of those classes by high school, with 10th grade girls reporting far lower levels of confidence than they did when they were younger.
The solution? Advocate more for yourself. That is, if you’re not already exhausted.

a quick story: Now things like this might be what adding to your stress......Guy and Ms. Jackson first noticed each other while working for a large telecommunications company in Dallas, Texas. Guy was a mid-level executive in charge of running an IT support team, while Ms.. Jackson  worked as a technology analyst. The two worked together for about two years within the same group, but never in a superior/subordinate capacity.
Guy personally acknowledged his immediate attraction to Ms.. Jackson , but made a decision not to pursue her to be in compliance with the code of ethics regarding workplace relationships. He didn’t want to risk his job and career in pursuit of the unknown, but had a special feeling about Ms.. Jackson .
The two were able to build a solid rapport in casual work interaction, and on special projects within their group. Even through their arms-length relationship, there was an ever-increasing curiosity in the minds of both.
One day, Guy and Ms.. Jackson  agreed to go out after-hours for coffee, which kicked-off the process of developing a friendship. Keeping the personal interaction discrete during the early stages is what Tammy attributes as one of the keys to their success. They were able to learn about one another without the external involvement from others in the department.

Decisions regarding workplace relationships take place every day  in many countries. I can personally think of a number of happily married couples who met in the workplace. Including yours truly. However, I can also think of a number of disaster experiences when two people try to nurture and maintain relationships initiated in the workplace.
Mixing business and pleasure has pros and cons. However, it is up to two responsible adults to make wise decisions along the way so they don’t jeopardize their careers or disrupt harmony in the workplace.
Have you ever faced this situation? Is mixing business and pleasure worth the risk?
It can be complicated but it can be worth it, if you get it right!

So you are looking for Mr. Right!

You might have to settle for "Mr. Right now on the spot  and  available!" he might be righteous

 

A woman posted this picture on  Facebook and it made me think, what are women really looking for these days in a man?

 

 

As we are counting down the days to the end of the year. Many who have had less than fantastic relationships are thinking Where, ooh where  is Mr. Right?

  

 

Here is one mother that is protecting her son from himself and the money loving young women he will meet in the NBA.

Michael Carter-Williams transition into the NBA wasn't  long. In his first game with the Philadelphia 76ers, he finished with 22 points, 12 assists, 9 steals, 7 rebounds and just one turnover in 36 minutes, in the season-opening victory over the Miami Heat. His nine steals were an NBA record for a rookie in his first game. But his transition to making millions is something his mother wanted to make sure didn't take the 22-year-old by storm.

According to the Philadelphia Inquirer, Carter-Williams' mother, Mandy Carter-Zegarowski, along with her best friend, Traci Tracy, who function as his management team, put his entire rookie salary into a trust that he can't touch for three years, ensuring that Carter-Williams will not be a NBA flame-out, at least financially.

Carter-Williams' rookie contract guarantees him $4.5 million over his first two seasons. He could make a total of $10 million if the Sixers pick up the final two seasons of his contract, according to the Philadelphia Inquirer.

But Carter-Williams' wallet isn't empty. The point guard still has Nike and Panini trading cards endorsement money to blow. So he has a few million Dollars and Mom says grow-up before You can spend it. This is exactly how I think parents should protect their talented sons and daughters. 

As New Year's Eve approaches many women will lurking in the bushes like predators waiting for unsuspecting men  who may not see them coming.

Did you ever wish that you had a way of knowing how to get the most out of life?

 The  Man’s Guide to Life.
Check out his tips on how  men can keep it real.
1) Hit The Road, Jack
There’s only one way to become a man of the world. Listen, man: your lack of a passport is not the right business. Neither is having an empty wallet. In fact, for the ultimate lesson in code switching, don’t just get out of your neighborhood; leave the country. Nothing gets your grown-man card punched like venturing so far from home that you need a new language just to ask for toilet paper. It also informs you about the larger World in ways that staying close to home never can. The perspective you’ll gain from say, spending J’ouvert morning dancing through the streets of Port of Spain (that Trinidad if you don't know where that is, look it up) or a few nights in surprisingly modern Tripoli or touring museums in Paris just can’t be rivaled in familiar environs.
 Travel brings other advantages: “If you look at any travel group, anywhere, it’s always 70 to 80 percent women and 20 percent men. I don’t know what the reason is for that, but I know it’d be different if you saw how the women react when they do see men traveling in their circles.”

A righteous man ain’t perfect, but he does his best.

