An afternoon at an art show can tell you a lot about a person.

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I could picture it on that blank wall in your living room.

So you meet someone and you hit it off and you want to have some alone time to establish if you have real  chemistry. How much..... does taste in art tell you about some one. Maybe it could tell you a whole lot more than you ever assumed before. If he like abstract art that are  mostly colorful .... maybe he is and upbeat person. Almost always jovial.

Is True Love Possible?

Sometimes a random sequence of events offers an opportunity to gain invaluable insights.

some ladies speak of their  hurt and disappointment with  guys they've  dated for several weeks who just suddenly stopped calling or responding to texts.(news flash he lost interest.) Other young woman be moaning about living in a culture of men who can’t be trusted. The general consensus is that true love is a myth and the way to reel in a guy is to bamboozle him into submission. LOL.

As a woman, wife, and mother think keenly optimistic that your men and you women can experience joy and fulfillment in  healthy partnerships. Yes, indeed there are challenges that exist in every intimate relationship, the best way to overcome this is to work with your partner. I 'm not a psychologist who counsels couples, bt I have been counseled so  I am all too familiar with the pain of turbulent and broken relationships. I've Traveled down  that road myself once .. don't want to feel those feeling again.

As I was mulling over a  conversation and reflecting on my own thoughts, I happened to tune into an episode of the New Yorker Radio Hour on National Public Radio. The host was interviewing the musician Andrew Bird who had recently released an album called, “Are You Serious.”

The interview featured one of the songs from the album called, “Puma.”

The song opens with the classic strains of a violin and then breaks into a rhythmic beat with Bird singing:

“Do you see particles in the air?
Nobody notices, nobody cares, oh
Don’t try to tell her she’s less feline than human
‘Cause it gives rise to the rumor she’s a girl and not a puma
And that light that shines is not a pearl, it’s just a tumor.”

As the interview unfolds we discover that Bird penned the songs in this album during a time of great challenge in his life.

He and his wife had recently welcomed their first child, and then she was suddenly diagnosed with thyroid cancer. She went through surgery and radiation treatment.

The chorus of the song tells the story of what it was like when she was receiving treatment.

“She was radioactive for seven days
How I wanted to be holding her anyways
But the doctors, they told me to stay away
Due to flying neutrinos and the gamma rays, oh.”

It struck me that this was not just a story about a very difficult time for Bird and his wife; it is also a story about true love.

True love is so much more complex, than a staged Instagram picture of a couple gazing into each other’s eyes.

True love is choosing to walk down the path of life with someone you have grown to respect, trust and love.

True love is when a couple chooses to struggle together through the tough times. It is a journey that requires ongoing learning and growing. The learning and growing may seem like a slow process, but a mindset of patience and determination strengthens the chances of a successful outcome.

Deeply loving someone has always been about sacrifice. Hmmm!

In the song, Puma speaks of the yearning that Bird felt wanting to reach out to hug and comfort his wife even though he knew to do this would place his own health at risk. Such is true love; feeling so closely bonded to another that the desire to give of yourself overshadows every other concern.

True love is about having the courage to be vulnerable and to take risks in your quest to find the right person for you. It is committing to do all you can to forge that relationship once you’ve found the right person.

But… As with most good things in life, it can take a while to discover the treasure of true love.

Exercising patience and choosing to be optimistic are essential qualities that help you as you wait.

To those single ladies who are discouraged, disappointed, or hurt, take heart. True love is attainable, keep striving for it.