Genuine and true love is so rare that when you encounter it in any form, it’s a wonderful thing, to be utterly cherished in whatever form it takes. We all talk about love, and how we felt it at one point in time in our lives, but how exactly is love defined?
Love is about an expansion of the self whereby another person’s interests, values, social network, and finances become part of your life just as you share your resources with them. Love does not mean that you give up everything for another person. Rather, you possess sufficient trust to give them the keys to everything that you can access.
Getting that special someone’s attention can be difficult. You want to show him/her that you’re everything he’s ever wanted, but how? Actresses from romantic comedies have been doing it for ages, but translating that into the real world isn’t quite the same. There are some important things to remember when you’re looking to get a guy to fall in love with you. If you follow the right steps, you’re bound to succeed.
1. ALWAYS Be yourself
Clinical psychologist Merry Lin writes in her book ‘The Fully Lived Life’, “Faking your way through life is believing that if you let people know the real you, they won’t like you. The tapes that play in your head say that if people really knew what was going on inside you, they would lose respect for you. While you play those roles, juggling those masks you have to wear and hiding your pain … the pressure increases to keep pretending you have it all together. Therefore, none of this will work if you’re pretending to be someone you’re not! You want the guy to fall in love with you, not someone you’re pretending to be. So, ditch your Sandra Dee from the end of Grease persona and just be who you are.
2. Look your best
You don’t have to go on a diet and change your hair to look your best. All you have to do is maximize your best features and make sure that you look as good as possible. Your beauty is unique, and doesn’t need any changes.
3. Listen
Having good communication skills is about more than being able to communicate effectively. It’s also about being able to actively listen.
A writer and journalist says, “No matter how bad things are, give your partner a chance to speak. We tend to jump in with an opinion before we’ve heard each other out. Don’t scream, keep your cool: it makes a big difference. So often, things can be resolved by learning to listen.”
We Men have a lot to say, and when you show that you can listen, we’ll be more inclined to say the things that matter.
4. Laughter
It’s proven that laughter is contagious. So, when you’re laughing, you’re setting off chemicals in a guy’s brain that feels good. It can be totally addictive. If you’re trying to attract a guy, then laughter is the best way to draw him in and keep him wanting more!
FINAL THOUGHTS
If it seems difficult then maybe it is because you might be overthinking it. Men can be difficult to understand, but we are really not. Men are simple so keep things simple and you might get what you want from us.
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