There ain’t nothing like being a righteous man. Not just be a man by accident of birth, pigmentation and gender-assigning chromosomes. A righteous man—unapologetically confident about defining manhood  for himself and never ashamed to claim it in mixed company. He’s OK with knowing that maleness is both hard work and a dangerous occupation in World today.  Manhood knows struggle from birth to the campaign trail, public school to the Ivy League, from ashy to classy. It is also knows the triumph in getting’ over, busting loose, and in becoming. It means that even as the rest of the world steals our flow, we can and will always just create the next new thing, because by the time the larger culture sees fit to co-opt our trend, we were already done with it anyway. On to the next.

So Who is your Santa?

2) Cash Rules
Every man needs to keep his money on his mind. There won’t be any weekend jaunts to St. Tropez if the money’s funny. Staying on top of your finances is what makes everything else around you tick; after all, what’s the point of working every day with nothing to show for it? Although a Pew Research study stated that as many as 40 percent of mothers are now the breadwinners in their households, that doesn’t mean men or women have let go of the idea that we need to be able to hold our own at the bank to be worth our salt.
Put another way: A fringe benefit of making sure your financial house is in order is that it gives you a leg up with ladies who are interested in working with a brother to build something for the future. But whether you’re single or partnered, you need to know how to budget, save and invest. Tips on how to get your financial house in order can be found in the November issue of EBONY.
So you see ladies Mr. Right might be A righteous Dude, but you might have to go and find him on the beach somewhere other than where you live.

Watch out for the EYE of the tiger.



It takes a Village or at least 10 advisors to assist a good woman

Several years ago a woman asked my advise on some issues. I gave her my B.A.D advise, then I started thinking... She needs  more way to get advise than what I can give her... because I  can only give her advise from Man's perspective.

so here is my top 10 problem solvers:

1.      The "elder" Stateswoman. she's got 7 to 10 years on you, and those few years give her an insight to your life that is priceless.. However she's young enough to remember how she was at your age, and old enough to help you sidestep unnecessary drama, especially when it comes to dealing with work and/ or men. whatever advice she gives, 99% of it turns out to be right on time.

2.      A Lady Problem Solver. You have a good reputation and some common sense, but every now and then a situation occurs when using them doesn't solve a problem quickly. You can't be caught acting a fool, but she doesn't care and is willing to take the heat. When you're at a party , if another woman is flirting with your date, she will handle it. When you find out your man is cheating. She's  willing to confront the woman  (even though it's not really the woman's fault.)  Do you have a beef, she will ask, " Do I need to come up there?" (the correct answer is NO.) Whenever there is drama. she's got your back.

3.      The  "All the way Turned  UP" Friend. She's not your day-to-day friend because you're grown with a real job and, let's face it, too old to be in the club every night with her. But when you need to plan your birthday party, your bachelorette party, your get-over-an-ex-party, she knows where to go--- and she knows the doorman and the manager, whenever that is necessary. She's never a dull moment on vacation, but you can't talk those details- what happened in Vegas  (or on the beach at Orient Bay in SXM) stays your and her secret.

4.      The "To the Lord in Prayer" friend. You remember her when she was " all the way turned up," but now she can't finish a sentence without  referencing the Bible. And despite her past, she can be really judgmental. that combination drives you crazy when you're just trying to " do you." But when you're down and out and have nowhere else  to turn, she will pray with you and of r you. And surprisingly, it helps.

5.      A Platonic Male Friend. Sure, you could just go to a blog and get male insight, but a lot- not all- of male dating and relationship bloggers are just in it to meet more women, or are just plain trouble makers. You need someone who is, a.) not trying to see you socially b) and is going to analyze your problem and give you the insight he would give his sister or his daughter. This is where you will find  genuine advice.

6.      The "keep it 300" Friend. She's the friend people are referencing when they see a woman looking crazy in the street and say ."Dang she don't have any friends?" If you're not sure about your new hair color, you send her a pic and she'll tell you if it works. You want to know if you should give a guy you're dating another chance? She'll break down the relationship history. You want to know if you look fat in your dress? She'll tell you the truth. Utilize her liberally.

7.      A Happy Married Friend. If  you want to be married, and especially if you didn't grow up with married parents, you need to be around someone who can keep it real with you about ups and downs of modern relationships and how to make one work. It requires patience sacrifice and a whole lot of communication, and even goes dancing with her husband on weekends, which is easier in theory that in application. she shows you how to do it right.

