Gone are the days when men were the only ones cheating.

Here Are Some Obvious signsYour Partner May Be Sleeping With Someone Else


Sex is No Longer Exciting.


Sadly, there’s no sure-fire way of knowing that your significant other is sleeping around behind your back, but there are many suspicious characteristics that could reveal this shady behavior. For instance, if sex between you and your partner suddenly becomes disinteresting, that’s a strong sign.


It's Not Fun Being Around You Anymore

What do you mean?
 I'm still the same fun guy
 I was when you met me! 

If the excitement is gone outside of the bedroom, and time together has become a slog all of a sudden for no particular reason, that’s a powerful indication that they’ve lost interest. Why? It may be because there’s someone else in the equation.


Long Delays in Communication


If they can’t get back to calls or texts in time, you’re not wrong for wondering why. Naturally, if someone’s deprioritized you or are juggling two lovers, they’ll have a hard time managing all that correspondence. Beware of this.



Your Partner is Always Late

I told you he would show up eventually
Late as always.
 Probably  told his wife he has to work late,
 my husband is out of town, so I can hang all night .

This goes to the last point. The fact is that managing one relationship is hard. Managing two means something’s gotta give and your partner could wind up spreading themselves too thin, meaning they’re always running behind.

Look at Your Finances.


If your partner claims to be working extra hours, but doesn’t have the pay to show for it, or is spending money like water, but you can’t account for it, it’s a sign they’re hiding...something. As to what that is, well that remains to be seen, but be suspicious.


They Suddenly Carry a Second Phone


This is as close to a smoking gun as there can be. It’s possible that work-related reasons could cause this new addition, but otherwise, it may mean that there’s something to hide. Whatever it may be, it’s not good, otherwise they’d tell you.

Attractiveness means never over doing sexy

Age is just number

When a woman has natural sex appeal, she does not need to do what others do to be sexy, she avoids  looking slutty. She has a nature strength...she stands out as a strong woman with class.

  
Physical attraction may be as old as time, but new studies are beginning to uncover the science behind sex appeal.

Unexpected factors—like smell, facial symmetry, voice pitch, financial stability and kissing prowess—just might have more to do with your choice of mate than anyone ever expected. Discover the evolutionary explanations.

Smell

Fragrance that's alluring

A spritz on the wrist. A dab behind the ears. Many women spend a lot of time—and money—searching for a signature scent that attracts the opposite sex. Little do they know, these lotions and potions actually mask the natural odors scientists say potential mates find most appealing.

Karl Grammer and Elizabeth Oberzaucher, researchers who study how the human scent influences sexual attraction, found that when women are ovulating, they produce pheromones called copulins. Copulins have a distinct smell, which Elizabeth describes as "butter gone off."

When a man gets a whiff of copulins, his testosterone levels rise. As a result, he secretes androstenone, an odor that repels women who aren't ovulating.

Sex therapist Dr. Laura Berman says science and evolution plays a larger role in attraction than people might think. "We are capable of discerning 10,000 different scents consciously," she says. "But then there's a whole realm of unconscious scents that we're not even aware that we're smelling."

In one recent study, Dr. Berman says researchers had women smell men's T-shirts. The women were most attracted to the shirts of men whose major histocompatability complexes (MHC) differed from theirs. MHC is a collection of genes that are related to immune systems. "We unconsciously want to mate with someone who has a different immune system than ours," Dr. Berman says. "That helps with the survival of our offspring."

Final thoughts

Strong women, with natural sex appeal gives this world hope and show us a great example of what we can become if we strive to reach our full potential. These women never gave up despite countless obstacles and adversity, and we wouldn’t be here today without them. In a relationship, a strong woman knows how to balance her fiery nature with her grace and wisdom in order to avoid taking total balanced control of the partnership. She might come on a bit strong in the beginning, but she will let you take the reigns too once she gets to know you.

Being in a relationship with this type of woman is quite a privilege, and should not be taken for granted. A strong woman can take a relationship to new heights and show you how amazing love can truly be.

I always knew I was a strong appealing woman,
I really  don't need any extra props.

Who is she, and how smart is she?

The following was my reason for picking a smart woman to have kids with...
I learned a long time ago that you don't just roll the dice and hope for a lucky 7. when it comes to shaping your future.  If I wasn't sure back then... the following makes me sure now.

 Children Inherit Intelligence from Their Mother, Not Their Father

A lot of fathers are going to hate this, but (facts speake louder than words) genetic research has found (people) probably get a log of intelligence from their X gene, the feminine one…The X chromosome has a thousand gene, and a bunch of them influence cognition. – Dr. Keith Witt
Until quite recently, it was generally accepted that both parents have a roughly equal influence on their child’s intelligence. However, it turns out – should this research be proven correct – that women have a much larger impact on their child’s cognitive abilities than men.

Now, it is important to understand that this research is quite controversial. Most studies claiming to uncover the enigmatic functioning of intelligence often evoke passionate debate. Relatedly, genetics is a highly-complex and multifaceted scientific arena. Studies are continuously being produced that seek to disavow, or seriously alter, any related study before it.

Regardless of the vigorous debate, it is beneficial to present (and interpret) these findings with an objective mind. If anything, this study is fascinatingly entertaining. Ultimately, this is the goal – to entertain. I hope that my readers find this study to be as intriguing as I have.

The Role of X and Y Chromosomes

Many people do not have much of a clue when it comes to genetics. As such, it’s beneficial to quickly go over a couple important facts. This will also make reading and understanding the remainder of this post much easier.

– A chromosome is a thread-like structure consisting of nucleic acids and protein. They carry genetic information.



– Every human being carries one pair of chromosomes in each cell.

– Females have two X chromosomes. Males have one X and one Y chromosome.

“Conditioned Genes”

Conditioned genes, in the most basic sense, are those that are gender-specific. As a rule, the genetic properties of conditioned genes are either activated or deactivated depending upon the specific designation and, subsequently, the genetic properties being influenced.

Conditioned genes inherently contain a “tagging” system, which is made up of biochemical material. This tagging system allows two important things: (1) tracing to the gene’s point of origin, and (2) determination of an activated or deactivated state within the body. Activated genes will influence genetic development, while deactivated genes will not.

To the second point, if an individual characteristic is influenced via the mother, the paternal genes are deactivated. Conversely, if an attribute is influence via the father, the maternal genes are subsequently deactivated.

