Sex isn't just about gratification, it also for overcoming inhibitions, conquering fear and shame on behalf of a shared pleasure.

 I found myself explaining this caption to my new lady friend,one night.

Stay with me, guys: This preamble was meant to lead to a list—our goals—that I wanted us to write together.  Women and men should discuss their wants and  their needs, and their apprehensions. See, we had fallen into a routine, as couples. Now, I'm not a sex therapist, but I will suggested this experiment as a way to break folks out of their sexual ruts. I couldn't just assail my lady friend  with such a list. We needed to have a discussion. So I  will do  what any man would not do with out having sex on their mind: I will go out and buy a nice bottle of wine for a moment of letting our hair down... the purpose is to discuss.How to let our sex life become more fulfilling to both partners. start the list with sentence: Sex isn't just  about gratification, it also for overcoming inhibitions, conquering fear and shame on behalf of a shared pleasure. 

I could  cooked my lady a gourmet meal, with plenty of spices to facilitate drinking. Pretty soon the wine will be  gone and we could  retire to the boudoir, but will not... instead we will take pencil to paper. Then I will suggest, as casually as possible, that we make a few erotic resolutions. And with that we will sit down, compared our lists, and uncorked a second bottle.

Many of the “rules” concerning relationships tend to over-generalize—and play up the guilt factor—by suggesting that all couples should be doing X to be successful. However, each relationship is different, so the advice rarely applies to everyone. With this in mind, here are ten bendable rules to get you from dating to settling down and beyond, while also strengthening the other important bonds in your life.

Withhold physical contact to keep him wanting more.Talk about outdated (and sexist). This rule relies on the idea that women should play games with men in order to keep them interested—NOT  “give them what they want” too early. While some men may lose respect for women eager to jump into this aspect of a relationship,recent research from the University of Iowa shows that having sex early on doesn't destroy a budding relationship between those who are looking for a committed relationship.

ladies: You should have girls’ night once a week. We all know a woman who drops her friends the moment she gets into a relationship, and most would agree that this behavior is unhealthy. But making time with the ladies mandatory takes the fun out of it. Planning a bigger event, like just-us-girls weekend getaway, can be more effective than trying to meet a quota.

Friday night has to be date night. Similarly, setting strict rules on when you spend your time with your guy won’t do your relationship any favors. Unless you already have set plans on the night in question, don’t whine to your boyfriend, “But Friday’s date night,” if he tells you he wants to hit up the driving range or grab a beer after work with his buddies. Remember: quality over quantity.

Don’t move in together until you’re engaged. This rule is based on the old-fashioned notion that no man will buy the cow when he can get the milk for free. While cohabitating used to be labeled as a precursor to divorce down the road, the most recent research on the topic, from the National Center for Health Statistics, shows that couples who lived together first have almost the same success rate as those who waited to move in until after they tied the knot.

Now to my to do list:
Erotic Massage
I will kick things off. "We need to do more massages,"  I hope she will agree. But honestly, I am hoping she'd start with something involving a buxom dominatrix. Massage, to me, has always been a kind of sweet but exhausting form of foreplay.

The edge of petulance in my tone of voice. We men and women speak different languages when it comes to foreplay ans sex.  but we both  look forward to Two words: "happy ending."

Develop a Magic Touch
Ask her where she likes to be massaged and focus on those areas first. Then steer her toward your own hot spots. Sexual satisfaction for men is often tied to the level of affectionate touch we  receive. women are the same it that sense..... I believe. maybe not!

Outdoor Sex
My first suggestion I might make is that we have sex outside. I had in mind a very public place, like the N.Y Grand Central station. The danger of getting caught, the adrenaline surge, a cool breeze on naked flesh in the winter—I could see it all, right now. Ooh hell you only live once!








Last but very important:  We need to agree that we will not scheduled date nights at the  same old venue anymore, this will come to feel a bit too safe, and mundane. Take turns coming up with new exciting things to do together that leads to passion and amazing intimacy! This is new the word intimacy---- scares us men.. Our hearts start racing, because we will put in work in our minds that will not lead to sex... What's the point? We need to realize that the fun is in the Journey which may  lead to sex... but maybe not! Just think about the fun you have on a roller coaster ride, and when it ends you  don't have sex right after that, but maybe you should, because you heart is still racing. So have sex ( with some good foreplay) and keep replaying the ride in both of your  minds  as you enjoy the ride of  Amazing sex.... Check you heart rate after and make sure you can do that again without killing yourself.  Picture reliving this journey of loop after loop while you are having passionate sex, in both your minds, each loop causes anticipation that you both will  experience at the same times. Hey! Maybe  I will create a video game that will let you do a visual 3-D of this experience during sex... LOL. some folks will get lost in the video game and forget to perform...