Brad Pitt’s Powerful Marriage Advice Will Melt Your Heart, or not.
The divorce that followed after 11 years of marriage has inspired Brad Pitt to write this piece of advice.
“Obviously, I’m not a relationship expert. I would have done differently… After losing a woman that I loved, and a marriage of almost 11 years, here’s the advice I wish I would have had:
Never stop courting
You must NEVER take your partner for granted. By proposing marriage, you made a promise that you will always protect her heart. And since she chose you it means she trusted you that you will never get lazy in your love.
Protect your own heart
Since you have committed to protect her heart you should also protect your own just as carefully. If you love yourself, you will be able to love your partner too. And you must never let someone else in your heart to take the place of your wife.
Fall in love over and over again
People constantly change and you can’t expect to be the same after 5 or 10 years. This also applies to both partner in a marriage. Everyday situations make us change whether we like it or not. This means you will constantly need to re-choose yourselves. She does not have to stay with you and if you are not willing to take care of her heart she might find someone else that is willing to.
Always see the best in her
Be focused on the things you love and those things will grow. If you focus on the annoying little things you will never be truly happy. Try hard to focus until the only thing you see is love and never doubt that you are the happiest man with your wife.
It’s not your job to fix or change her
You should love her just the way she is and never try to make her a different person. If she changes you should love that version of herself and accept her completely.
Take full accountability
This applies for your emotions because your wife is not responsible for your happiness, you are. If you are not able to find your own happiness she will never do it for you no matter how hard she tries.
Never blame her if you…
Getting angry or frustrated at her means she is triggering something that you already have inside. Your emotions are your own responsibility and if she uncovers them it does not mean she is the reason for their appearance. Take a look inside and acknowledge the things you should heal.
Allow her to just be
Sometimes when she is sad or upset and you can’t help her change that, the least you can do is hold her and listen to her if she wants to open up. Even though you might not be able to improve the situation, tell her that she can always talk to you and share her pain. Don’t run away from her when she is upset, stay near and comfort her by listening.
Be silly
Laugh and make her laugh. This way you can survive even the toughest situations.
Fill her soul everyday
Find out how you can make her feel validated, cherished and important. Try to discover at least 10 things that you can do to make her feel happy and never forget them.
Be present
Giving her your time is not enough, make sure she gets your soul, attention and focus too. Forget about everything else when you are with her and focus on her entirely.
Be willing to take her $exually
This does not mean you shouldn’t respect her desires and wishes and try to force yourself on her. Being $exually intimate also involves creating a deep bond with her soul to. Show her that she can trust you fully and let her melt into her feminine softness.
Don’t be an idiot
You shouldn’t be afraid to be an idiot either. You are both going to make mistakes but try not to do them too often and learn from past experiences. Nobody is perfect but that does not mean you should be stupid.
Give her space
Women are often very good at giving all the time so they need to be reminded to take care of themselves too. She might feel the need to do something for her soul, so give her the space and time she requires to recharge.
Be vulnerable
If you are a man it does not mean you don’t have a soft and emotional side. Don’t be afraid to show your vulnerability to her and share your feelings.
Be fully transparent
If you want her to trust you it means you should share everything with her, including the things you don’t want to. Open up entirely in front of her and she will know that you truly love her and respect her. Even if you have a mask to use in front of everyone else, you must never wear it in front of her.
Never stop growing together
Stagnant pond breeds malaria and the flowing stream is cool and fresh always. If you stop working a muscle it will atrophy, and the same applies to a relationship. It requires working too, and you should find common dreams and goals that you can work towards together.
Don’t worry about money
Money is never important when you are fighting. Even though you need it, you should not neglect other aspects of your relationship and only care for money.
Forgive immediately
Don’t wear the weight from the past, focus on the future instead. History can keep you hostage and it will hold back your marriage like an anchor. Forgiveness provides freedom so cut the anchor loose and enjoy life.
Always choose love
This is the most important piece of advice. If you choose love, there is nothing that can affect your happiness and marriage. Marriage does not mean happily ever after; it requires work all the way. Being committed to grow together will help you last long.