8.      The VAULT. If she wasn't with you on that vacation with the " all the way turned up" friend, you broke the rules and told her about the trip. She knows your deepest, darkest secrets, including that one time you did X,  Y and Z that you would take to your grave, except you already told her because she's the exception to the  rule. You trust her because when you ask about other people's business, she shrugs and says, "I don't know." When the secret comes out years later, you found out she knew the day it happened. She might even have been there.. But never talked about it.

9.      The Instigator. She's unapologetically messy, but it can work in your favor. You have too much pride to follow your ex on social media, but this friend will gladly do so and report back what he's up to. she knows all the gossip, from who said what about you to who has " a beef" with you. You think you know, but only she has any idea.

10.  The" I know Someone (who Knows someone)" friend. she 's similar to your "all the way turned up" friend, but with much better connections.  You apply for your dream job- she knows someone (who knows someone.) You need to hook up your dad with floor seats to a game for his birthday? she knows someone (who knows someone) on the team.  You need a hookup for a last-minute vacation? she knows someone (who knows someone) who can get you and upgrade at the hotel.

Okay I might have a few more friends who serve other purposes , but 10 is enough friends... Trust me The BAD friends I've had over the years have good and Bad  habits I can talk about in other blog posts in the future.

The Era of the Black Woman's appeal , is it NOW or has it past?

 

 

While the vast majority of  people of Color  I know date/marry other  people of color, I personally know more black women my age with white boyfriends/husbands, these days than black men my age with white girlfriends/wives…and I bet some of you do too. 

Actually, for me, using “more” is somewhat misleading because, well, I don’t know many. I mean, I know they exist. I occasionally hear about them on NPR,  I’ve seen one or two  and apparently this is all the new  rage out West in California, but I do not personally know any urban, educated, and employed black guys—basically, bougie black guys like myself—who date white women(anymore.) Not one, Okay I stand corrected my best friend from my childhood days is the exception.

But, I know at least 10 black women with those traits who are currently dating or married to white men, because they say we Black men don't want Black women...

I’m not pointing this out because I think this is a bad thing. Or a good thing. Or an inbetween thing. It’s just a thing I’ve noticed…

I'm showing some pics of some sisters that have been catching my eye lately on Social Media.

You tell me... am I not seeing fineness to the Max or what?

The curves of a Black woman is second to none!

The sexy full lips of a Black woman is Oh, sooo inviting!

The dark eyes of Black woman tells so many stories! You have to be willing to read her.

Okay now I'm reaching for the stars, she can be flexible just as long as you treat her right!

Her playful side can be all fun and games, just as long  you don't play her for a fool!

She will not turn her back fully on you!

 

 

In my book these are enough reasons for me to be a lover of  Color

 

Color always stands out in a crowd!

And trust me this is all good.

click here: Historic beauty fights racial prejudice
 

 



Why are you confused.... He is just not interested in You!

That's right... Get a Clue:if he is constantly texting someone  while he is with you or  He's not calling back, He's not into you!
So you are interested in a guy, but he's inconsistent in calling and texting you. Usually, when you call or text, You don't get a response, but the You see that he's using Social Media, regularly. You should take that to mean he's not interesting. But whenever You fall back, he starts to contact you again. He's playing games. You may like him but is he really interested in You??

I hate to be the one to break this B.A.D news to you. he's just not interested. I know, I know. He 's calling every now and then, and that's supposed to be a clear sign that he's into you. But since he is not consistent, and equally important, he only appears to be into you when you're not showing that you are into him. Both are red flags.

I wish I could recall which of my friends who pointed out the difference between a man being interested and a man wanting to feed his ego. That guy has saved me from countless dating headaches with priceless advice that I am now passing on to you.
You see we sometimes, as guys think if we play games, woman will make all the mistakes and fall for us... But games can back fire... big time.

So you see  Ladies: When a man is interested, he just is. He calls, he spends time, he woos and puts in consistent effort because he genuinely likes you. This pic as a good morning note with a rose as Facebook message would be my style, if I really like a woman.

But some guys are operating off ego. If he were actually interested, he wouldn't run hot then cold all the time. He would be answering your calls or responding to your text  consistently, instead of procrastinating on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook. This guy does, however, want you to want him, which shouldn't be confused with him wanting you.
He gets a kick out of you calling and texting and reaching out. When he looks at the screen and then ignores you, he feels wanted and powerful that he can make the choice to brush you off. He only picks up the phone to call when you stop contacting him because it's a blow to his ego that you are losing interest. He does just  enough to get back in your good graces and then pulls the same trick.

