You're way better than a book—now show her.

Guys, according to a survey in the  book 

  'The Normal Bar,' 29 percent of women say it bothers them “a lot” that their partners aren't more romantic. This could be why many girlfriends and even wives flock to the other men in their lives—fictional characters like Mr. Darcy, Dr. McDreamy, and Christian Grey—or any movie Denzel Washington is in,  to get their romance fix.
Women tell the story that it is about these make-believe men that make them swoon, then turned to relationship to see how they can make  us fellahs into  the characters on the pages in the book.

The character: Fitzwilliam Darcy (a.k.a. Mr. Darcy) in Pride and Prejudice
Why she loves him: The leading man in Jane Austen’s classic novel is a giant prick at first, but eventually he does the right thing—saves female protagonist Elizabeth’s family—and keeps it a secret, refusing to be rewarded or applauded. What he does tell Elizabeth is exactly how he feels about her, which women love. There’s a myth that nice guys never come out ahead, but by the end of Pride and Prejudice, Mr. Darcy’s the epitome of a good, old-fashioned nice guy—and he gets the girl.
How to be more like him ( don't ask me I have not read the book): However having read the above I summarize the following: Some things, like moral decency, never go out of style, Morality is “ingrained in the definition of romantic love ever since Plato defined Eros as a love of goodness.” To be more like Darcy, be generous, honest, and fair—not to impress your woman, but for the sake of being good. In other words, don’t point out every time you do the dishes or fold the laundry. She’ll notice that you did it, you don't need to sound the buggle.

The character: Noah Calhoun in The Notebook
Why she loves him: “Poetic sensuality” is how Prioleau describes Noah Calhoun’s style. “He seduces [The Notebook's main character] Allie through the magic of the senses: his exquisite, hand-restored house; seasoned crabs with hot sauce; a trip to a beautiful secret lagoon; and bourbon before a crackling fire;” A large part of Noah’s appeal is his determination in all he does, including fighting to be with Allie to the very end. Plus, he’s played by Ryan Gosling. So there’s that.
How to be more like him: Stimulate her senses, this is what works on most women. Think beautiful flowers in the center of the dining room table, and a meal you’ve prepared that she can smell when she walks through the door with flavors that delight her taste buds. Turn on music that sets the mood, light some candles. Want to go the extra mile? Write her a note before dinner inviting her to your elaborate meal, and include a few romantic lines—even if you have to borrow them from a great poet (or cheesy movie). Your romantic gestures will emulate Noah’s great effort to make his relationship.
The character: Derek Shepherd (a.k.a. Dr. McDreamy) in Grey’s Anatomy
Why she loves him: Well, women say he’s dreamy—it’s right there in his name—but the good doc’s appeal is that he’s humble and open to love, says dating coach David Wygant, author of Always Talk to Strangers: 3 Simple Steps to Finding the Love of Your Life. “He cheated on his wife, but he admitted his faults,” says Wygant. “He’s able to be vulnerable when he finds the right woman.” That,  allows women to feel safe falling in love with him.
How to be more like him: To channel McDreamy, become McListener. It’s important to pay attention to her, and to do so without judgment. Allow her to express everything so she feels comfortables. Don’t get defensive if the conversation turns to your relationship. By simply listening and keeping calm, you’ll make her feel safe.

The character: Rhett Butler in Gone With the Wind
Why she loves him: Butler’s style is more primitive and raw than the others on this list. He’s the very definition of a manly man, he is primitive manhood in full mating mode. Throughout the book and movie, Butler looks at female protagonist Scarlett O’Hara as if he’s seen her naked and can’t wait to take her clothes off again. He kisses her without invitation. He wants her, and makes no qualms about it.
How to be more like him: “Drop the cool guy approach to courtship and come on strong. Women are turned on by being desired, so instead of playing games, you should be blunt. The ‘player’ movement is off base when it preaches that men should feign a lack of interest and let women chase them. No matter how successful and independent she might be, the primal being within her wants to be pursued and sexually irresistible. Make your move, Butler.

The character: Christian Grey in Fifty Shades of Grey
Why she loves him:  Grey’s ability to make young Anastasia feel sexy is unparalleled in literature. Although much has been made of the sexual exploits in the Fifty Shades trilogy—women are guilty!— Grey’s appeal goes much further. Namely, the fact that his attention is squarely focused on Anastasia 100 percent of the time. He makes her the center of his universe, his one and only.
How to be more like him: Don’t worry, you won’t have to stock up on extra S&M gear. Instead, show her you give more than a crap about her: Don’t check your phone when you’re talking to her or peek at the TV over her shoulder at dinner. Ask her about her day, every day. Remember when she has a big presentation at work and send her a text saying "good luck." All that attention will make her feel sexy—and you just might reap the benefits.

In Sharp contrast we men don't read...... we watch the movie because our dream girl stars in it. We could care less about the plot. if she can use a whip we are watching and thinking she is so HOT.

Men like the star not the character. However if she shows us some moves that we can keep picturing for weeks on end in our minds, then that is all we really need. The image will fade in time and we will find a new Love interest for our  imagination.
Then it becomes all about  her and the pole.
That's right Ladies we are from Mars and you are from Venus. We are different in every sense of the word.  So don 't see your McStudd in the book and expect us to do it automatically with out a director. Who will instruct our every move, yelling "Take 200,Action." We will not do it to you because we don't want you to become our imagination girl we want you to be the best you can be just for us not an audience.