Cognition is thought to be influenced mainly by the X chromosome. Theoretically, women are more likely to influence cognition, as females possess two X chromosomes while men carry just one. Of course, there is much more to the theory than the number of X chromosomes.

This is where conditioned genes (remember?) comes into play.Intelligence is thought to be a highly-conditioned gene – a conditioned gene that comes directly form the mother.

In this study, scientists used genetically-modified mice to test their hypothesis. They discovered embryonic test subjects that were administered predominantly maternal genetic material developed a disproportionately larger cranium and brain, while developing a much smaller body. Subjects administered disproportionate amounts of paternal genetic material developed a larger body, but a smaller cranium and brain.

In addition to cranium and brain size, researchers were privy to some other interesting observations. First, they identified six areas of the brain that contained only maternal or paternal genes. Second, they did not find any paternal genetic material within the cerebral cortex – the area of the brain responsible for executive functioning, such as language, planning, logical reasoning and advanced thinking.

The idea that mothers have a disproportionate influence on a child’s intelligence is not a new one. In 1984, the University of Cambridge studied both brain development (termed “co-evolution) and genomic conditioning. Cambridge sciences ultimately concluded that maternal genetics contribute more to the thought centers of the brain.

Fast-forward to today and similar findings have taken place, like the experiment described above.

In one particularly noteworthy study, researchers at a governmental agency in Scotland followed a group of 12,686 people aged 14 to 22. Each year, researchers would interview the subjects while observing intellectual development while considering various factors, from education to ethnicity. The scientists conclusively state that the mother’s IQ was found to be the best predictor of intelligence.

Conclusion

Without a doubt, the findings of this and related studies pertaining to intelligence will continue to be evaluated and scrutinized. As mentioned, no scientific study that makes claims to the development of intellect will ever be fully accepted by all.

However, if there is one conclusion that can be reached it’s this: mothers have a significant influence on their children’s cognitive abilities.

And it isn’t just genetics, either. Far from it. Nourishment and nurturement of a child directly influences their intellectual growth – two responsibilities mainly overseen by the mother. Furthermore, the special bond between a mother and child provides stimulus for them to explore the world and navigate problems.

In conclusion, women play a much larger role to the intellectual development of children than can be understood by a genetics experiment. However, the findings of these and other studies seem to buttress the notion that our mom’s give us our brainpower.

Even though I knew that my father was a smart man, I often questioned some of his decision he made when my mom was not influencing him. I sometimes realize that the best decisions I made was influenced by the women in my life and I had my fair share of good influences from women.  But I had to be receptive... this came from recognizing that my Mom's direct impact on my brain played a strong role in my thinking patterns.

THANKS MOM.

You may not be understanding each other's motives!

You Shouldn’t End Your Relationship, if it has not reached its expiration date.

Now this might sounds strange coming from a guy who got divorced after many years of marriage.


Your relationship is not perfect and you’ve been wondering if the grass is possibly greener elsewhere, so should you end it? If you haven’t come to a decision about whether or not to break up with your partner, we have a little advice for you.

It is always easier to break something than to fix what is broken, but you don’t throw away a car because it has a broken windshield due a hurricane; you pay to get it fixed. The same is true of a relationship.

When a relationship ends, there is a period of time where we need to grieve the loss of the connection to that person who was a part of our lives for so very long. Researchers who conducted brain scan imaging of people who are grieving the loss of a romantic relationship found that the patterns of activity in the brain are similar to that found in people suffering from depression.

In your relationship, you have made an investment in time, energy, emotion and other parts of your life. Maybe you shouldn’t end your relationship yet. Here are some signs to help you make a decision about whether breaking it off should be your next move.

1. YOU HAVE GREAT CHEMISTRY

You shouldn’t end your relationship of a boring sex life has never been a problem for you two, even now that you’ve been together for a while. If that’s the case, you are indeed lucky to have such amazing chemistry and an innovative partner.

Being able to keep things interesting in the bedroom is a good sign that you shouldn’t end your relationship. No one wants to grow old with someone that they are tired of making love to, but if you and your partner have what it takes to keep things passionate, you may have found a keeper.

2. YOU FIGHT OVER LITTLE THINGS

He has the remote and won’t let you watch your show. You made a salad for dinner and he’s a carnivore. The fighting sometimes seems endless in your relationship and you just want it to end.

But do you argue over the big things that really  matter? If you aren’t fighting over your values, beliefs, or morals then you may be more compatible than you thought. Learn to compromise on the unimportant things and you’ll be much happier in the relationship you already have been rather than ending things.

All couples have arguments. You can learn to live with having separate preferences for dinner but at least you share a common set of values that would help you raise an amazing family together.

3. YOU’RE STRONGER TOGETHER THAN APART

Are you a better person when you’re with your partner or when you’re apart? Does your partner challenge you? Do they encourage you and inspire you to be your best? If your partner helps you to be your best self, it’s not a good idea to end your relationship.

Very few people can say that they have found someone who is a match for them spiritually, in the sense that their partner helps them to be fulfilled. If your partner looks after your mental, emotional, physical and spiritual well-being, you can hardly ask for anything else in a relationship.

4. YOUR PARTNER SUPPORTS YOUR DREAMS

When you told your partner that you wanted to quit your job and be a pastry chef, they said ‘That’s amazing!’ rather than ‘Why on earth would you want to do that?’ you should not end your relationship with this supportive person.

5. YOU HAVE BUILT SOMETHING TOGETHER

When you and your partner have worked toward a common goal of building a loving family, a business, or a project that you intend to keep working on, it’s a sign that you shouldn’t end your relationship.

Ending your relationship now would mean that you will have to keep seeing your ex as you continue to focus on what you are both passionately involved in. That could get quite awkward.


Final thought:
"Loyalty  has an expiration date!"
After all the above has past there experation time/date... then you can say your goodbye...bye bye!

Behaviors That Can Lead to Divorce

Why didn't someone warn me, it could turnout this way
Thinking about what went wrong,
while being all dressed up with no more psrtnrt to go out with.
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“In just 15 minutes of interaction, an expert can predict with a 90 percent degree of accuracy whether a couple will still be together in five years. That’s a pretty eye-opening statistic.” – Dave Elliott, Relationship Coach, and Behavioral Expert

An eye-opening statistic indeed, Mr. Elliott.

According to recent statistics, approximately 53% (more than half) of all US of American marriages end in divorce – the 10th-highest percentage in the world. 10th! So Which countries’ “divorce-to-marriage ratio percentage” is higher, you ask?

