How can I make her feel better?

I can surely use a pick me up, right about now.

 These are some things You Need to Text Your lady When She Feels Down.


Like most people in this digital era, you’ve probably sent your fair share of text messages. (Some people send hundreds of texts per day. Crazy!)


While this idea seems a little outlandish, sending messages to your lady when she has the blues can actually be a good way to get her back on track mentally. Sending solo text messages is also an excellent way to keep your compassionate side as   a reminder that you want her to keep looking forward to more of this kind of treatment.

Depending on the model of your phone and the apps available, you may be able to send her delayed text messages. (There is a free way to do this with an Android smartphone via the “Messages” app, and a paid application is available via the App Store on the iPhone.) Reading a well-timed message is great for times like the notorious mid-afternoon slump at work or the hellish early morning Traffic.

These blahs, need to go away...
I've got work to do.

1. “REMEMBER YOUR STRENGTHS/ACCOMPLISHMENTS/WINS.”

However you want to phrase your message is cool. The point here is not to allow the frenzy of life sabotage her sense of self-worth.

So often, we forget what a real badass she is – things she has’ overcome, achieved, and won. Reminding her of these things is not just flatteryl; it’s necessary sometimes.

2. “EMOTIONS ARE FLEETING.”

That’s right, this includes the good emotions. Why remember this quote? Why text this to your lady?

Because human beings, when their minds are adrift (which is most of the time), gravitate towards impulsivity and negative emotions. If she ’s feeling great when she get this message, that’s okay! Remind her to Enjoy the moment! If she's feeling bad,  it,will remind her that it’s only temporary!

3. “ADVERSITY BREEDS CHARACTER.”

Building strength requires frictional force. When she's having a crappy day, remind her that she has becoming a stronger individual. She's building a more refined character.

It’s hard to remember these points in the throes of a maddening workday or overscheduled evening, which makes it a perfect memo to send to her.

I so wish I can rejuvenate and feel positive again.

4. “HERE AND NOW.”

This quote is all about mindfulness. The fact of the matter is that our minds tend to fixate on the past or the future; what has happened and what could happen. These ruminations are the antithesis of mindfulness, which is based on accepting your present condition, be it good or bad.

Be here. Now!


5. “THE ONLY CONSTANT IS CHANGE.”

In today’s 24/7, always-on society, the only constant is continuous change. This isn’t a bad thing. Can you imagine a world where nothing changed, whether good or bad? In the former scenario, we’d be in a utopia; the other, hell.

Good, neutral, or negative; change happens. Embrace it – or at least accept it.

6. “YOU’RE NOT AN ISLAND.”

A twist on “No one is an island,” this personalized quote serves to remind her that people are standing by and willing to help. In the midst of turmoil, it’s easy to feel a dark sense of solitude.

Remembering that good souls are there to lend their ear is something we all need to remind ourselves from time to time. Now she knows you will be there when she needs you.

7. “ATTENTION REGULATES EMOTION.”

To all the parents out there, how many times have you used the “What’s that?!” or “Look over there!” trick to calm your rambunctious or wailing child?

What happens? Well, your kid stops (at least for a while!) The reason is that where we put our focus (on the inner, outer, or “other”) is what determines our emotions. The fact that we can choose our emotions through our attention is very powerful when applied with a purpose. When in a state confusion... focus on me and become calm knowing I'm here if you need me."

8. “REMEMBER TO MOVE.”

Nothing beats moving around to get yourself feeling better faster. Today’s office jobs are (sadly) ruled by the stationary, sit-in-your-chair-and-don’t-move-till-it’s-breaktime old-fashioned ways of working.

Remind her to move around when she can – even if it’s just a quick stretch or jaunt around your desk. She’ll feel better almost instantly.

An energizer would do me good
right now