I often question the attraction people have to me.

Researchers Explain Things That Make You Feel Attracted to Someone.... hmmm!

So I remind you of someone, I hope it somone you like!?

“Every single second is an opportunity to change your life, because in any moment you can change the way you feel.” – Rhonda Byrne

Attraction is more than just gut feelings. While that’s part of it, the reasons why we find someone attractive tend to be much more scientific that we give ourselves credit for. When we see someone who we find attractive, we may not be thinking of all the reasons why, and especially not the scientific reasons.

There are plenty of reasons that we find some people more physically attractive than others. If you’ve ever had a hard time putting it into words why you find someone so attractive, this list of science-based reasons might be of use to you.

1. FACIAL SYMMETRY

They say that over time we start looking alike.
YIKES  how is that a good thing?

Multiple studies have found that how attractive someone is to you can often depend on how symmetrical they are. This means that people who are more attractive tend to have both sides of their faces or their bodies closely matching. Of course, no one has a perfectly symmetrical face or body. But the closer that one side of their body and faces matches the other, means that they tend to be more attractive. The next time you look at someone’s face and can’t seem to place why they’re so attractive, consider their symmetry!

2. LONGER LEGS IN WOMEN, STRONGER LEGS IN MEN

Funny enough, the perception of leg length is different between men and women. Women with longer legs are perceived as more sexy, while men with legs that are roughly the same length as their torso are considered more attractive. The reason for men’s ideal leg length, is that shorter legs tend to make men look more muscular, which is seen as a more desirable trait to some women

3. THE SHAPE OF SOMEONE’S FACE

Estrogen and testosterone, the hormones found in more abundance in women and men, respectively, are responsible for forming our bone structures in our faces. The shape of someone’s face can be very indicative of their hormone levels, and thus their fertility and virility. Women with smaller chins and brows, coupled with wider eyes, are perceived as more fertile, while the same goes for men with stronger jaws and brows. These features are a perfect cocktail for physical attraction.

4. “SEXY” VOICES

The sound of someone’s voice is determined by hormones, and this can really affect how attractive you find another person. For men, a lower voice is seen as more attractive, which means that they have a high amount of testosterone. For women, a higher voice is associated with femininity. The quality of the voice affects attractiveness as well: having a breathy voice is considered attractive in both men and women, while a monotone voice is found to be more attractive in men.

5. SELFLESS BEHAVIOR

Finding someone physically attractive is, more often than not, based on more than just their physical appearance. Science has shown that people with kind and compassionate personalities are found to be much more attractive. Altruism is something that shows that a potential partner will be invested in your well-being. It also shows that potential partners will be good parents, which is something that people often subconsciously think about when assessing the attractiveness of a potential partner.

6. COMPLEMENTARY GENETICS

Ooh my goodness he is so my type!

Couples who look alike are much more common than one might think. Science explains that you’re often drawn to features that are much like your own because people are drawn towards things that are familiar. This means that you and your partner may have a similarity in genetics, from skin tone, to h
air color, to even your heights! As well, complementary genetics are beneficial for potential children. When picking a partner, you may find that your “type” tends to be someone who looks a lot like you, or someone close to you. Like a family member?

Don't skate on very thin ice.....

Some lies, complimentary, are acceptable,
don't confuse them with
the ones that are NOT!

The Following Are The Top 10 Lies People Tell Their Partner


Unless you’re the human embodiment of perfection, you have probably told a lie or two. We all have. It’s human nature to fib a little or omit the truth in order to save yourself from an uncomfortable conversation, embarrassment, or backlash.

In all of our relationships – whether romantic, friendly or in the workplace – trust is a very important issue and necessary for a healthy relationship dynamic. Until you are in a genuinely committed relationship with someone you know well, and know has your best interests at heart, the only person you can really rely on is yourself.

People tend to lie to one another more than you might think. Here are some of the most common lies that people tell their partner.

“A single lie destroys a whole reputation of integrity.” – Baltasar Gracian

1. “I’M JUST FINE.”

Have you ever heard this phrase? Maybe you’ve uttered it yourself once or twice. This little lie is one of the most told lies in a relationship. But it has sarcasm in the tone!

The one thing couples should never lie about is how they feel… Whether you are replying to the actual question or showing that you’re fine or good based on your verbal or body language, you must be truthful and open with your partner about how you feel.

Maybe you didn’t want to get into how you were feeling, or maybe you just wanted to avoid an argument. Either way, most people tell this lie once or twice (or more!).

2. HOW MANY PARTNERS YOU’VE HAD

Most people tend to fib on the lower side of how many partners they’ve had. Even if the number isn’t particularly large, or the list particularly long, we always want our current partner to feel special. If you’ve fudged the number of people you’ve been with, don’t worry. Everyone else is doing it too. Well except a Virgin. They will tell you the truth.



3. YOU LIKE THEIR PARENTS

Not everyone gets along with their in-laws, or future in-laws. People tend to lie about how much they actually like their partner’s parents. They either do this to keep the peace, or because they really don’t see the point in telling the truth about their feelings. After all, for some people, blood is definitely thicker than water.

4. HOW MUCH MONEY YOU SPEND

Couples should never lie to each other about finances. There should be an open discussion, agreements and transparency between the two of them when it comes to finances.

Have you ever gone out on a little “treat yourself!” shopping spree, and then had to hastily hide the receipt and make up a lie about how everything was on sale? How much money that gets spent is one of the most common lies couples tell one another.

Debt and spending habits are dealbreakers, they often lead to breakups.

5. “YOU LOOK GREAT.”

This little white lie is something we sometimes have to break out in order to not hurt our partner’s feelings. Whether you’re lying about the suit that looks totally hideous, or the dress that accentuates all the wrong features, lying about how your partner looks in something is probably the most common lie told in relationships. But if they really really want to know, then avoid the embarrassment they will suffer if others look at them funny and chuckle. So tell the truth...

6. YOU NEVER THINK ABOUT YOUR EX

We share our love and our lives with so many different people in the past. Even if your last relationship ended mutually, or even if you were the one to call things off, your feelings don’t just disappear. It’s not a bad thing to think about your ex sometimes, and to remind yourself of the feelings you had. But, it might cause jealousy, so that’s why some people choose to fib about it to their current partners.

7. YOU LOVE THEIR COOKING

If your partner isn’t particularly skilled in the kitchen, you’ve probably mastered the art of chewing with a straight face … or getting to the kitchen to start dinner first. Most people lie about the skill of cooking that their partners have. After all, if they never try, how are they going to get better at it.

Many of us do not want to hear the awful truth every time. Say someone asks you how they looks. They probably wants to hear that they look great. If they don’t look great, and we tell them the truth, we create a conflict and have to deal with the results sooner or later.