The only man who is  more frustrating to you ladies is this other type of guy,  he is the one who is really into you, but then just one day pulls a disappearing act where he never calls and never responds to any of your calls - until months pass, then he texts you to say: "What's up?"  like he just saw you yesterday. If that guy is a level 10 on the frustration meter, then the guy you're dealing with that pretends to like you  is also playing , "I know you want me" games is a 9.5. Maybe the game that women play when they flirt have caused some guys to use reverse  logic. I will play you before you play me!

Know that this doesn't end well for you and that if you want these games to stop, you have to stop participating in them. that means stop answering the phone when he calls. Stop responding to his texts and/or emails. Also stay off his social media pages as cyber-lurking never helped anyone to get over anyone else. And most importantly stop playing your game!

Sometimes the most obvious things are the things we do not see!

So who is a good man,  from your perspective? "

Is it a dude that will organize a private romantic dinner on the beach? That's a Romantic, not necessarily "a good man."

 

When a man is considered "good". funny how differently this is understood, or should I say --- mis-understood.

To a man, he is "a good man" if he works everyday and takes care of his responsibilities, it has nothing to do with how he reacts emotionally, but it's not the same for a woman, you see " good" means  "all of it", including personality.

Why is a "good" man often a lame man, follows the crowd, easy to tame and takes no real stand on  your drama issues?

He Works faithfully at making his mate happy, always gives, never takes, but he has no personality, everyone's ideal man, but  He also blows  with the breeze, when off pops the drama, he runs to his momma, a woman wants security, a soldier in the face of the enemy, not a momma's baby!

Okay good men where are thou? Try Looking in the restaurants, all are too fat, this club has too many members. most women don't want these guys, but they might be good men!!!

Your church boys have a lame mindset. Then there is the  guy who is Moving too fast out on the jet set, hanging in the studio? Not a good bet! She does not want to get husstled, so she declare that she doesn't like that  kind of dude either,  can woman really trust a guy that is in and out of  the courthouse a  man that  is a regular defendant---- Jorge Zimmerman type. What about on the Internet (social media?) The pic looks good, but who's that? Is he real? Not giving up yet, just tell them, fellas, where you all at?

Ladies, let me say this, a good man is nothing to play with, if you're a good woman, you'll stay with him, hold  on to him. He'll be good to you and your kids,  just don't be a witch (with a B), expect a K.I.S.S dude, he will not diss you, there is something you might miss, that is not on the list. Do You want romance or a good man? Close your eyes and make a wish, chances are he will not be both good and romantic all the time.

 Good men, where did you go wrong? You do everything right, still she says you're the wrong one for her. It's Not enough that you provide a good home , she will keep fussing at you for no good reasons, she is hard to get along with (because you are not her firs choice, but who she settle for.) You wake up one day and she's gone, she leaves a note " you are a good man but you lack this or that, so with all your good efforts it is not enough to keep love going, how much affection you didn't show(these are listed by date and time,) what kind of seeds are you sowing, the reltionship is stagnant no longer growing...

It's all because of the roles these guys play in the movies, no real man can live up to filling  these  shoe sizes!

Hell will freeze over, if we guys  can ever fit the profile of a woman's version of a good man..... Maybe it's best to be a dude with B.A.D. initial that works hard at doing good things... Maybe not.

 

 

So what caught your attention when you first saw her?

"Just one look is worth a thousand words." I believe I heard that somewhere. We are sure you would agree that female body is the most loveliest things that has ever been created by God. The female body is elegant and sophisticated, beautiful and soft. You want to look at it, touch it, caress it…But have you ever given it a thought what makes it so desirable and attractive to a man? You might say there is no definite answer, and you will be right..   You might find large breasts highly appealing to you, while your friend might be attracted by long legs or slim waist. But there is no doubt that regardless of the woman’s overall body size and weight, a slim waistline between curvy hips and prominent breasts makes a woman very appealing to any man. Studies have been done to calculate the most appealing waist to hip ratio and you will be surprised but as it has turned out that the ratio has not changed much throughout the centuries. The studies have shown that men prefer women with a waist to hip ratio. between 0.68-0.72. Women with the ratio within this limits are perceived as being more attractive, feminine and reproductively capable. Most Russian and Ukrainian
women have the ratio of 0.7 which is probably one of the many reasons why they are so popular and desirable all over the world!  (mainly in strip clubs....)

