I don't believe in having outside children, that therfore would be half siblings to my offsprings born in wedlock I don't believe in it, its never a good situation for either set of offsprings. Its not good for anyone to have multiple sets of children by different mothers or fathers.i remember when a man ( I knew)married a woman who had multiple sets of offsprings. he wanted everything to be willed to his only ofspring. but his wife kept asking what about my other children, his reply was "they are not mine, let their fathers take care of them"

There are still those  men who believe in an one time marriage and.having offsprings that are a result of that union.

Since I have been hit with a divorce I was asked more than once why I never got married a second time.My simple answer is ' once is enough for me.'

It was also once for my father who became a widower when my mother died.

The fact is that I have beautiful  memories, that will last a life time. No need to try and override does memories with different new ones.

I have had opportunities to start over with women who saw me as a potential good husband for them and a good stepfather. But I question if any of these women would be a good wife for me. I had a good wife, and it came to an end when the expiration date rolled around. I don't need to compare what I had  wirh her with a new someone.

As the saying goes the grass seems greener on the otherside. " but is it really greener? Or just a bright sunny day without clouds over theirs. And with clouds over my yard only?

Fall in love with someone who wants you, who waited for you. who understands you even in the madness; someone who helps you, and guides you, someone who is your support, your hope. fall in love with someone who talks with you after a fight. Fall in love with someone who misses you and wants to be with you. Do not fall in love only with just a body or with a face; or with the idea of being in love.

The people who deserve to be part of your life, are the people who treats you with love, kindness 

and most important RESPECT.