8. “I AGREE WITH YOU.”

Being in a relationship is about having each other’s backs. If your partner gets into an argument, or disagreement, with someone else, you’ve probably stood up for them. Even though people may not particularly agree with their partner in the argument, they’re probably going to lie and say they do. After all, solidarity in a relationship is important.

9. “YOU’RE THE BEST.”

When it comes to being physically intimate, people tend to lie to their partners about how good they are in bed. That isn’t to say that people don’t enjoy the things they do with their partners. They just tend to fib about  just HOW good, and whether or not they’re the best partner they’ve ever had. There’s no reason to make your partner self-conscious or jealous about relationships in the past. So, people tend to fib. If you don't want to fib. Just say: " I just know how you make me feel" which you imply is "Great"

10. WHAT YOU REALLY LOOK LIKE

Unless you live together, and your partner sees you every day, you might be lying (just a little!) to your partner about how they really look . Maybe they've only send their best-looking selfies, or maybe they only see one another when they’re done up and looking their best. This is one of the most common little lies that folks tell one another.

Final thoughts

Lying isn’t a good practice in any relationship. In fact, the best thing to do is to try and omit these lies without being hurtful with your honesty. But no one is perfect, and most of these are lies that help keep the peace and avoid hurting your partner’s feelings. If you find yourself telling these lies in your relationship, don’t worry. They've lied to you too.

Allow me to Explain  Habits That End Marriages

We started out as friends
but now it looks like
we will not end  as friends.

“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.” – Friedrich Nietzsche

The end of a marriage can creep up on you. Right! Some people don’t even realize what went wrong until the marriage is over, and done.... but the heart continues to aches looking for answers.

Love and trust are vital components to the foundation of a solid marriage that endures.  But love and trust alone are just not enough.  When times get tough, and life being what it is, having skills to listen effectively (to yourself and your spouse), manage intense negative emotions well, and communicate in non-blaming or defensive ways, are the tools to navigate life’s tougher challenges.

Relationship experts, and therapists who specialize in helping marriages stay strong, have compiled a list of reasons why marriages end. Recognizing the things that go wrong in a marriage willl  help everyone in the long run. Being aware of the top reasons that marriages end is the best way to make sure they don’t.

HERE ARE  THINGS THAT CAN END YOUR MARRIAGE

1. THERE’S NO COMMUNICATION ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP

Many people think that once you get married, there’s no more need to sit down and talk about your relationship. This is false, and one of the main reasons that marriages end. Being able to sit down and discuss your relationship is vital, especially in marriage.

… my one piece of advice is to keep communication open. In particular, be willing to validate your partner’s experience, listen, compromise, and attempt to foster empathy with your partner.

Being married is making a long-term commitment to your partner. You want to make sure that the channels of communication are open. Marriage doesn’t mean that the relationship is always going to work flawlessly. Communicate about your relationship in order to keep your marriage healthy and happy.


2. YOU HAVE NO RELATIONSHIPS OUTSIDE OF THE MARRIAGE

Having relationships and friendships outside of your marriage is key to keeping your marriage strong and healthy. You need to be able to have a support system that isn’t just your spouse. This means that you have to have friends, or strong relationships with your family members. Marriage therapists have pointed out that if your only strong friendship or relationship is your spouse, then your marriage might be in trouble. Having a support network and being able to take the stress of your partner is vital to a healthy and long-lasting marriage.

3. THERE ARE DIFFERENCES IN VALUES


When you get married to someone too quickly, you may not know that person inside and out yet. Marriage is supposed to be a time where you really learn about the person that you’re spending the rest of your life with. Sometimes, you find out that you don’t share the same kind of values and morals.

Partners should be especially sure that their values match before getting into marriage.Although other differences can be accommodated and tolerated, a difference in values is particularly problematic if the goal is long-lasting love.

Marriage therapists explain that having a difference in values can be something big that ends a marriage. The key is being able to talk those differences out, respect them, and compromise on things in your new life together.

4. KEEPING SECRETS FROM ONE ANOTHER

While there are certainly things that we often prefer to keep to ourselves, secret keeping is a bad habit to have when you’re in a marriage. You don’t have to tell your spouse every thought that comes into your head, but consciously keeping secrets from them can quickly lead down a disastrous road. Marriage therapists don’t recommend keeping secrets from your spouse, no matter how big or small. Honesty is always the best policy, and one that will nurture a healthy and long-lasting marriage.

5. HOW IMPORTANT ARE THE LITTLE THINGS?

When you get married, after a while, the little things can start to get pushed away. You have kids, you have a mortgage, you have things that need to get done. Day in and day out, the “big things” start to take precedence over the “little things”. Marriages can end because people forget to compliment their spouse every day or thank them for the little things, like bringing them a cup of tea, or tidying up the living room. Greater things like expect sexual relation on command, can and will cause resentment?

When people feel recognized as special and appreciated, they’re happier in that relationship and more motivated to make the relationship better and stronger. Marriage should be built on a foundation. Forgetting all of the little things can make a marriage crumble. It’s important to always make time to nurture parts of the relationship that may be getting neglected.

6. NOT KNOWING HOW TO COMPROMISE

Compromise is truly key in marriages. Sometimes, things can’t always go our way. However, if you dig your heels in and refuse to compromise, there can be consequences. Namely, it can start to kill your marriage. Marriage therapists see couples all the time that have trouble compromising, which can cause rifts in the relationship. Being flexible and having the ability to sacrifice a little bit for your partner is key to a long and happy marriage.

Final thoughts

Marriages end for all kinds of reasons. But, there are ways to turn it back around. Even if there’s something in your marriage that isn’t working, marriage therapists know that with enough devotion and patience, those problems can be fixed. Being open to learning and changing your behavior in a marriage will help you stay in love and keep your marriage long-lasting.

Never mind that we had sex, we are just friends

Do you know the most important differences between  just a friend (you had sex with) and a lover

You know we are just friends right!?!

The difference between a lover and a friend is stark and worth knowing.


We all have friends and some of us have lovers. The dynamics between us, when we speak to a friend and when we speak to a lover, vary widely and there are quite distinct differences between the two. While a lover may end up a friend and a friend may end up a lover as well, but as far as the individual relationships are concerned, these  differences separate the one from the other.

#1 The conversations

A conversation with a friend happens on an individual level. You are either talking about yourself or talking about the friend or dome one else. It is one persona at a time and both the parties understand that they need to give time for each to speak about their individual lives.


A conversation between lovers is done on a together-level. The conversation revolves around 'us' and 'we'(well it should.) The couple usually doesn't think in singularity and as they see a future together, they speak in plural terms.

