What? Is it true Or Is It Untrue?

Do you recognize the difference between potential true and  Untrue Love!

Things seem's so great
Between us, it almost seems
 too good to be real.

You met that great person a few months ago and everything on the surface seems great. However, something in the back of your mind is telling you that the oasis of love seems like a mirage, yet you are not able to quite put your finger on it. Have you really found the sweet water of love amongst hundreds of square miles of dating desert? These red flags tell you what to look out for in the grander scheme of things.:

1. THEY DO NOT READ YOUR MIND.

No, not like Mel Gibson in “What Women Want”, but how can anyone possibly enjoy a special relationship with a person who do not have those “you read my mind” moments every once in a while? Having these moments shows how strong a connection you both have, and the feeling when it happens is the ultimate in soulmates. It almost makes the intangible tangible. One look is all it takes for fireworks to go off in your minds. Of course, it is not the be all and end all but not having this happen at all is not good.

2. THERE IS ZERO CHEMISTRY.

We need physics to get to chemistry. Therefore, if your magnet of attraction is not functioning properly, how can there be a chemical reaction in their brain? This applies even more so when you are in a relationship. No chemistry makes a relationship go stale and be lifeless. We only get a maximum of two years’ worth of chemistry from Mother Nature to start relationship between soulmates, after that we must put in the effort. However, people go on autopilot romantically because “we have them”. Unless you are a necrophiliac, this becomes a soulless relationship.

3. THEY NEVER COMPLIMENT YOU.

The late Mother Teresa once said that “there is more hunger for love and appreciation in this world than for bread.”   We want the people that we care about to feel great, don't we? The best way to do that is to compliment them. An example for the ladies: “You look beautiful in that red dress.” And the fellas: “You are so amazing taking me to the beach on your day off.” It is a little reminder that they are indeed important people in our lives. If that even rarely happens, let alone wanting to bring you down a peg or two, then you must ask yourself why.

4. YOU FEEL JUDGEMENT ON A CONSISTENT LEVEL.

“That cheese you are eating stinks more than your awful smelly feet. Put it away and take a shower.” Being judgemental is like cyanide to relationships, except the poison is gradual and it gnaws away at what you have with your beau/bella. Many believe love is putting up with, sacrificing, tolerating, or suffering in silence thinking their commitment is proof of their love. This is not love. Do you think that this constitutes a special relationship?  Understanding, seeing, hearing, and accepting someone for who they are is love. In other words, talking to your sweetheart and conveying your dislikes in a calm manner can promote individuality within the two-person union.

5. YOUR DEARLY BELOVED SEEMS TO FORGET YOUR EXISTENCE.


Out of sight, out of mind? You should not be.They say that relationships should be fifty-fifty, but does your squeeze put a hundred percent into their fifty? Receiving that text in the morning tells you that you are in their thoughts. Bringing soup or going to the pharmacy for you when you are  not well implies that they are there in the bad times as well. Remembering the great time you both had at the beach and laughing about how they beat you at the game you both made up (you let them win, of course!). These are just three examples of many of how much you mean to them. It is all about how high you are on their list of priorities.

 This is for the Lover in You, that I've got to find