9. France: 55%
8. Cuba: 56%
7. Estonia: 58%
6. Luxembourg: 60%
5. Spain: 61%
4. Czech Republic: 66%
3. Hungary: 67%
2. Portugal: 68%
1. Belgium: 71%

There is  contention surrounding divorce metrics. The truth is that no measure  – passes muster for most statisticians, researchers, and scientists. That said, the divorce-to-marriage percentage ratio does take into account two essential pieces of information in its analysis: (1) actual marriage numbers, and (2) actual divorces expressed as a percentage of #1

Behind these figures are real human beings that have (and are) going through emotional pain and suffering. When researching for this post, this blogger (who is divorced) came upon these statistics and information that can only be described as both deeply saddening and deeply troubling.

The truth is that many couples don’t comprehend the complexity of marriage before tying the knot. “Figuring it out” is not a very sound strategy for navigating the inevitable (mostly unexpected) challenges that arise during marriage.

So, why do people get divorced? Of course, this is a very nuanced question with – in the majority of cases –there is no simple answer. That said, research was able to compile a list of 4 behaviors from reliable sources that may give us an idea to the former question.

HERE ARE SOME BEHAVIORS THAT OFTEN LEAD TO DIVORCE:

1. ACCUSATIONS

Relationship experts state that the habit of assigning blame without facts or questioning is “one of the absolutely kisses of death in a marriage.” The sad thing is that this behavior is easily correctable by asking a question as opposed to making a statement. (“Why are you so late coming home?” vs “Out partying with your buddies again!")

Giving your partner the benefit of the doubt, especially when they’ve earned it, is always good practice. If a behavior is unacceptable, a constructive dialogue is needed.

2. ADDICTIONS

Family lawyers attest that many clients who file divorce papers have a partner with an addiction. Alcohol, drugs and compulsive behaviors (e.g. gambling) are all often cited on the record.

Alcohol, substance abuse and compulsive behaviors are all treatable conditions. That said, one consensus that addiction rehabilitation counselors, therapists, and other experts have reached is that treatment is only possible when the addict truly wants to quit.

Sadly, the number of untreated or relapsed addicts far exceeds those who remain in treatment or overcome their vices – often to the detriment of their marriage and family. Treatment options are available if the person is willing to try rehabilitation.

3. ESTRANGEMENT

Estrangement is displayed in a variety of ways. The most prominent type of alienation is the refusal to confront an issue by ignoring or withdrawing from your partner. Estrangement is also seen as a form of abandonment; for example, getting angry at your spouse without explanation and slamming the front door as you leave.

Resolving issues is an inseparable part of a relationship. An inability or refusal to engage your partner in solving problems is the personification of immaturity and must be rectified.

4. INVALIDATION

Invalidation is another relationship-killer that involves “discrediting (your partner) or weakening them in some way.” This behavior is a twisted act of objectification that diminishes a person’s humanity by using  perceived negative thought that comes to mind.

Final Thoughts:
Many of us look back after a divorce and question what went wrong.... how did I get here. The journey was not a straight line. It had many turns and twists  just picture the above points and identify which things  happened in your union... and then ask yourself should you have behaved differently, if you had it to all over again Would you do better the  next time if given a chance.

Im so into you. But I can't be with you!

The dream will end when you awaken!

How To Release Attachments to Someone You Can’t Be With



“It’s hard to admit when you have fallen in love with someone who can’t be yours.” – Unknown

Almost everyone has had this particular experience: falling for someone that you can’t have. Whether this person is your best friend, or the partner of someone you know, your co-worker or just someone who lives too far away, pining after someone that you cant have, is never a good thing.

This is a particularly painful experience, and many of us have been in this exact situation, wondering how in the world we’re going to get over wanting someone that we can’t have.

As entrepreneur Paul Hudson rightly pointed out, “It’s the kind of love that doesn’t signal the beginning of something beautiful, but rather the end of something that might have been beautiful, but will never amount to anything more than what it is.” Fortunately, it’s entirely possible to both positively handle that pain and get over the other person.

1. ENJOY YOUR TIME TOGETHER

When you’re spending time with someone that you love but can’t have, it can be tempting to ask for more. However, that will only lead to rejection and more pain. Instead, focus on enjoying the time that you do spend together. Focusing on the good times that you have means that you’ll have more good memories to draw on so that you’re not spending your time thinking about how badly you want to be with them.

2. GET A HOBBY TO KEEP YOU OCCUPIED

When we’re hopelessly in love with someone that we can’t have, it may be hard to focus on anything else. Instead, try diverting your attention to other things, like hobbies. Find something that you really enjoy and put your energy into that. You’ll find that you pass the time much easier, and you might even stop thinking about them all the time. Finding ways to distract yourself from obsessing over someone that you can’t have will make it easier to move on.

3. PROTECT YOUR FEELINGS

Being this person’s friend is entirely possible. You can be there for them when they need it, but you also need to be able to know when something is too much. Learn to protect your feelings and set boundaries. If you find it hard to listen to them when they’re having troubles with their partner, it’s okay to set that boundary. Be there for them when you can, but also make sure that you’re taking care of yourself.

4. HAVE A SUPPORT SYSTEM

Surrounding yourself with other friends is a good way to make sure that you’re not alone. If you’re hopelessly in love with your best friend and can’t have them, life can get isolating pretty quickly. Instead, make sure that you have other friends who are supportive and understanding, so that you can always have someone to turn to when you’re feeling low about your unrequited love.

As relationship expert Dr. Jane Greer points out, “Allow yourself to be supported by your friends, even if you’re just going through the motions because it helps you jumpstart yourself into a new rhythm.”

5. LEARN TO COMPARTMENTALIZE

This is an important tool in making sure that your mind isn’t being obsessed with your unrequited love when you’re not together. When you’re hanging out with them, make sure that you’re enjoying your time together to the fullest. However, when you’re apart, you want to make sure that you’re not letting your mind keep wandering back to them and distract you from doing your work.

6. LIMIT CONTACT WITH THEM TO HEAL YOURSELF

Sometimes, your heart doesn’t stop pining. In that case, it’s time to stop letting your heart rule your head. If you’re in pain and in unrequited love after months or years, it may be time to limit the contact that you have with this person.

Relationship and dating expert Ravid Yosef says, “… Leave them behind. Keeping the line of communication open, no matter how good of ‘friends’ you think you’ll be is only keeping the hopes of a relationship alive.”
So let''s just KISS (Keep It Simple Silly) and say bye bye.