#2 Reasons for jealousy

Don't you  accuse me of being jealous

A friend may get jealous if your attention is diverted from them while you talk to them. You may not have talked to a friend for years but the comfort level still remains when you meet them after a long time. The jealousy, here, is also not that serious and not really of great consequence.



Jealousy between lovers arises when either fails to fulfill their commitments towards the other. Lovers really feel the need to be in touch as they are the closest people and any distance may lead to seeds of jealousy being sown. Jealousy in a relationship is highly consequential and can lead to heartburns and even  breakups.

#3 The number?


One can have as many friends as they like. The friends, too, can be of different kinds and from different backgrounds. There can be a drinking buddy and a study friend and so much more. The variety and number depend completely on the person.


But there cannot  be more than one lover( you should be exclusive.) Any more than one means infidelity and that is not what a relationship is about. Also, a lover can be a friend (not just friends with benefits) but the intimacy between the lovers far exceeds the one between friends. Should I repeat it or will you read again to make sure you get my point.

#4 Who gets your affection?

Friends can show affection to you and anyone and it would not be a problem. Even best friends can show different degrees of affection to other friends and it won't matter. Friends do need each other's affection but they may not be that needy for it.

I so enjoy his attention
Im starting to get used to it.

A lover would, on the other hand, need special affection. ( Give that person ATTENTION like no other)The position of a lover in life is slightly elevated over a friend's and they would not be wrong in seeking special privileges when it comes to your time. This is what relationships are built on, to treat your lover uniquely.....

Well she might also change a few things you buy a new grey sofa, and she says: " it's to blan needs some color"   an there goes the man cave, with a female touch..

Uncross those legs Ladies and Gentlemen

If  you think she looks sexy with her legs crossed, walk up to her and  politely tell her to Uncross them and WHY!

OK but will you still notice my shoes?

Here Is Why  She Should Stop Crossing her Legs


HEALTH

Ladies Do you often cross your legs while sitting casually or at any event? Well, it’s a common pose that is usually associated with style and feminine culture.   Crossing your legs is actually quite common, although it’s not often brought to attention.  It can add a style and elegance to appearance. It has aesthetic value, but there are some medical concerns that must be revealed here.


1. NUMBNESS IN THE MUSCLES

Crossing the legs exerts pressure on the peroneal nerve at the back of your knee that supplies sensation to the lower legs and feet.If you remain in that pose for a longer time, legs or feet can go numb. It gives a pain like someone is giving pins or needles to your muscles. If it happens, massage the numb muscles vigorously to increase circulation in the veins.

2. NERVE PALSY

When you cross your legs for a considerablylonger time period, it can cause a condition, known as, peroneal nerve palsy. It results in foot drop. During this condition, you become unable to lift toes properly. In a study from South Korea, many patients were examined. Sitting cross-legged for hours caused numbness and foot drop.

3. RAISED BLOOD PRESSURE

You may have noticed when a doctor checks your blood pressure, he asks you to sit with legs uncrossed and arms flat. It’s because a comfortable pose can bring the blood pressure to a normal level and help check it properly. What happens when you cross your legs often? It raises blood pressure to a certain level. In 2010, seven studies revealed that leg crossing causes a higher blood pressure. In another study, no difference was found. Most of these studies were on a small scale.

In Turkey, research was carried out at a hypertension clinic. It was on a relatively larger scale. But after three minutes, when the reading was taken, the blood pressure got back to the initial levels. Elevated blood pressure was noticed in those people, who were already under-treatment for high blood pressure.

Two reasons have been understood about elevated blood pressure when you cross your legs while sitting. One knee over the other, sends blood from the legs to the chest, causing increased amount of blood pumped out of the heart. Consequently, it raises blood pressure.

Another reason is that blood pressure elevates due to isometric exercise of the leg muscles. It increases the resistance to the blood passing through the vessels. This is why, crossing legs at the ankles doesn’t give the same effect.

There are several physiological measurements taken in Nigmegen, Netherlands. A study was carried out there to know which of the above two reasons is accurate. According to the research, resistance in the blood vessels didn’t rise when the heart rate was low and legs were crossed. The amount of blood leaving the heart was higher than before. It showed that elevated blood pressure is because of crossed legs pushing blood up to the heart.

When you cross your legs, it causes a temporary increase in blood pressure. But according to the evidence, there are no long-term consequences. People with high risk of blood clots should sit with legs uncrossed. Because, crossed legs can cause a barrier in the flow of blood. It could increase risk of a deep vein thrombosis.

4. VARICOSE VEINS!!!!

How are varicose veins  linked with sitting cross-legged? The reasons of varicose veins is not clear yet. There are tiny valves in the blood vessels that prevent blood from flowing back in the wrong direction. When these valves become loose, stretched andweak; the blood can pool. It causes enlargedveins that is known as varicose veins.

Crossing the legs is not the main factor for causing varicose veins. It is partly because of genetics. It is a painful disease that gets worse during cold weather. But, when you cross your legs, it certainly causes an inflammation of the compressed veins.

5. POOR POSTURE

People who remain in crossed leg pose for several hours develop a poor posture. Their shoulders become round as they lean forward. Obviously, it apparently looks awkward. When the legs are crossed for a longer time period, it makes shoulder become round. It also makes you lean forward. It affects body posture in an adverse way. It also gives a stretch to the muscles. When you cross your legs, it can make your posture unattractive. Due to stooped posture, lower back pain and neck pain can also occur. It can also lead to discomfort in the hips.

There is a pelvic imbalance that makes inner thigh muscles shorter and outer thigh muscles longer. It also puts you at a joint displacement risk.

You have read the five reasons to avoid sitting with legs crossed. Decide now to ditch this habit. You can look ritzy and elegant even while sitting straight. The art is to keep the feet and knees close to each other. To avoid the health issues mentioned above, it’s important to improve sitting and standing posture. Even the way you walk is linked toyour health.

Some people, especially women always sit with their legs crossed without even realizing that they have been in that pose for hours. They must quit this habit instantly to stay healthy. Nowadays, many people have no idea about how to correct their postures. Posture issues may seem minor in the beginning but can cause serious health issues in the long run. Most of these posture issues arise because of excessive use of computer and smartphone technology. People spend an unreasonable amount of time sitting in awkward positions. Physical activity has taken a backseat and this is greatly affecting the overall health of people across the world. Sitting with your legs crossed does not seem to be a harmful action but a fair amount of activity sgould be incorporated into daily life to prevent health issues arising from this position.

Questions we should ask when we are struggling in our current relationship

WE NEED TO ASK THIS "Q":  DO WE MAKE ENOUGH TIME FOR ONE ANOTHER?

