“Nothing’s wrong, I’m fine”

One of the major issues couples typically complain about (mainly women)  is communication. Everyone knows men and women have very different communication styles. It’s still obvious that women are from Venus (XXchromosome) and men are from Mars (Y chromosome) and that we all speak different love languages. Quite naturally this causes confusion.

Do you really care about what I'm saying!

While women are sometimes the initiators and are naturally more prone to communicate with their partner, there still appears to be a disconnect in what you  sometimes communicate about. Men, although we  may be open to listening, we aren’t usually eager to ask more clarifying questions to ensure we  have the best understanding or interpretation of your words.

Some women are quick to share the wordy details of the workday and what their bestie did to hurt their feelings. However, some occasionally seem to still struggle in this one area. The one area, that one lie some women are still telling is… “Nothing’s wrong, I’m fine!”

OK then, good night!

When clearly, the majority of times we men  are asked what’s wrong, women  are either frustrated, offended or disappointed by something their spouse said, did or didn’t do.

a woman's  mouth is telling one story, while they are silence, eye rolling, folded arms and pursed lips are telling a completely different one. Believe it or not, the men in your lives know better. They and can easily tell when a mood has changed. You strip us ofour protective, problem-solving powers when you keep your true concerns hidden. It also makes it very difficult to have an honest conversation and obtain the results you’re seeking.

I was told that these brushes can do magic
in covering up  that something is wrong

Most women tell this particular lie because you feel as though your partner should automatically know what’s bothering you. i.e Why are yo not understanding me today?  Some of you think the connection should be that strong, that without you ever saying a word, your mate should not only know the issue, but promptly apologize for it too. And Even apologize for the entire male community!

Why is this damn scale lying!

The truth is, we men need clarity. As obvious as it may seem, we  need to hear the specifics of what’s really upsetting you.  They also need to understand why, whatever it was, bothered you  the way it did. The last piece is critical, as it may not seem like a big deal to men. If it is to you, you must share. People, in general, can receive information easier when the “why” is explained thoroughly.


Ladies, you have to be willing to discuss your needs and not leave our partner guessing. Effective communication means just that, it’s effective. It generates positive results and allows both partners the opportunity to be on the same page.

This better work!

With all of that being said, I do, however, recommend that you pick your battles selectively. It’s important to perform self-assessments to determine whether what’s bothering you  at the moment, is actually that big of a deal. If it is and you  need a release,  then it has to be discussed, for the overall health of the relationship.

Now I understand ! No you don't!

Whether your partners have a clear understanding of what’s bothering you  or not, what is so wrong with actually expressing it? It will immediately clear up any confusion or doubt and get you a lot closer to resolving the situation. In the end, isn’t that what you really want anyway?

the fact  that she says she is fine is often misunderstood.