How A Woman’s Body Reacts To Not Being With The Right Man

Therefore not being with the right man is doing a number on your body,   ladies.

At every moment of every day, your body is constantly speaking to you. Unfortunately, because many people live a stressful and chaotic life, they don’t fully understand their own body language. There are three types of body materials (mental, emotional and physical); but we are much closer to the physical aspect of our body. For example: how a woman’s body reacts to being with the wrong man strains from physical body material. Below are some examples of how a woman’s body reacts to being with the wrong man.


- You Are Smiling Less When You’re Alone:
According to the Huffington Post, one of the body signs that you’re with the wrong person is if you’re not smiling when you think about the person while spending time by yourself. You might be able to lie to other people regarding your happiness, but the one person you cannot lie to is yourself. They add that if you are feeling down when you’re not around them (not because you miss them), then it could be a sign that you need to be true to yourself about your real feelings towards them.

- Low Self-Esteem:
Not only should a woman’s man make her feel happy, but he should also make her feel good about herself. Eharmony states that when a woman is with a man, her self-esteem should be at an all-time high. So if her confidence is completely destroyed and she is doubting herself constantly, it’s a sure sign that she is not with the right man. Your body only wants the best for us, which is why it sends out signs and signals to warn you.

- Emotionally Exhausted:
If a woman is in a thoughtful and healthy relationship, she should feel energized with her man. If she is emotionally and mentally drained, her body will begin to feel exhausted as well and won’t portray the slightest bit of energy around him.


- A Mind In Denial:
Every woman looks at their relationship carefully. Not one woman can say that she hasn’t convinced herself that something is right when it’s clearly not, says Eharmony. If a woman is in a healthy relationship with her man, she should never have to convince herself that she is doing the right thing by staying with him. But if she is constantly trying to convince herself to stay, chances are she is likely with the wrong man. Your mind can play tricks on you, but your body can feel when things are not exactly  right.

- You Neglect Yourself:
When a woman is in a relationship with her right man, she also has to maintain the relationship with herself. But if she ends up choosing the man over herself, she has either given in or given up on the relationship she had with herself, according to Psychology Today. This ties into denial; maybe she has convinced herself that being with this man is what will make her become a better person. So she uses this to justify why she has changed herself to stay with him.

-You Are Witnessing A Relationship Instead Of Being In One:
Many people get to a point in their lives where they let life happen instead of living it the way they want and should. This is especially true in relationships. Many women succumb to the feeling of being “taken” so they go through the motions of remembering anniversaries and buying gifts for their man. But a lot of this is just information remembered and not coming from passion felt.

Final note: as a man I know when a relationship is not going well... If I'm  never excited to see her then I can't suddenly flip a switch an become excited. Women think men are like dogs who are always willing to jump on any female that tooks good. The truth is, as dogs we like you or we don't. Pay  attention, ladies, and you will see if a man truly likes you .... by the way he reacts when he sees you. So it amazes me that women's intuition does not tell women instantly that the situation they find themselves in is not right for them. Use what nature has given you a radar that sounds an alarm that it feels not right. Therefore he's the WRONG man.

This ....might surprise you! Your actions may have adverse consequences

Are you always this aggressive?
We just met! Slow down.

 Behaviors That Push People Away. Instead of attracting them!


“Behavior is the mirror in which everyone shows their image.” – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

We all manifest one or more behaviors that push people away at least once, if not more times in life. It’s human nature and nothing anyone has to be ashamed about. The mere recognition that you’ve possessed one or more of these traits is a good step towards eliminating them from your life and allowing positivity to enter. Most of the time, people may not even realize that they’re pushing others away. There are several reasons for that, and this post will focus on what they are and how to reverse them.

 BEHAVIORS THAT PUSH PEOPLE AWAY (AND HOW TO REVERSE THEM):

SELFISHNESS

There’s no doubt that the world could use more considerate and thoughtful people. A small gesture of selflessness can go a long way in keeping people you care about the most in your life. Humans by nature are intuitive creatures, and can sense if you are doing something with selfish intent. Just because people may not always act on that intuition,  doesn’t make taking advantage of them OK.

In order to live a happy life, you have to learn how to live and thrive with others, and that requires giving away part of yourself without seeking anything in return. Ironically, when you give of yourself without expecting, you are returned that back and more. So if you need a blessing, switch your focus and just go be a blessing.

CONCEITEDNESS

The display of conceited behavior is sure to push people away in any social situation.  Nobody likes story after story of self-edification consistently communicated via an over-inflated ego. Talking about yourself is great, when it’s light and authentic.  It’s easy to tell the difference.

Despite what mainstream media may portray, there isn’t a single person in the whole world who is the center of everyone’s entire Universe.

It is always a good idea to let other people into the spotlight and consider the implications of your decisions and actions towards them in order to foster a healthy relationship. Pop any self-inflated bubble that you may be living in and try to communicate and understand the needs and happiness of those around you.

SELF-RIGHTEOUSNESS

Sometimes people tend to think highly of themselves and their beliefs… too highly, actually. This can lead to looking down on other people and their decisions without even knowing it. In certain cases, some people’s egos go so far, they may intentionally want others to feel degraded. But, this is a false way to live and gain respect.

To transform this, one must understand that each individual sets a different standard of how they want to live their lives – and that’s okay. We all have unique value and no one is better than anyone else.  Respect that and honor others as you honor yourself.

He may think I've run out of things
to complain about but he so wrong....

CHRONIC COMPLAINING

Happy and successful people do not complain much. On the other side, it seems that chronic complainers always have something negative to say… even when those around them are happy!

The bottom line: we all have different circumstances that we are given in this lifetime, but in the end these circumstances are ours – fair or unfair, wanted or unwanted. Instead, seek solutions to problems instead of complaining, which leads to nowhere.

What behaviors pushed you away from others, or what behaviors have you displayed that have caused other to embrace you?

Final thought: as people we all want to be Alpha, we men  see "007" and we think; 'Damn that's how I should act..." the word "ACT" should make us pause and think of the consequences of our Actions. If any of the points above grabs your attention, then you are half way there. "Everything must change"

She may walk if you are not paying attention.

He was not paying me enough attention,
now I'm chilling in Anguilla.

This Is  What Every Man Needs to Know.