So is this the way,
 you want to spend time together?

All of us have many obligations in the modern world, and life can get pretty hectic from time to time. However, no responsibility should take precedence over the love we should have for one another. People either make time, or excuses, so if it seems that your or yours  often make the latter, do you really want to continue the relationship feeling like you’re constantly put on the back burner?

ASK THIS "Q": DO I REALLY LOVE HIM/HER, OR JUST THE PERSON I WANT THEM TO BE?

Oftentimes, we convince ourselves that people will change as long as we give them time and support, but honestly, people will only change if they truly want to. Plus, if you can’t love the person as they are right now, will you really love them at some point in the future once other conditions have been met?

If you can’t say with certainty that you really love them, you owe it to your partner to tell them the truth – it might hurt, but the pain of staying in a false relationship is far greater – for both of you.

ASK THIS OTHER "Q": WOULD I REGRET IT LATER IF I DIDN’T END THE RELATIONSHIP TODAY?

Five years from now, would you look back and wish you had moved on from the relationship? Living with regrets will always leave a deeper wound than getting out of an unfulfilling relationship, even if that means you have to be single for a while. Stay true to your heart, and never stay in a relationship just because it feels comfortable, or because you feel like you’d be letting the other person down.

ASK THIS SIMPLE "Q": DO THEY ADD VALUE TO MY LIFE?

Where is the enhancement you promised?

Do they truly enhance your life, adding color and vibrancy, or make you feel drained and uninspired? If you start seeing everything in black and white once you’re with them, is the relationship really worth sacrificing your happiness for?

ASK THIS IMPORTANT "Q": WOULD MY LIFE BE BETTER WITHOUT THEM IN THE PICTURE?

This is really the Ten million dollar question – what would your life look like without them around? If you imagine yourself as a happier, freer, more peaceful person, you need to sit down with your partner and come clean about your feelings. Breakups can cause a temporary upheaval and emotional tidal wave in your life, but you will feel much better following your heart and cleansing your life of any negativity.

Fellahs show her how much she means to you.

Thank you!

In the hustle bustle of today's world, where both of you work.. it's important to show love without words.

Here Are 10 Ways To Tell Your Lady You Love her (Without Saying A Word)



Love is not about saying things; it is about what you do. Actions speak louder than words, so you can show your lady how much you love her without actually saying it. Here are the tips you should follow.

1.Cook her favorite meal



As the saying goes ‘the quickest way to a person’s heart is through their stomach’. This applies to both men and women. Even if you are not that talented in the kitchen, at least try to prepare the favorite meal of your significant other. This will show them that you really want to do something for them.

2.Make sure their clothes are clean and ironed

If you truly care for your lady you will never let her wear wrinkled clothes. This also means you should take care that  her clothes are ironed and neatly placed in the closet. If you are a man don’t think that you should not do this for your woman.

3.Turn on the outside light if your lady is working late and leave a love note

This simple gesture will help them unlock the door easily and also helps them feel welcome. Also, writing a love note will add to the feeling.

4.Put fresh towels when the working day is done

This tip is similar to the second one. Nothing says I love you like leaving clean towels when your partner needs them the most.

5.Designate a date night


Once you set a date night try to avoid all distractions including your parents, kids, friends, work etc. Focus on your partner entirely and do the things you both enjoy. Spending quality time together will strengthen your relationship and help you do things you can’t especially if you don’t get alone time enough.

6.Wear their favorite outfit

Make her go crazy by wearing the outfit she finds sexy such as a  fireman suspenders no shirt and shorts. This will get her and your pulses racing and will lead to an unforgettable night in the bedroom.

7.Give her an unexpected hug and kiss

These random acts of kindness can really brighten someone’s day especially if they are not feeling well. They are also very good for the health because only 10-second of hugging a day can significantly reduce stress, fatigue and risk of heart disease and can also ease depression. And you can only imagine the power of a kiss.

8.Send her a sweet text message

You already know what she would love to read. You are  aware of the things your lady likes or dislikes, so try to send her the most creative text message that will brighten her day and keep her smiling all day.

9.Do something with her that she  enjoy

Gentlemen, go out with her on a fancy night wearing nice clothes. These are only suggestions that you can change depending on your partner. If you are not sure about what she would like to do, you can always ask her.

10.Be spontaneous with them (if they like it)

This will show your lady that you enjoy life and you enjoy being with her. Go on that trip you have always talked about to break the routine. Even if you do something else you may end up creating memories that you will remember for the rest of your life with the person you love the most.

So you think you have men figured out... do you now?

Women may think they know the way to man's heart... but guess what .....you do Not.
Researchers Explain 5 Reasons Why A Man Falls In Love



“You can’t blame gravity for falling in love.” – Albert Einstein

What is it that makes a man fall in love with a woman? Who is the type of woman that most men falls in love with? Women all over the world have been trying to figure this out. Popular society opinion makes it seems like men don’t fall in love with women the same way that women fall in love with men. Of course, a man falls in love when he feels like he could be "a super hero" with you in his life. When he feels accepted, appreciated and understood, and knows he can make you happy…he will be yours. Oh…and BTW he thinks you’re hot!”

Women and men have the simular emotions, and men will fall in love with women in their own special way. Researchers have finally pinpointed several of the reasons that men fall head over heels in love with women.

HERE ARE 5 REASONS WHY A MAN FALLS IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE SPECIAL

Am I not the complete package,
 you've been looking for?

1. HE’S CAPTIVATED BY THE WHOLE PACKAGE

Men are often enamored by the entire woman. Her looks, her personality, her voice, her laughter – when men fall in love, they’re very first captivated by the entirety of the woman.

The answer doesn’t sound sexy, but a man falls in love when his feelings for a woman reach a critical mass. He spends time with her and he sees that she is kind, loving, affectionate, loyal, fun, sexy, and of a positive spirit in quantities that reach a certain weight. One day he thinks, ‘Wow, I love this woman.’ He may not know why, but his mind/heart have taken a look at her in an in-depth way.

Men very rarely fall in love with individual parts of the woman before falling in love with all of her. Even the individual woman’s smell is part of the allure for the man falling in love.

2. HE FEELS HE CAN MAKE HER HAPPY

One of the reasons that men fall in love with women is that he feels like he can make her happy. Men and women want the same thing when it comes to love. When a man looks at a woman, he feels like he can bond with her. When two people bond, they can make one another happy – and when men feel like they can make a woman happy, they also feel like she can make him happy, too.

3. WHEN SHE’S OPEN TO LOVE

As much as the media loves to push the idea of women playing hard to get, men fall in love with women who are much more open to the idea of love. Women who know what they want in a partner and know who they are as a lover are the type of women that men fall in love with.

