OMG, she must be very high maintenance!

Ladies many of you claim you want a successful man in your life. But do you really understand what success really means. Beyonce married a successful man, who compliments her success. You need to Bring more to the table than just "I want, I want, I want." work on Contributing to your own success and he will contribute to your success, because self improvement is an 'added value.' Smart men want smart women in their lives. If you want to be a 'trophy,' you must first have values he will respect.

Michael Baisden Commentary: Success is about more than having money!

Success is not only about working hard, knowing the right people, and having lots of money, it’s also important to conduct oneself with class and have integrity! We have enough liars, show-offs, and mediocrity in our society. Stand out of the crowd by being a person of your word, dress in a way that exudes confidence, and associate only with those people who reflect your values.

Yes, doing all these things will eliminate most of your friends and make you a target for negativity, but if you endure it will take you places you never imagined.

We fellahs see the end results of her hard work  and Ass-U-Me someone else is maintaining her. "This must be the  case because she could not possibly be this successful without help." You are wrong, dead wrong because she could be a self starter and a very creative woman. I will admit she appears to be "High maintenance" that is a label we men pin on a woman because we do not want to do whatever it takes to have relationship with her. If you are a "Maintenance Man" one who would be willing to 'Wax  that A$$et, and polish with a spit shine' to keep  her shining brightly then you would not assume that she requires lots of maintenance, even if she does.  She might be self maintaining to some degree.... in this case you will be bringing 'added value'  to the relationship.

I see the term 'High maintenance' as label  a man uses  only in the case where he is not willing to do the things she requires to have a relationship with her. If you can't foot the bill then you should step out of the line and let someone else who can move to the head of the line. You can't  want what you should not have because you  are not willing to maintain her. Why ? Because you are not-willing to maintain the "trophy."

Fellas; As we often watch sports,  we see the price players pay to get a championship trophy. Those guys are willing to pay the high price for success and are willing to step up at crunch time... finishing what they started. Not being willing to do what is required is on you. 'A smart maintenance Man' is a guy who is willing to roll up his sleeves and get under neath the hood and make necessary adjustment so that everything continues to run smoothly. 'Polish' using a spit shine so that his trophy stays shining brightly. To do this you first have to admire her... 

So Ladies if he does not admire you, he will not be willing to put in the work..... It's all about bring 'added value' to the mix. If you bring it, we will be willing to maintain it...and add to it.

Stand up for the things we see as "valuable" assets. Rappers( in contrast) do a good job of making women feel like 'sex objects.' Real men do a better job of making  women feel like they are 'valuable' and admired women. But first, Ladies, you have to show men that you are 'a valuable assets.' If you don't, we will not respect your values. So you need to have some 'outstanding values' for men to see you shining brightly in the crowd.