Women May Leave Men They Love.. for less than obvious reasons

Women can leave men for many reasons even if they are still in love with them. There are many reasons why, but one of the most important is if the man is not present. Men spend a lot of time doing different activities, which is perfectly fine, but if they don’t include their partner in them from time to time it can result with the end of the relationship.

If you want to keep her by your side, these are the things you should know and do in order to keep her happy and satisfied.

1.Your woman is not your property.......

You don’t own your woman or her soul. If you managed to win her on the first date, it does not mean you should stop trying to win her over and over again. Be present for her every day and talk to her about the things that are important to her and show that you are there to listen.

2.She wants you to feel her!


Women don’t like being with an absent-minded man, especially when you are sharing intimate moments. She wants to feel your passion and show her that she still arouses you. She will never leave. OK never ? Think more like not likely ever.

3.Listen to her, as much as possible

Try to pay more attention to what she says and ask her about what she is thinking about. Show her that you are curious to discover more about her, and make sure she knows that you are really interested in what she has to say. Be prepared to listen because it can become a roller-coaster ride....

4.Touch her with your full attention

Before you touch her physically, pay attention to your body and how it feels and reacts when you touch her. Then, tell her about the subtle sensations and emotions you feel. Really?? OK some of us men have intimacy issues... we may have scares not yet dealt with... Try to explain to her why you may not be as affectionate as you should be with her. Try hard to make her feel that it's not her fault that you are the way you are....

5.Find time to be with her

Even if you have a very busy and tight schedule, you can always find at least 5 minutes of your day to spend with your woman. If you can’t have extravagant date nights or dinners, the least you can do is spend moments with her but really be present. She will be very grateful for that

This river rafting is perfect for forgetting what time was ost.
But I'll keep his last name as a reminder.

A little side note: after a man does all of the above,   she may still walk away? There are flagged issues to keeps her connected to her ex-man for example.  Why do some women keep the man's last name if they divorce him? Is it because you have an image issue?publicly to maintain? Where you want to prove to the World that you and your children have the same last name... Here by showing that you had them (kids) in wedlock when you gave birth to them... the word -Lock-  confuses some women you are locked into a marriage during the marriage, not after... but if you choose to break away then you need to be unlocked.... my last name is Not a souvenir!
This is your new reality.

SIGNS YOUR PARTNER HAS LOST INTEREST

If you have been in a relationship where the interest is lacking?

Your relationship has been a bit rocky lately, but it’s not like your partner has JUST lost interest in you…or have you just missed the warning signs? Worrying about the stability and security of your relationship is not something that people in healthy relationships deal with regularly.

If you have concerns, your fears may or may not be founded in reality. Although you may have some signs that your partner has lost interest listed below, to use to better recognize what may have become a pattern, you may need to have a heart to heart with your partner about your feelings to really be sure about their plans to continue in the relationship, or not!


“How will I know if he really loves me?” – Whitney Houston

1. YOUR PARTNER HAS BEEN  MORE THAN A LITTLE SELFISH LATELY

You seem to always be eating your partner’s favorite meals and watching their favorite shows, but where is the consideration for what you love? If your partner has lost interest, you will start to notice this sign; feeling like your needs and desires are second place to those of your partner.

Researchers studying relationship breakups found that imbalances in power in the relationship, for example, where one partner controls all of the activities, are connected to relationship conflict, unhappiness, psychological distress, and breakup.

2. YOU FEEL LIKE YOU’VE DONE SOMETHING WRONG MOST OF THE TIME

You can feel like apologizing when your partner has lost interest, but in reality, you’ve done nothing wrong. Maybe it’s the silent treatment your partner is giving you, or the disapproving looks that you’ve seen them send your way, but you definitely feel like you did something wrong.

Loss of interest can be like an infected wound that grows into something worse; contempt. When we no longer care for the well-being of the people in our daily life, we can grow angry and resentful in their presence, which expresses itself as a negative emotion toward the person who is unwanted.

3. YOU USED TO BE INCLUDED IN YOUR PARTNER’S SOCIAL ACTIVITIES, NOW NOT SO MUCH.

Your partner has stopped including you in the fun things that they do with friends when they are away from you. For that matter, you aren’t being included in family get-togethers either. Whatever your partner is doing without you, it’s clear that they have lost interest in doing it with you.

4. THEY DON’T HAVE TIME FOR YOU

I can't believe he just walked out the door.

If your partner has ever told you that they just don’t have time for you, it might have made you feel like the lowest person on Earth. This is definitely an unfeeling way to treat the person that they supposedly love. But his/her actions might tell you all that you need to know.

5. YOU HAVE BEEN DISRESPECTED BY YOUR PARTNER, ON MORE THAN ONE OCCASION

Your partner used a vulgar gesture or language toward you, belittled you in front of others or even in private. Their words are hurtful, angry, and anything but kind and loving.

6. THE TWO OF YOU ARGUE MORE OFTEN THAN NOT.

You rarely used to fight, but now it seems like your partner has lost interest in everything with you except for arguing.

7. YOU HAVE ASKED THEM TO CHANGE THEIR NEGATIVE BEHAVIOR, BUT THEY HAVE NOT DONE ANYTHING DIFFERENT

It would be nice if your partner would treat you the way you have asked them to treat you, but clearly they have no interest in changing their behavior for you at this point in your relationship.

8. YOU’VE LOST THAT LOVING FEELING, AND SO HAVE THEY.

Not your love toward your partner, but your partner sure isn’t giving you love that is meaningful to you. You can’t remember the last time you were held and comforted, cuddled, or treated with loving kindness.

For that matter, your partner is not supporting you when you need them to.


9. YOU SUSPECT THAT THEY ARE KEEPING THINGS FROM YOU

Emotional cheating, withholding information, or outright lying and physical cheating; you suspect that something has been going on behind your back.
You might be hitting the nail on the head....

FINAL WORD: it's not the end of the world, it may feel like it, when a relationship starts to fall apart. But it's not the end... see it as an opportunity to move forward from something that was dying. Look for new interest and new adventures. Life is never over, until it's over. No one should, have the power to  make you feel like you can't live without them.
It may be time to fall for someone new, who might be willing to catch you.

Dealing with someone with abandonment issues is "Not Fun."

Can you recognize the  signs of  someone who has abandonment issues?

I know he will walk away someday
if not soon then later. I can feel it coming!