The things that makes a man fall in love really boil down to is a deep emotional connection. When you feel comfortable with being open and vulnerable with someone, you’re likely falling in love. Human beings as a whole need to feel connected to someone in order to let the walls down around them. We can only really feel anything, including love, when the walls are down.

Men don’t want to fall in love with a woman that makes it hard to love her. Researchers find that men are more open to women who are open to them.

4. THE WAY HE FEELS AROUND HER

Men fall in love with women because of the way he feels. When he’s around a woman and he feels warm, happy, and full of love, it’s very easy for him to fall head over heels in love. When she makes him feel accepted and validated in his emotions, it’s exactly the kind of feeling that makes him feel ready to fall in love. Men like to feel accepted and loved the same way that women do.

5. SHE SAYS “YES” TO LIFE

What’s better to a man than a woman who is ready to say “yes” to all of the things that life has to offer? She wants to try new and exotic foods, explore new places and travel to new cities and countries

Finding a person who fits into his life without huge disruptions is important. Men may like to ogle high-maintenance women, but they’re not the women they marry. Men seek women who have a willingness to say, ‘Yes, I’ll try that!

Final note: something tells me these were not the 5 reasons, most women would be thinking.

Questions To Ask Yourself Before Ending A Relationship


We’ve all been there at some point or another – wondering if we should call it quits on a relationship, or just stick it out in hopes that things will improve eventually.

Ultimately, it comes down to asking yourself a few key questions first before you make a firm decision; a little introspection and talking through the situation with yourself can go a long way in helping you make the right choices for your life.

"Q" 1. DOES THIS RELATIONSHIP BRING OUT THE BEST IN ME?

Is this as good as it is going to get between us? 

Do you feel like the best version of yourself, or a less-than-stellar version of yourself? The right person should encourage you, support you, and feel a shared happiness when you reach a new goal or simply evolve more on your life path.

If the person drags you down, brings out negative emotions in you, or just doesn’t fulfill your needs and desires, you really need to stop and ask yourself where things are headed between the two of you, and if you would be better off flying solo for a while.

"Q" 2. DO I FEEL HAPPY OR UPSET THE MAJORITY OF THE TIME?

Of course, no relationship comes without some trials and tribulations, and oftentimes the struggles that people face together make their relationship stronger. However, the dark clouds shouldn’t totally mask the sun – meaning that you should still feel overall happiness in the relationship, even when life throws you a curve ball. According to Mark D. White, Ph.D., you should never stay in a relationship just because you feel you “should” out of a sense of obligation – if you don’t feel happy, you have every right and responsibility, actually, to disclose your feelings to your partner.

“No relationship is terrific at every moment; one reason commitment is so valuable is that it carries us through the less-than-terrific times. It’s when the less-than-terrific times become the norm, and you don’t anticipate any terrific ones in the near future, that you naturally (and justifiably) start to think of alternatives. Commitment can carry the weight of keeping a relationship together once in a while, but it can’t do the job on an ongoing basis—there has to be something of value to a relationship itself to support the partners’ commitment to it,” says Ph.D. White.

"Q" 3. AM I HAVING TO SACRIFICE MORE THAN I SHOULD FOR THE RELATIONSHIP?

Is the question to difficult,
or are you just not going to answer it?

A relationship should never feel like a burden in your life; if it does, you need to question what they’re bringing to the table, and how much you have to sacrifice in order to make the relationship work. You can only give so much in a relationship before you feel taken advantage of and neglected, so you really need to ask yourself if you feel satisfied in the relationship or not.

If the other person doesn’t pull their own weight and make you feel special and wanted, you should probably go your separate ways.

"Q" 4. DO WE SHARE THE SAME PASSIONS AND GOALS FOR OUR FUTURE?

In any committed relationship, talk of the future will inevitably come up at some point. In most cases, two people going in completely opposite directions won’t have much of a chance at keeping the flame alive way down the road, so you need to ask yourself this question early on.

Two people can absolutely have different goals in life, but if you feel that your visions for the future just don’t mesh well together, you might need to wait it out for someone who shares more of your own passions.

5. ARE WE FIGHTING MORE THAN WE’RE LAUGHING?

Relationships shouldn’t feel like a chore or dreadful part of your life; they should inspire you, uplift you, and just make you feel alive in general. Disagreements will occur in any relationship, but if you spend the majority of your time arguing rather than enjoying life in one another’s presence, this should be a red flag for you.

Keep the company of those who ignite the light within your soul, not those who put a damper on your spirit.

Brad Pitt after divorce, does an " If I had known better!"

Brad Pitt’s Powerful Marriage Advice Will Melt Your Heart, or not.



The divorce that followed after 11 years of marriage has inspired Brad Pitt to write this piece of advice.

“Obviously, I’m not a relationship expert. I would have done differently… After losing a woman that I loved, and a marriage of almost 11 years, here’s the advice I wish I would have had:

Never stop courting

You must NEVER take your partner for granted. By proposing marriage, you made a promise that you will always protect her heart. And since she chose you it means she trusted you that you will never get lazy in your love.

Protect your own heart

Since you have committed to protect her heart you should also protect your own just as carefully. If you love yourself, you will be able to love your partner too. And you must never let someone else in your heart to take the place of your wife.

Fall in love over and over again

People constantly change and you can’t expect to be the same after 5 or 10 years. This also applies to both partner in a marriage. Everyday situations make us change whether we like it or not. This means you will constantly need to re-choose yourselves. She does not have to stay with you and if you are not willing to take care of her heart she might find someone else that is willing to.

Always see the best in her

Be focused on the things you love and those things will grow. If you focus on the annoying little things you will never be truly happy. Try hard to focus until the only thing you see is love and never doubt that you are the happiest man with your wife.

It’s not your job to fix or change her

You should love her just the way she is and never try to make her a different person. If she changes you should love that version of herself and accept her completely.

Take full accountability

This applies for your emotions because your wife is not responsible for your happiness, you are. If you are not able to find your own happiness she will never do it for you no matter how hard she tries.

Never blame her if you…

Getting angry or frustrated at her means she is triggering something that you already have inside. Your emotions are your own responsibility and if she uncovers them it does not mean she is the reason for their appearance. Take a look inside and acknowledge the things you should heal.

Allow her to just be

Sometimes when she is sad or upset and you can’t help her change that, the least you can do is hold her and listen to her if she wants to open up. Even though you might not be able to improve the situation, tell her that she can always talk to you and share her pain. Don’t run away from her when she is upset, stay near and comfort her by listening.

Be silly

Laugh and make her laugh. This way you can survive even the toughest situations.

