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| I'm so happy you don't understand women! |
These tips will help to decode female behaviors...??
Though a recent study claims that a woman's face is like an open book that reveals her state of mind, we men need to be aware!
Better not take it as the last verdict, irrespective of how much you trust and adore your angelface, women do lie to their significant others at times.
Sometimes to carry off a situation without hurting the man's feelings or to save herself from trouble, while on occasions to contain her emotions and pose as Ms. Goody...popping casual, white lies is no big deal for women when it comes to playing it safe in relationships.
White lies are no big blunders or massive betrayals, but small lies or 'truth manipulated' to handle a situation. At times she might fib to make her man feel better, to avoid a fight, or an embarrassing situation.
Here's a little help so that men can figure out when their adorable darling is not speaking her heart out and help them handle the situation with care...
Lie #1: "Oh! It's fine. I'm OK"
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| Don't push your luck dude! |
Guards up guys! You must know that she's not fine at all..... and nothing is OK. And sooner or later you will have to bear the brunt of her pent up emotions that she has somehow managed to hold back until now. You'll find her taking this emotional defense on occasions when you may have forgotten her birthday, taken her for granted or have done anything that hurts her.
Whenever a girlfriend lets go off my not so fatal error with a cool 'it's fine', I know it's nothing but the calm before a cyclone that I am fated to face in the time to come.
To portray that she doesn't care, the emotional lady prefers taking a refuge in this lie. She prefer saying that 'It's OK' because if she react she'll be blamed of being a constant nagger, who is complaining always. Though, she actually wants him to go down on his knees and plead forgiveness." hmmmm....!
Lie detector: Well, an experienced lover would know the crime that he has committed, but the amateurs should look out for her reactions. She might not get vocal, but will do everything to make you feel guilty about the fact that you have hurt her. From being tight-lipped to giving the briefest responses that don't go beyond 'hmms, umms or just yes and no', to mean tones and loads of sarcasm - are a few hints that you can look out for. "Women have a tendency of expecting their man to understand the said, as well as the unsaid, and that leaves men in a dicey situation. And even here, by keeping quite or going away with a small 'I'm fine', she expects him to know that she's hurt.
Lie # 2: "I love you for what/who you are"
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| When I'm being honest my freckles get brighter! |
...and I don't want you to change. Well, may God be your savior if you believe her for this. No wonders, if sheer pampering or impressing you might strictly be on her mind when she's saying this. "I just loved my wife whenever she averred this phrase. But gradually the nick-picking started and reality dawned upon me. At times it was my eating choice that bugged her, while at others it was my dressing style that she wanted to improve. Yet she continued to tell the blatant lie that she loved me for what I was.
Agreed, that you don't like this lie. But just imagine how it would feel if on your face she told you much she hated your paunch or how bad you looked in those lose-fitted denims. Thank her appreciating you taking care of your confidence levels.
"What do I do? I have to blow his trumpet when he does the right thing. After all, it was his qualities only that I married him for. And also, it becomes important to boost his confidence at times and those words just have the right impact.
Lie detector: If you start observing the occasions when she backs this mushy phrase, you might just realize she's not lying at all. On most of the occasions it comes when you have made her happy with anything like a gift, a movie, a romantic dinner or for that matter by doing anything and everything that she loves. You were good to her and that's your innate quality, which made her fall for you.
Lie # 3: You stare, I don't care!
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| You are a real fool, if you think I didn't see your eyes following her around. |
Either you are too lucky to have the coolest woman by your side, or you are getting an inflated ego without any reason if you believe her on this. No matter how hard she tries to look cool and composed, but the fact remains that no woman loves it when her man ogles at another woman. "After all, who wants to feel like second best? And the 'I don't care attitude' is usually to hide the vulnerability and a pretense. Most women hate their man staring at another woman.
Lie detector: She doesn't want to show you how she's feeling and is no less desperate to tell you that you are torturing her to the core. Well, easy indications to know she's lying can be the trail of questions she'll end up asking you. Casually and candidly she'll ask you things like 'Isn't she hot?' 'What makes her so hot? 'Did you like her?' She might appear to be your best buddy, but actually she wants to ask you, 'Do I score less that the chic you are ogling at?' And your answer will decide your fate not immediately, but definitely in the future, so better beware of what you say!
Lie # 4: Your friends are cool!
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| Read my eyes, they are the windows to my soul, you clueless fool. |
This might not be a lie always, but many a times your friends are nothing but a 'passion spoiler' for your girl, especially when they pop up during private moments. Especially when you just started dating, on occasions when you go out with friends. They're cool! she might say. The real shock may come when one day she is planning another group date and she gives you a good piece of her mind. It's then that you might realized that she didn't love them as much you thought she did. But she could have initially told you.... but didn't.
Most of the times women end up praising your friends for you. They don't want to hurt you by revealing the truth and hope that you'll understand without saying, which usually doesn't happen.
Lie detector: A sure shot hint to the lie is written on her face (check the eyes). Despite being in the group she'll remain an outsider. The smile that's usually worth a million dollars might just look purely artificial and forced. Her replies to all your inquiries will end in a cover up lie, 'I'm fine sweet heart' or 'I'm enjoying myself' and that takes you to Lie #1. So, when you get something like this from your lady, understand that you are getting into too much buddy-bonding!
Lie # 5: Tell me, trust me I won't get angry
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| I'm not showing my anger, because I've practiced in the mirror! |
This one is tricky, leaving you with a ditch on one side and a bigger ditch on the other. This lie is usually thrown at you when she wants an honest opinion and knows what it can be, but still wants to hear it. Be totally aware guys! Irrespective of what you say, she is going to get furious for sure. This usually happens in questions related to her looks, the food that she cooks, that tacky orange shirt she brought for you etc.
"Sometimes it is tough to handle. Once, she asks your honest opinion on a super tight dress that she wore. And, you tell her honestly that she was looking like a stuffed pillow and she got mad at you. Take cues from past experience----- on another occasion you did your best to flatter her. Ooops! To your sheer surprise, even that made her angry and she blamed you for not being a fair critic.
PHEW! This was hart. Now it's your turn to work on the sweet and salty white lies, maybe even a guessing game of truth and false!
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