“Being abandoned or given up on is the most devastating emotions we can cause in another human being.” – Gary David Currie

Abandonment issues can crop up in people with both traumatic pasts as well as people who suffer mental illnesses or personality disorders. They can exist on their own, or as a symptom of something else. Abandonment issues are characterized by the intense fear of being rejected by other people.

The fear can cause people who experience these issues to put up emotional barriers between themselves and the rest of the world. This can cause problems connecting with the people around them, including friends, family and romantic partners. Anyone can experience abandonment issues: men, women or even children.

The causes of abandonment issues are numerous, and can include emotional trauma, past verbal or emotional abuse, or even divorced parents. The signs of abandonment issues can be obvious as well as subtle, mistaken for quirks in someone’s personality. Being able to effectively recognize abandonment issues in someone else, as well as yourself, is the first step to being able to find the correct path to healing from these issues.

1. UNHEALTHY ATTACHMENT

A sign of abandonment issues can be sudden and intense attachment to another person. Instant attachment can be caused by abandonment issues, due to the fear of being alone and rejected. If you or someone else you know is often found to experience intense and instant attachment after meeting someone, or very soon after the end of another intense relationship, this could be a sign of abandonment issues.

Recognizing this as a sign of potential issues is one of the first steps to changing your pattern of behavior, or being able to name the problem so you can seek out help.

2. FEAR OF UNFAITHFULNESS

My sixth sense, tells me she is cheating.

Being concerned once or twice that your partner may become unfaithful is a routine concern, and nothing to be worried over. However, the fear of your partner cheating on you becomes a problem when it is a constant presence in your thoughts, and you are unable to rationalize the thought process, especially if your partner has never been known to be unfaithful.

If you are in a constant state of paranoia over your partner’s activities, it can be a sign of unhealthy thought processes. Communicating openly with your partner can help alleviate these fears and help you learn to trust them. Being able to recognize this in others will also help you be able to steer them towards the kind of healing help that they need.

3. STAYING IN UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS

Forget my values,
this will keep him
 interested in me and only me!

If you, or someone you know, refuses to leave their partners even when the relationship is bad, or unhealthy, it could be a huge indicator of abandonment issues. The fear of being rejected and alone will drive someone to stay in a relationship that isn’t making them happy, because they often feel like it is better than being alone.

Staying in a dysfunctional relationship can intensify the abandonment issues. Sometimes, the relationship is just simply not working, rather than being a source of trauma. Either way, staying in a bad relationship can often intensify the feeling of abandonment and the issues once the relationship ends. Recognizing when you, or someone you know, has stayed in a relationship long past its expiration date can help you recognize unhealthy patterns.

4. SABOTAGING RELATIONSHIPS

Despite being desperate to be needed and loved, people with abandonment issues can often be found sabotaging their relationships even when nothing is going wrong and relationship stress is low. They will often pick fights and make a big deal out of the few negative things in the relationship.

It is often a way of justifying their own feelings of abandonment, because if the relationship ends, it’s proof to themselves that people will always leave them, even if they were the driving force of causing that person to leave in the first place.

. COMMITMENT ISSUES

Someone who is a serial dater can possibly have commitment issues, which is a sign of a greater abandonment issue. The honeymoon phase of a new relationship is appealing to someone like this, and they will often leave a relationship or sabotage it before the newness can wear off, or before the other person can, in their mind, get bored with them.  People with abandonment issues often invent reasons to end the relationship, once more justifying their reasons with circular, self-sabotaging thought processes.

Are Life Partners Really Meant To Be Until Death Do You Part!

Some Differences Between A Relationship Partner and A Life Partner

We will be together forever?

Many people go through different kinds of relationships in an effort to find the one person that they truly want to be with for the rest of their lives.   It can be hard to tell who is supposed to be your life mate, and who is simply supposed to be a relationship partner. Sometimes, we confuse the two and spend longer than we need to in a relationship that isn’t meant to last forever.

There are some key differences between a simple relationship, and a relationship with your life mate.

Once you know the difference, finding that special someone to spend the rest of your life with will be a much easier task. Not only that, but you will be able to pinpoint relationships that aren’t working much easier.

HERE ARE SOME DIFFERENCES BETWEEN A RELATIONSHIP MATE AND A LIFE PARTNER

She says we are relationship partners
I intend to change her mind.

1. YOU FEEL LIKE YOU’VE KNOWN THEM FOREVER

When your life mate walks into your life, it can suddenly feel like you’ve known them your entire life. While you may be finding out new things about them every day, they don’t feel like a stranger to you. You’re immediately comfortable around them, and feel like you can tell them almost anything.

Soulmates often feel a sense of the familiar and a sense of comfort around each other. Many people say it’s easier to relax into that person and allow themselves to be vulnerable.

With relationship partners, it can take a while to start to trust them and get to know them. But your life mate is going to feel like you’ve known each other from the moment you were born. It’s an amazing feeling.

2. YOUR ATTRACTION IS PHYSICAL, SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL

When you meet your life partner, everything about them is attractive to you. Not only are you going to be physically attracted to what they look like, but you’re going to be spiritually and emotionally attracted to them as well. When it comes to simple relationship partners, you may find them attractive, but not everything else lives up to the idea of a life mate. You may get along well, and have a good time together, but it’s not quite the same as being spiritually and emotionally attracted to someone.

3. THEY KNOW YOU INTUITIVELY

When you’re with your life mate, it’ll almost feel like they can read your mind. While that’s not actually possible, they will be much more highly attuned with your emotions and your personality to be able to feel like they’re able to read your mind. Relationships can often falter with communication because we’re not actually mind readers.

It seems like your senses and perceptions are feeding off of each other so much so that one or both of you often say, “I was just thinking that”, “You read my mind”, or?”How did you know?” They see you on a deeper level and can sometimes do it early on in your relationship.

The deep spiritual and emotional connection that you share with your life partner, vs. just a relationship partner, will make it so that communication flows between you much easier. This isn’t to say you won’t have your moments, but you’ll be able to work them out much quicker.


4. YOU KEEP FALLING IN LOVE

With relationships, people can sometimes feel their love plateau – or worse, they can feel themselves falling back out of love with the person that they were with. When you find your life mate, you don’t have that problem. In fact, you just keep falling deeper and deeper in love with them. It doesn’t seem to end. There’s a never-ending well of love inside your heart for this specific person. All of their flaws and quirks are just a part of them and they make you love them even more. Every day you find something new about your life mate that makes you love them more than you already did – even if you didn’t think it was possible.