Fill her soul everyday

Find out how you can make her feel validated, cherished and important. Try to discover at least 10 things that you can do to make her feel happy and never forget them.

Be present

Giving her your time is not enough, make sure she gets your soul, attention and focus too. Forget about everything else when you are with her and focus on her entirely.

Be willing to take her $exually

This does not mean you shouldn’t respect her desires and wishes and try to force yourself on her. Being $exually intimate also involves creating a deep bond with her soul to. Show her that she can trust you fully and let her melt into her feminine softness.

Don’t be an idiot

You shouldn’t be afraid to be an idiot either. You are both going to make mistakes but try not to do them too often and learn from past experiences. Nobody is perfect but that does not mean you should be stupid.

Give her space

Women are often very good at giving all the time so they need to be reminded to take care of themselves too. She might feel the need to do something for her soul, so give her the space and time she requires to recharge.

Be vulnerable

If you are a man it does not mean you don’t have a soft and emotional side. Don’t be afraid to show your vulnerability to her and share your feelings.

Be fully transparent

If you want her to trust you it means you should share everything with her, including the things you don’t want to. Open up entirely in front of her and she will know that you truly love her and respect her. Even if you have a mask to use in front of everyone else, you must never wear it in front of her.

Never stop growing together

Stagnant pond breeds malaria and the flowing stream is cool and fresh always. If you stop working a muscle it will atrophy, and the same applies to a relationship. It requires working too, and you should find common dreams and goals that you can work towards together.

Don’t worry about money

Money is never important when you are fighting. Even though you need it, you should not neglect other aspects of your relationship and only care for money.

Forgive immediately

Don’t wear the weight from the past, focus on the future instead. History can keep you hostage and it will hold back your marriage like an anchor. Forgiveness provides freedom so cut the anchor loose and enjoy life.

Always choose love

This is the most important piece of advice. If you choose love, there is nothing that can affect your happiness and marriage. Marriage does not mean happily ever after; it requires work all the way. Being committed to grow together will help you last long.

These are very important lessons that I learned too late and the hard way. But now I know what I should be committed to and if I get married again I will create a stronger foundation for my future. Try to learn from my pain and avoid going through the things I have experienced

A final personal note: I was marry twice as long as this couple, and I'm now thinking if I had known all of this stuff during, then I might not have made as many mistakes as I had. Hopefully this will help others  avoid the things that cause relationships to end BAD-ly.

Doing Yoga together is a relationship enhancer!

Aren't you glad we are doing yoga together?

Research Reveals Why You Should Do Yoga With Your Partner



“Yoga is not just repetition of few postures – it is more about the exploration and discovery of the subtle energies of life.” – Amit Ray

Yoga has all kinds of health benefits. It’s good for your flexibility, your heart, your mind and your soul. Yoga can help heal all kinds of ailments, both physical and mental. People who have anxiety or depression often report that doing yoga and learning how to breathe correctly with the complicated poses have helped them out immensely.

But there’s one more secret benefit to yoga that a lot of people don’t know about, and that’s how it can benefit your relationship. That’s right – researchers now have solid reasons as to why you should be doing yoga with your partner.

“A couples’ yoga experience can serve as a kind of mini ‘retreat’ or ‘workshop’ to strengthen a relationship. Rather than just going to a class and practicing next to each other, couples’ yoga requires couples to really pay attention to each other in the moment and work together toward common goals,” says psychotherapist and certified yoga instructor Julia Lehrman.

HERE ARE GOOD REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD DO YOGA WITH YOUR PARTNER

1. YOGA CONNECTS YOUR BODY AND MIND

One of the main benefits of yoga is to connect your mind and your body. Oftentimes we think of our bodies as just vessels without really understanding that our bodies are also ourselves. Yoga helps close that bridge and connect mind and body.

“Mind-body exercise is about creating wellness. It’s about cultivating your health by restoring balance… You start to uncover your body’s own wisdom,” says author Shirley Archer.

In order to develop good relationships with people, especially romantic ones, we need to have a solid connection between our bodies and our minds. When we only engage with other people with one or the other, our relationships tend to suffer and be shallow. Yoga will help you have a more rounded and complete relationship.

2. YOGA MAKES YOU MORE SENSITIVE

When you engage in yoga, it can help increase the sensitivity that you feel to both yourself and the world around you. You will learn to listen to your body and your mind, and engage with your thoughts and feelings in a more open and honest way. When you nurture that relationship with yourself, you will inevitably be able to nurture your relationships with others as well. Doing yoga with your partner means the both of you will be able to have more open and honest relationships with yourselves as well as with one another.

3. YOGA HELPS YOU LIVE IN THE PRESENT

Living life in the past is something that a lot of people tend to do without meaning to. They hold onto past relationships and old grudges and things that are no longer happening, but still allow them to affect them.

“We’re living in a world that contributes in a major way to mental fragmentation, disintegration, distraction, decoherence,” says Buddhist scholar B. Alan Wallace.

When you do yoga, it helps you live your life in the present instead of hanging on to the past. With yoga, you have to focus on your body, on your breathing, and on your balance. Using these things teaches us to be present in the moment. When both partners engage in yoga together, you’ll both be present in the moment and be able to connect with each other more fully.

4. YOGA LOWERS YOUR DEFENSES

Yoga is all about releasing tension and energy that gets built up in our bodies. When we open ourselves and release that tension, our defenses lower and allow us to engage with the people around us in a healthier manner. We have all known people, or perhaps been that person, who is always withholding themselves from their partner for fear of getting hurt. That can cause a lot of tension in the relationship.

Thankfully, doing yoga together can repair those issues between partners and strengthen your connection. Relationships that have one or both partners who have raised defenses often do not last.

FINAL note: After yoga classes...a man might be permitted to enjoy some Sports on the sports channel and invite his lady to join him. Give to receive!

She has trust issues.....But he can help her get over them

Now look me in the eyes
and tell me why I should trust you.

Ladies, Stop Getting Hurt by Untrustworthy DUDES.

“Honesty is the best policy.” – Benjamin Franklin


Ladies, do you want to know whether your Significant Other is sincere? Is that significant YES? No problem! I have some signs for you today to show that your man is a fountain of truth when it involves you. I know you are champing at the bit to find out, so let me take a look and see what they are.


HE EMPOWERS YOU.

He sings your praises, both in your presence and your absence. He knows you like the back of his hand and what you are capable of, and will stop at nothing to make sure you meet your goals, whatever they may be. When a real man give a compliment, you know deep down that what he says is for real. There is no ulterior motive for what he says.


On the other hand, a man who gives you a backhanded big-up does so in order to change and/or condition you in some form or other. Examples of which could be:


– “You’re pretty for a *insert descriptive word here* girl.”


