So where is he? What is taking him so-o-o--o long … to come my way?

Many women (these days)  are dealing with the 10 (women) to 1(man) ratio, and are wondering if there is a man out there that is just right for them…Good question!

So you may be getting annoyed, frustrated, and at times feeling hopeless…. this is not an easy path to walk. However I’m a firm believer, when done right, the universe is without a doubt going to provide the benefit of you having a mate… maybe not a perfect “Soul mate” that you are desperately seeking….. but “yes” a mate… just a mate!

Well to be honest, the responses to your questions  "does he exist," is often “yes” and “no”…

It’s “no” in the sense that you are not locked in to get a specific man (designed specifically for your needs), no matter what you do, The idea that there is a “soul mate” who you are guaranteed to be with is simple not true… You have decisions in life you have to make, and plenty of people make choices that block theme from being with the person who is truly perfect for them.

Notice I said “person who is truly perfect for them”. This is where I believe the term “soul mate” can be applied, and this is where the “yes” comes in to play when you ask the question “Is there really a man just for you?” If you have purpose in the choices you make, then the flow of good thoughts and the flow of positive energy will bring what you seek to you. You may not be able to just sit back and “waiting for your Boaz” which is basically a reference or symbolic saying waiting for the man God (the universe) has for you. Because when you move forward with patience, you might just stumble across that one person who might be a good match for you. Please note I said “GOOD” not perfect…..

Some key things to think about: 

• 1.       Will you be attracted to him?
• 2.       Will he Love & Cherish you?
• 3.       Will you have to make him into a Man, or will he come custom made tailored right?
• 4.       Is he looking for a Helpmate, and not a playmate, which one are you currently?
• 5.       Will you experience a genuine Connection with him?
• 6.       Will he Love you unconditionally, and will you love him unconditionally?
• 7.       Will he want all of your love, not just a piece of it?

Start by questioning your past relationships and figure out where you might have gone wrong…the following example might trigger a few thoughts.

Example: You loved the man you spent your best years with…. I understand you feel you loved this man, but was the feeling mutual…? 

Another example: You were told that you should be more willing to build with a man, recognize his potential and work with him from there. But is that man  the type that will do the same type of building if you  (lady) are the go-getter?

Another example: A lot of men just want sex, and sometimes women may be OK with that arrangement. So figure out if there is real chemistry … it can still evolve into a real relationship. So why can’t you just enjoy friends with benefits, and go with the flow?

Extreme example: People tell you that you are too picky… You might want to be more flexible on some of your desires, and be more open to dating a guy that may not be really all that good looking. You are in your childbearing years so you want your future husband to be someone that looks really good to you, and therefore your kids will have 50/50 chance of being good looking also. 

Final example: You are very social so you have met a lot of guys that you find interesting, but you are not really sure if you have ever experienced a real connection.