5. YOU FEEL SECURE AND PROTECTED

In a normal relationship, you might feel comfortable and happy. This is good and normal. You should feel relaxed... but secure and protected is the ultimate.

So being cheated on is not such a BAD thing? Really?

I know this feeling is not due to a happy relationship,
 I can feel the presents of a third part.

A Study Says, Women Betrayed By Unfaithful Partners End Up in Stronger Relationships Later in Life.

Being cheated on can be GOOD for you?

Psychologists asked 5,000 people about their relationship break-ups.Women who were cheated on tended to make better choices in the future.
They also experience personal growth outside  of their relationships.
But the new women with their unfaithful partner turn out to be the losers

When a woman’s partner cheats on her, the betrayal and grief she experiences afterwards can be difficult to get over.

But researchers have found that women who lose their unfaithful man to another women may actually be winners in the long run.

They say the experience she gains from the infidelity of their partner helps them make better mate choices in the future.


While women can suffer short-term grief and a sense of betrayal when they discover their partner has been cheating on them, they ultimately benefit in the long run as they learn from the experience to make better choices about their partners while also undergoing some personalities growth

And perhaps most gratifyingly of all, their partner’s new woman is actually the ultimate loser.

In affairs, you lose some, and you win some.
But these moments are never forgotten

Dr Craig Morris, an evolutionary biologist at Binghamton University in New York, who led the study, said: ‘If we have evolved to seek out and maintain relationships, then it seems logical that there would be evolved mechanisms and responses to relationship termination.

‘Over 85 per cent of individuals will experience at least one (break up) in their lifetime.



While the research, stated above, may prove to be true... in these cases....my experience has been quite different. Most women, that I've met, who have been cheated on, were pretty much jaded. Very suspicious about the man that approaches her:
- why, are you, Mr. B.A.D....mature man, out here looking for someone new...
-why aren't you happy in your relationship currently or are you cheating on your significant other too...I know your type!
-You, men are all the same.. you pretend that you want a good woman and when you get one... you treat her badly and cheat on her.....playing tricks with Trixy from down the street.
Need I go done the long  list of negatives?
Folks...a man needs a PhD degree in psychology ... to deal with every new relationship with a woman who has been hurt due to betrayal, and is carrying heavy baggages, of suspicious ghosts in them. But inspite all of the negative vibes she throws out at you..... she still wants you to say all the right things to her.                              "here and now!"

If you are "a legman" raise your fist and bark.

Why Do Men Find Women’s Legs So Alluring? And what exactly does it mean to be "a legman."

Researchers have spent far less time studying men’s attraction to women’s legs than the typical man on the street devotes to gazing at them . . . and maybe finding himself spellbound by them. So—to heterosexual males at least—what’s so special about female legs?


In preparation for this post, I first examined what evolutionary biologists have theorized about this phenomenon, and found most of their findings limited and inconclusive. Two of scientists' discoveries, however (see, e.g., “Why do men lust after women with long legs?”, Quora.com), seem to confirm what most men (lay experts that they are!) already grasp intuitively. That is, studies have shown that (1) men prefer women with longer than average legs, and (2) they also favor women who have a higher leg length to body ratio —and, interestingly, the opposite is true of women 's preferences.

Still, my later investigation of several Web forums centering on this age-old, so-intriguing topic was much more fertile. And they are what constitute the main focus of this post. In essence, what I learned from these forums is that a man’s bestowing so much attention on a woman’s legs is perhaps best understood as a kind of sexual “visual foreplay” for us.

Curiously, many forum respondents contrast women’s legs to their breasts and buttocks (in the vernacular, commonly referred to as “T & A”). In these comparisons, female legs are generally perceived as more suggestive, sensual, and seductive—whereas T & A are viewed as much more “in your face” sexual. One discussant, for example, sees women’s legs (along with their eyes) as representing the very “core of feminine sensuality,” proclaiming them a “soft whisper,” compared to the “loud trumpet” of more intimate, or private, parts of the female anatomy (see “Why do men find women’s legs so attractive?”, Quora.com).

In another forum (“Why are men attracted to women’s legs??”, Armageddon Online Forums), a respondent, obviously puzzled by his primary erotic preference, notes: “I love everything about the female body. However for some reason, a sexy pair of legs is the first thing that grabs my attention . . . but why??” And, though hardly conscious of it, he partly answers his own question by admiringly describing women's legs as “slender, soft, smooth and perfectly toned.” Moreover, he and many others allude to the length of  female legs as itself contributing to their magnetic appeal and depicting an ideal of feminine pulchritude, which may, in fact, explain why tall fashion models far outnumber smaller ones.

As much as the above is all truth... depending on a man's culture, the preference's to how  long the legs are can also be debated. Shorter thicker legs in high heels , can jump out at you and can cause a man's heart to start racing. Which will also be another blog post topic, if can find cultural preferences that are opposites..

It’s fascinating how many discussants on this topic seem to regard a woman’s legs aesthetically almost as much as they do sexually—as “monuments” of, or “testimony” to, a woman’s general comeliness or beauty. More than a century ago, Freud was so bold as to link the human aesthetic sense to sublimated sexual desire. And though there may be some question as to just how “sublimated” we can consider a man’s attraction to female legs, there’s no doubt that such an attentional focus is at a farther remove from other, more direct, points of male sexual interest—or to the sex act itself. To return to what I. described earlier, wondrously gazing at a woman’s legs might have mostly to do with a man’s innate attraction to the sensual, rather than the more explicitly sexual.

Yet, regardless of how this attraction is appreciated, the word that probably best characterizes such an allure is tantalizing—or, in some cases, taunting. Note the words of this respondent: “With clothing, legs can . . . be both revealed and concealed, which makes them almost uniquely empowered to allow women to tease and seduce men and inflame our imaginations. Legs being long, short, just enough visual shapeliness , can be revealed to draw most men's attention.

Eyes closed! Heart open?

OMG if she kisses you with her eyes closed....you might have direct access to her  heart!?!

I think we both feel something here!

Here’s Why People Close Their Eyes When They Kiss.

Have you ever wondered why you kiss with your eyes closed? Many people dismiss it as just one of those weird things that happen, and don’t really question it beyond that. However, there is science as to why we automatically close our eyes when we kiss that special someone.

When you kiss someone, you probably don’t think too much about closing your eyes; it just happens. You both feel the sparks flying, so you lean in for the kiss with your eyes open, but somewhere between locking eyes and locking lips, you shut your eyes. This happens involuntarily, whether you want it to or not. It seems strange, but there’s actually a perfectly good explanation for it.