So what part of a woman’s body is most appealing to you?

 

 You have to get very close to see the details of a woman’s face, but you can see the shape of her body from 500 feet, and it says more about your matting desires and her figure makes her  a perfect mate with her perfect shape.

Between waist and breasts there is also a very appealing part of the female body that is unfortunately often overlooked and underestimated by men. But we recommend to look closely at the pictures and you will not help noticing how attractive, sexy and sensual woman’s back can be…My simple Analysis is that  Men who instantly judge a woman based on her looks are simply following their survival instincts,.

 Is there anyone else in the world who find women’s lips as sexy as I do? What we often see when we are close enough  to her is that the lips are  a major attraction in their own right.
So you see we men define women as appealing in more ways than one.

We Men take a fraction of a second to decide if we  are attracted to a woman or not – but we should not be called shallow because we are genetically programmed to do so, scientists say. Men weigh up potential partners almost instantaneously based on their appearance because our "ancient" genetic preference for attractive mates leads us to, experts claim.

According to research, a woman with an attractive face is taken by men to be fertile and able to continue the family line, appealing to the man's survival instinct.

In contrast women take longer to decide their feelings for a man because they need to weigh up whether he will be a committed partner who will provide for them well – part of their survival programming.  Scientists tested men and women's bias towards looks by conducting a series of tests on 20 women and 20 men, making them perform tasks while recording their brain activity. 

Men are easily distracted when we see a pretty face but women stick to the task, of evaluating.
Men definitely have the most wandering eye but it is because we have evolved to pay attention to cues of fertility and one of those cues is facial beauty –women will think that men are shallow.
"But we do make snap judgments about women, much earlier than was previously thought. We make that decision on whether a woman would be a good mating partner in milliseconds. So I repeat: Men who instantly judge a woman based on her looks are simply following their survival instincts.  
This is something very ancient and a way of helping men find the best mate to produce children.
 Women are not distracted by attractive male faces because women need more proof of whether a man is a good mate.
 Women make that decision on behavior, whether a man is trustworthy and committed. They make their decision much later than men. 

 

Are you a GOOD WOMAN or just a BEAUTIFUL WOMAN ?

Most women don't  start out  as a GOOD WOMAN, but over  years some learn how to become one. So allow me to list my TOP 10 Characteristics of a Good Women.

Now this is not my view of a Good woman!

• Sexually Inclined- Every man wants a lady in the streets and a freak between the sheets. She has no problem with taking her sexual relationship to greater heights WITH HER MAN. She will rock his world in every sexual way imaginable, leading to a NOSE WIDE OPEN. She is not ashamed to express her sexual appetite and explore new sexual adventures.
• Good Listener /Knows when to be Quiet- We all know women have got to have the last word as well as they always have something to say, well most do. So here's the thing, when your man is talking, be quiet and LISTEN, don't interrupt us, listen attentively and respond respectfully. Choose your arguments carefully and of course speak when you are spoken to. When you know you are wrong, just hold your tongue and apologize. The one thing that will drive any man crazy is a woman's mouth and the lashing of her tongue. Be gentle, your tongue is not heavy, so you should be capable of holding it. speak softly if you are insulting... I might not hear you.
• Faithful- No need to elaborate too much on this one, NO MAN wants a cheating or disloyal woman and that is simply bad behavior. When a woman cheats, more than likely he will leave. The thought of another man touching my WOMAN, is a NO, NO. So Ladies, if you feel the need to cheat, just leave, go be single. Not to mention that's a sign of not being ready for commitment. Being Faithful  is a characteristic every man wants in his woman. You can't say "all men cheat" and believe that women should do what you deem as low down dirty man thing.
• Supportive- Men have dreams just as women do and we need support, maybe his dream is not yours but a Good Woman would support her man, whether he fails or not. It's not all about HIM supporting YOU in the relationship, it's GIVE and TAKE, we needs to know that when all else fails, you will be there to support us. I don't mean support him as in, TAKE CARE OF HIM, but have his back, make sure we comes home to a supportive woman, who will help us wind down, from a hard day or simply tell us, "I got you baby."