– “You’re a good driver for a woman.”


– “You finally look as good as you did when we first met!”


HE FIGHTS FAIRLY.


Too many people have to resort to name-calling and the dreaded blame game, which can put the “mental” in “detrimental” in terms of any relationship, let alone a supposedly loving one.  Here are some examples from Hey Sigmund‘s Karen Young that sincere people do to fight fairly:


– “Don’t fear conflict.”


Conflict is normal and healthy and is an opportunity for growth. Fearing it will just make you avoid it, thus issues will fester and become worse.


– “Attack the issue, not each other.”


You are both on the same side, so tackle what is wrong with the situation, not your partner. If you go after your partner, resentment can creep in and withdrawal can occur.


– “Stay with the issue at hand.”


No veering off on a tangent or winning the argument with the oft-used “I’m right, you’re wrong!” spiel. Look to conflict resolution, not cheap points scoring.


– “Be open about what you need.”


After all, there is nobody on this planet that can read your mind. Bottling things up is hazardous and can lead to imploding with some ugly consequences.


– “Stay away from “always” and “never” in fights.”


These two evil twins are more dangerous than Ronnie and Reggie Kray in their heyday. All these words do is add fuel to the fire. They are off limits in all circumstances.



HE WANTS THE SAME THINGS AS YOU.


Imagine this scenario: You have been dating him for a while now and are dying for him to get down on bended knee and pop the question. At a dinner at your married friend’s house, he declares the question you want so badly is out of the question for him. How do you feel? How does your friend and her husband feel for you?


A sincere man with good intentions tells you exactly what he wants out of the relationship with no stone unturned. Do you both want to marry? Do you both want kids? What are your professional aspirations for each other? Do you agree on living arrangements? If you do not know this by now, ask him and see how he reacts.


HE PRIORITISES THE RELATIONSHIP OVER OTHER THINGS.

So I can count on you doing
 the things you said you would do.

 

He makes sure that things do not interfere with the integrity of the relationship with you. He lets you know of his plans to go out with the boys to let off some steam if you both have already had date night(s) earlier in the week. He will steer clear of temptation with other women, because he is mature and would never risk what he has at home. Of course, he would also let you let your hair down with the girls so YOU can let off steam.



On the other side of the coin, if everything else is higher than you on his priorities list, then you need to watch closely at what he does and how he acts and decide whether if this is justified or not. If not, you need to know if this will change in the near future or if you are flogging a dead horse.


HE IS A GOOD COMMUNICATOR.


This one has been left until last....because we know ..this guy is in the minority . we men are almost never good communicators... however we can be if we are passionate

Let's crown each other

What? Is it true Or Is It Untrue?

Do you recognize the difference between potential true and  Untrue Love!

Things seem's so great
Between us, it almost seems
 too good to be real.

You met that great person a few months ago and everything on the surface seems great. However, something in the back of your mind is telling you that the oasis of love seems like a mirage, yet you are not able to quite put your finger on it. Have you really found the sweet water of love amongst hundreds of square miles of dating desert? These red flags tell you what to look out for in the grander scheme of things.:

1. THEY DO NOT READ YOUR MIND.

No, not like Mel Gibson in “What Women Want”, but how can anyone possibly enjoy a special relationship with a person who do not have those “you read my mind” moments every once in a while? Having these moments shows how strong a connection you both have, and the feeling when it happens is the ultimate in soulmates. It almost makes the intangible tangible. One look is all it takes for fireworks to go off in your minds. Of course, it is not the be all and end all but not having this happen at all is not good.

2. THERE IS ZERO CHEMISTRY.

We need physics to get to chemistry. Therefore, if your magnet of attraction is not functioning properly, how can there be a chemical reaction in their brain? This applies even more so when you are in a relationship. No chemistry makes a relationship go stale and be lifeless. We only get a maximum of two years’ worth of chemistry from Mother Nature to start relationship between soulmates, after that we must put in the effort. However, people go on autopilot romantically because “we have them”. Unless you are a necrophiliac, this becomes a soulless relationship.

3. THEY NEVER COMPLIMENT YOU.

The late Mother Teresa once said that “there is more hunger for love and appreciation in this world than for bread.”   We want the people that we care about to feel great, don't we? The best way to do that is to compliment them. An example for the ladies: “You look beautiful in that red dress.” And the fellas: “You are so amazing taking me to the beach on your day off.” It is a little reminder that they are indeed important people in our lives. If that even rarely happens, let alone wanting to bring you down a peg or two, then you must ask yourself why.

4. YOU FEEL JUDGEMENT ON A CONSISTENT LEVEL.

“That cheese you are eating stinks more than your awful smelly feet. Put it away and take a shower.” Being judgemental is like cyanide to relationships, except the poison is gradual and it gnaws away at what you have with your beau/bella. Many believe love is putting up with, sacrificing, tolerating, or suffering in silence thinking their commitment is proof of their love. This is not love. Do you think that this constitutes a special relationship?  Understanding, seeing, hearing, and accepting someone for who they are is love. In other words, talking to your sweetheart and conveying your dislikes in a calm manner can promote individuality within the two-person union.

5. YOUR DEARLY BELOVED SEEMS TO FORGET YOUR EXISTENCE.


Out of sight, out of mind? You should not be.They say that relationships should be fifty-fifty, but does your squeeze put a hundred percent into their fifty? Receiving that text in the morning tells you that you are in their thoughts. Bringing soup or going to the pharmacy for you when you are  not well implies that they are there in the bad times as well. Remembering the great time you both had at the beach and laughing about how they beat you at the game you both made up (you let them win, of course!). These are just three examples of many of how much you mean to them. It is all about how high you are on their list of priorities.

 This is for the Lover in You, that I've got to find

How can I make her feel better?

I can surely use a pick me up, right about now.

 These are some things You Need to Text Your lady When She Feels Down.


Like most people in this digital era, you’ve probably sent your fair share of text messages. (Some people send hundreds of texts per day. Crazy!)


While this idea seems a little outlandish, sending messages to your lady when she has the blues can actually be a good way to get her back on track mentally. Sending solo text messages is also an excellent way to keep your compassionate side as   a reminder that you want her to keep looking forward to more of this kind of treatment.

Depending on the model of your phone and the apps available, you may be able to send her delayed text messages. (There is a free way to do this with an Android smartphone via the “Messages” app, and a paid application is available via the App Store on the iPhone.) Reading a well-timed message is great for times like the notorious mid-afternoon slump at work or the hellish early morning Traffic.

These blahs, need to go away...
I've got work to do.