Psychologists have finally found answers as to why we kiss with our eyes closed. In short, the brain can’t deal with multiple stimuli at once, so in order to focus on kissing, we simply close our eyes while locking lips.

Royal Holloway University of London did a study on vision and tactile sensory experience, and found that our brain struggles to process what goes on during a kiss beyond the visual stimuli. In other words, we can’t possibly keep our eyes open during a  good kiss, because our brains can’t process BOTH visual and sensory stimuli.

Polly Dalton and Sandra Murphy, both cognitive psychologists, discovered that “tactile [sense of touch] awareness depends on the level of perceptual load in a concurrent visual task”.

Published in the Journal of Experimental Psychology: Human Perception and Performance, the study actually came to conclusions without any couples having to kiss. Instead, participants had to undergo visual tasks while scientists observed their tactile sense.

The visual portion of the study included participants completing letter-searching tasks of varying difficulty, while scientists measured their tactile response by equipping them with a device that emitted small vibrations on their hands.

The results came in, and showed that participants responded less to tactile stimuli the more that their eyes had to do work.

In other words, the participants found that during the letter-searching tasks, they barely felt the vibration, but when they shut their eyes, they felt it much more strongly. For the record, the scientists set the vibrations to the same frequency the entire time.

We can apply this same logic to other highly stimulating activities, such as sex, where the people involved would rather close their eyes in order to avoid become overwhelmed, sensory wise. During sex, people tend to close their eyes in order to process the experience without the visual portions of it distracting them. Thus, the same logic goes for kissing as well.

“These results could explain why we close our eyes when we want to focus attention on another sense,” Ms Dalton told The Independent.

“Shutting out the visual input leaves more mental resources to focus on other aspects of our experience.”

The results of the study suggest that closing our eyes during a kiss will magnify the intimacy of the encounter, making it more pleasurable to us. Evolution may have played a part in this, as less distractions mean better focus during intercourse, which may bring higher chances of pregnancy.... Hmmmm, really?!
                 

     
 Baby I'm for Real..

Is it no longer fashionable to be a pure gentleman?

Do Women Even Recognize The Signs When They've Found A True Gentleman?


“I can make a lord, but only God can make a gentleman.” – King James I

Gentlemen used to be defined by their aristocratic birth, but these days they are often thought to be a dying breed. From James Bond to Prince Charming, true gentlemen are often the stuff of fantasy.

Think you might have found a true gentleman? Your man might not be born into the life of a gentleman, but if he shows these signs, then he’s on the right track.

10 SIGNS YOU’VE FOUND A TRUE GENTLEMAN

1. HIS HEART IS IN THE RIGHT PLACE.

He might not always succeed, but your gentleman has good intentions at heart when he acts. Doing the right thing isn’t his motto, it’s his way of living. He’s kind even to strangers and inspires kindness in return.

2. HE PUTS OTHERS AT EASE.

People find it easy to talk to him and they feel better when they’re around him. He can make people feel comfortable even in the most awkward of social settings. Meeting the parents for the first time? Don’t worry, within a half hour, they’re already calling him ‘Son.’ You’ve never waltzed before? He makes you feel like you’ve got moves like Cinderella.

He’s charismatic and people are drawn to him. He likes to make people laugh and is usually smiling himself. A true gentleman doesn’t have to take a class in etiquette, because he could teach it himself.

3. HE RESPECTS YOUR NEEDS.

He could hold the door for you every time, but if you’ve chosen to show your independence by getting it yourself, he’s supportive of that too. Chivalry isn’t dead to him, but he also knows that you can slay a dragon all by yourself.

He cares about you and demonstrates that with his actions. You’ve found a true gentleman if he takes time to learn what pleases you. Sex with him is more about your pleasure than his. He takes pleasure in doing what makes you happy.

4. HE HAS INTERESTS OUTSIDE OF WORK.

Your gentleman has found a hobby or craft that he’s passionate about. It stimulates his mind and gives him an outlet for his creativity. He could be a culinary genius or a wine aficionado, but something is fascinating to him. He loves sharing his passion with others.

5. HE TAKES PRIDE IN HIS APPEARANCE.

You’ve found a true gentleman if he never offends you with his odor or appearance. He combs his hair, shaves or styles his facial hair, he doesn’t wear stained clothes, and he takes care of his physique as well.

He has a unique style that sets him apart from the crowd. He’s more likely to pass on trends in favor of classic styles. His Throwback Thursday photos look just as stylish as the picture you took of him yesterday.

6. HE KNOWS HIMSELF.

A true gentleman is opinionated but not forceful. He just knows what he likes and doesn’t like. He’s decisive and will always stand up for his core values when someone challenges them.

He has conviction in his beliefs and his moral character is unquestionable. According to The Gentleman’s Journal, a true gentleman says what he means and means what he says. He’s confident without being arrogant.

7. HE MAKES YOU A PRIORITY.

You’ve never felt like he just doesn’t have time for you. Your true gentleman makes eye contact when you speak and he stops what he’s doing to listen. He makes you feel fascinating by the level of interest that he shows.

8. HE LIKES TO LEARN.

A gentleman never acts like a know-it-all. He gets excited about learning a new skill because he’s happy when his brain is active. He likes to engage with people from other cultures. He enjoys traveling to new places, discussing politics, or debating. He is open to differing opinions.

He might have a formal education, but it’s just as likely that your true gentleman learned from the School of Hard Knocks. He has a wonderful imagination and can be creative too. He’s likely to be an expert at something.

9. HE IS HONEST.

You’ve found a true gentleman if he is true to himself, you and anyone that he’s just met. He has nothing to hide because he’s authentic and real. Lying just isn’t in his character. The only thing a true gentleman would conceal is a surprise for you.


10. HE IS ALWAYS IN CONTROL.

A true gentleman isn’t controlling of others, he maintains control of himself. He knows that emotions can run high at times, but he never lets them see him sweat. He could be stressed, but he looks cool under pressure.

He rarely raises his voice or gets physical when he’s angry, and you’ve never heard him curse. He’s in control of his temper, in fact, you wonder if he even has one.

If your gentleman has these traits, consider yourself lucky to have found him. He’s a rare one indeed, and all of these signs point to a happy you.

Trust me these"cat eyes" can spot
 a real Gentleman a mile away