• Patience-  A Patient woman is one who has the ability to wait for her man when he says "he will take care of it" Now, I know most women are  not that great at this one, but hey I'm not perfect so I can't expect you to be. At any rate, no man wants a woman who rushes him, or is always in a hurry, or cant' wait a few moments or day or two to get something done. Also a patient woman understands nothing happens on her accord.
• Motivator- Most men appreciate a woman who has the ability to motivate us towards success, not only that, some men need a push here and there to give them a kick-start in areas where they may not be as strong. So if you notice your man/spouse has the ability to achieve greatness and just needs some motivation, help him, encourage him to reach for the stars and definitely do not degrade him.
• God-Fearing- A God Fearing woman understands her role in a relationship and yes we all have one. She understands that GOD has power and control over not only her life but also realizes keeping HIM at the forefront will lead to a happy and healthy relationship. A GOD Fearing woman is one who knows there are rules to follow in a marriage according to GOD and she will not dare defy her father, in turn she maintains balance in her relationship. Get to know GOD and understand his way of life where a marriage is concerned.
• Respectful- No man wants a disrespectful woman, this relationship will end quickly. Learn to respect your man's wishes, thoughts, dreams and ambitions. if you disrespect the man you say you love, he will no longer have love for you. Learn to humble yourself and diffuse situations that you may readily be tempted to lash out.
• Confident/Secure- A confident woman is a sure woman, she will not accuse her man of doing everything under the sun. Her self-worth leads her to a secure mind and with that, she knows it would be his lost if he betrays her. She also has no need to question his every where-about since she has a life to lead herself. She is sure of her role as well as being a GREAT woman. She will not cause unnecessary stress to herself or her relationship on false pretenses and a wondering mind.
• Forgiving- It's difficult to be a part of any relationship and not have a Forgiving Heart. To hold onto pain is to hold anger in your heart, so how can you love or be a GOOD WOMAN with an UNFORGIVING HEART.  A Forgiving Heart is necessary since we know men make mistakes...now I'm not speaking of, habitual cheaters, abusers, etc....Common mistakes in relationships, like maybe he came home to late and didn't call or, forgot it was your birthday or your anniversary, those are situations that needs to be forgiven. Also, IF your man CHEATS, and you decide to stay with him, the ultimate GOAL is to FORGIVE him, not PUNISH him, otherwise, end the relationship, because you both will be miserable.

There is a difference between a keeper and hump-able one nightstand

OK, so what is the difference? Ask most men and we will tell you, our versions may differ a bit, but every man knows that when he meets a woman if she is a one time or maybe a few times hump-able  encounter or a Keeper. Women on the other hand have trouble figuring it out.... if women want to be equal here is where she can move ahead of her girlfriends.... experience the hump-able dude, but don't try to turn him into a keeper.
A man knows if she is a keeper his tenderness lets her know! She should be able to sense if he is sincere or not! 

The most frustrating thing for all of us is not being able to have the option to keep who we think we  want. So ladies here are a few pointers: I will show why a man will make a speedy decision  on which woman meets his needs as "a Keeper."  A woman who reads during her idle time always has my admiration instantly. Why?  because I love smart women who expand their minds... If She reads and discusses things on an intellectual level she is a 'Keeper'!
Why? you may ask is a book or Kindle reader a woman that a man would want  her to become a Keeper... Simple men of the 21st century want smart woman, who maybe able to go from the bedroom to the boardroom. Earning her own money or starting a business or helping her man start and keep a business dream he has going. Making the relationship a collaboration of two people who can work together and establish a future they will both can enjoy.

On the other hand we might spot someone in the club and decide she is a one time shot...but the next morning or the next time she comes to my place I might be asking myself :why  in heavens name  did I do this? Hump-able but "not a Keeper"... We maybe like sexy and lots of junk in the trunk and all that, but we want her to be a partner that can function on multiple levels. not just a smoking hot bedroom partner. 

A man also know if she is  just hump-able! If she only can   cook by heating up TV-dinners in the Microwave then she is most likely 'not a Keeper'

Another example:

So you buddy invites you to pool party and tells  you that there will be  many women to pick from. All you have to do show up.     

 
A dude will look at these two young ladies' shoes and decide which one is a keeper and which on he wants to see perform on the pole at the club. Now that might sound like he is judging her without meeting her and having at least a conversation with her first. Just look, some women can tell you a lot about themselves just by what they wear, and with their body language.

Whereas women will dream about getting with the character they saw in the movies. So if a guy knows the lines by heart he could fake being a "Keeper" while he is really just hump-able... So ladies it always about how a man acts... that makes you believe that he is the one you want... guess what if he is a good actor he will be acting for more than just you. Just like in the movies. He will be juggling his roller deck to pick the one for the night.

We all have fantasies. that we will have a strong flexible partner.  However being too flexible or too strong may also be a problem.