1. “REMEMBER YOUR STRENGTHS/ACCOMPLISHMENTS/WINS.”

However you want to phrase your message is cool. The point here is not to allow the frenzy of life sabotage her sense of self-worth.

So often, we forget what a real badass she is – things she has’ overcome, achieved, and won. Reminding her of these things is not just flatteryl; it’s necessary sometimes.

2. “EMOTIONS ARE FLEETING.”

That’s right, this includes the good emotions. Why remember this quote? Why text this to your lady?

Because human beings, when their minds are adrift (which is most of the time), gravitate towards impulsivity and negative emotions. If she ’s feeling great when she get this message, that’s okay! Remind her to Enjoy the moment! If she's feeling bad,  it,will remind her that it’s only temporary!

3. “ADVERSITY BREEDS CHARACTER.”

Building strength requires frictional force. When she's having a crappy day, remind her that she has becoming a stronger individual. She's building a more refined character.

It’s hard to remember these points in the throes of a maddening workday or overscheduled evening, which makes it a perfect memo to send to her.

I so wish I can rejuvenate and feel positive again.

4. “HERE AND NOW.”

This quote is all about mindfulness. The fact of the matter is that our minds tend to fixate on the past or the future; what has happened and what could happen. These ruminations are the antithesis of mindfulness, which is based on accepting your present condition, be it good or bad.

Be here. Now!


5. “THE ONLY CONSTANT IS CHANGE.”

In today’s 24/7, always-on society, the only constant is continuous change. This isn’t a bad thing. Can you imagine a world where nothing changed, whether good or bad? In the former scenario, we’d be in a utopia; the other, hell.

Good, neutral, or negative; change happens. Embrace it – or at least accept it.

6. “YOU’RE NOT AN ISLAND.”

A twist on “No one is an island,” this personalized quote serves to remind her that people are standing by and willing to help. In the midst of turmoil, it’s easy to feel a dark sense of solitude.

Remembering that good souls are there to lend their ear is something we all need to remind ourselves from time to time. Now she knows you will be there when she needs you.

7. “ATTENTION REGULATES EMOTION.”

To all the parents out there, how many times have you used the “What’s that?!” or “Look over there!” trick to calm your rambunctious or wailing child?

What happens? Well, your kid stops (at least for a while!) The reason is that where we put our focus (on the inner, outer, or “other”) is what determines our emotions. The fact that we can choose our emotions through our attention is very powerful when applied with a purpose. When in a state confusion... focus on me and become calm knowing I'm here if you need me."

8. “REMEMBER TO MOVE.”

Nothing beats moving around to get yourself feeling better faster. Today’s office jobs are (sadly) ruled by the stationary, sit-in-your-chair-and-don’t-move-till-it’s-breaktime old-fashioned ways of working.

Remind her to move around when she can – even if it’s just a quick stretch or jaunt around your desk. She’ll feel better almost instantly.

An energizer would do me good
right now

Let's do it again and again! For old times sake!

Relationship Tricks That Make You Go From early Lust To Love.  Over and over Again and Again!

So we still have the same fire after all this time together lets keep going on and on

All romantic relationships take work to make it work; ask Angelina and Brad… oh wait! That's a very B.A.D. example.

While I should be the last person to laugh at another’s failed relationship. I can talk about how to improve it a bit. Both parties need to keep watering the plant of love on a daily basis; otherwise, that plant will wither and die. Your question is: “How does one maintain and improve the relationship every day?” I thought you would never ask. Read the followin

1. TURN OFF ALL PHONES (OR AT LEAST KEEP THEM ON SILENT WITH VIBRATE MODE OFF)

Imagine the setting: You somehow managed to get a reservation at the swankiest restaurant in town. You have ordered the oysters, the chateaubriand for two, the $50 bottle of wine, everything is just right. Then your date gets a phone call and they are talking bla blah blah for a while, slurping in the oysters while they talk. When they do hang up the phone, it seemingly becomes superglued to their hand and they never look up from the thing. Before you know it, the waiter asks for dessert and they ask for one to share, all the while magically spellbound by their iPhone X. Cinema (movie theater) rules should apply here, ladies and gentlemen. Not only is it rude to not pay attention to the person you are with, it is a serious mood killer.

2. GOING TO BED AT THE SAME TIME

Let's keep our heads close together
and share the same dreams.

This is intimacy in true form. Going to bed at the same time is akin to spooning or pillow talk after doing the horizontal fandango, when sleep patterns diverge, it’s harder to keep a real connection. Enough of whatever  you are doing that  you think is so important that you are unable to go to bed at the same time as your partner? Maybe it is unavoidable, like the graveyard shift at work. Maybe your favourite program is on the TV late. Maybe you are gambling your money away and you do not want your other half to find out about it. If it is avoidable, at least try to make the effort of doing this. Your partner will be grateful you did and it should be a no-brainer.

3. A SMALL GESTURE TELLING THEM YOU ARE THINKING OF THEM

It is hardly rocket science, but knowing that you are in the thoughts of your special someone makes you feel special. This is where you can get your creative juices going. You can WhatsApp them saying, “Morning sweetie. Bringing a ray of sunshine to your day. I love you.” You could even leave a card saying the same thing, this is somewhat romantic. I know this is cheesier than your favourite Scotch but how about a poem.... just because?

Roses are red

Violets are blue

You’ll never guess what?

I’m so in love with you.

Do Not LOL!

I can't believe we are above cloud #9

4. TRYING SOMETHING NEW TOGETHER

This is a surefire way to make the Bond stronger, James. No, you do not have to fight Jaws or blow up a Russian missile silo. If you have not watched Bond movies together yet, rent Quantum of Solace or Octopussy or any of the others. Another suggestion is that you could do some roleplay as 007 and Bond Girl to keep things shaken, not stirred between you two. The good thing about it is that you do not have to report back to Q later. Be careful with those gadgets. Now LOL.!

5. WITHHOLD  CRITICISM

Criticising can take the edge off that loving feeling. Before the need to start singing the song by the Righteous Brothers,(OOPS SHOWING that I'm old school) just think for a moment before uttering the words that cannot be taken back. Even if it is minor criticism, instead suggest another way of doing whatever it is your partner is doing. This can really help the relationship by your partner doing better in your eyes and you are now satisfied with the way they do it. Sing it with me “Bring back that lovin’ feelin’, Whoa, that lovin’ feelin’.” Yeah!

6. A LITTLE GRATITUDE GOES A LONG WAY

Wow sir,  you cleaned the bathroom!

“Thank you” are two key words that can boost your romantic situation. Let's try something here, “I thank you for reading this post” What Im thanking you for is the time you are taking out of your life to read this post!
                    Do I ever cross your mind?