Non-sexual intimacy, is a good thing!

I can still feel his arms around!

 This may be the first time you have heard the term used, but trust me  it is a principle that most (if not all) women embrace. It involves any kind of intimacy that isn’t centered around sex. It can include making time to talk, cuddling, engaging in fun activities together, and so on. Non-sexual intimacy is essential in a relationship, and here are some reasons why we men need to make it happen more often.  Let me  start things off by making something very clear. If a person is not prepared to embrace the needs and genuine desires of their partner, then they should not get into a sexual relationship. People have to understand and be willing to provide what their partner needs more of in their relationship. So with that said, it’s time to talk about what most men could initiate more often, and that is non-sexual intimacy. Why you ask? The following are a few good reasons:

1. It makes her feel more valued.

He is actually listening to what I have to say!

If a man views a woman as just some glorified assistant, or sex toy…”he  just messed up”. If he creates an atmosphere that makes her feel like the only time he wants to touch her is when he wants sex…”he just messed up”. The things I mentioned will make a woman feel less valued in a man’s life. That is why non-sexual intimacy is so important. It shows her that you enjoy her presence. It makes her feel like you hold her in higher regard. She will feel more secure, and it will pour the type of love and emotional fulfillment that she needs. When a woman starts to feel like she is just some interchangeable piece in her man’s life, that can kick open the door to plenty of issues. Make her feel valued, and give her the time and attention that truly speaks to her heart.

2. It can be great foreplay.

In the award-winning book How To Get A Woman To Have Sex With You…If You’re Her Husband, it emphasizes how foreplay is not just something you do right before having sex. It is something a man should put into practice way in advance to assist in the sexual build-up within his partner. Non-sexual intimacy plays right into that approach. When a man shows his woman that he desires her outside the bedroom, it can cause her to have a greater desire for him in the bedroom (or anywhere else they don’t mind getting down and freaky). In many cases it can really turn a woman on, and it can help eliminate any possible resentment that comes from feeling like her man just views her as a piece of meat to poke. It will also allow her to feel more comfortable and open with her partner sexually, which is a huge key to creating above average sex for both parties in a relationship.

I can't stop thinking about him. But let's keep it a secret!

3. It can help you grow closer together.

When people mainly focus on sex, it can hinder their ability to nurture a greater foundation in their relationship; the ability to enjoy each other’s presence, and be friends as well as lovers. Non-sexual intimacy will do plenty in helping a couple bond and grow closer together. It will allow for more time to be put into getting in tune with each other. Connecting on a deeper level, and growing closer together in that marriage. Because it helps in the areas of emotional and sexual fulfillment, it will allow both parties to get what they need, and therefore create a much happier marriage. Neglecting non-sexual intimacy can drive a huge wedge between husband and wife, and that will only lead to negativity taking over that marriage. The significance of bonding continuously in marriage is huge, and certainly not something any husband should overlook.

I can't stop thinking about our last exchange of thoughts!

Non-sexual intimacy may seem foreign to some, and there may be men that don’t think it’s that important, at all. I’m here to tell you that holding on to that perspective will likely lead you into an unhappy and un-fulfilling relationships. A man should be mindful of what his partner needs, and understand that what specifically speaks to her heart can vary from one woman to other women. So talk to her, as well as experiment with some ideas, which will put a smile on her face, and in turn it will make it even easier for her to make her man smile as well.

Words from an experienced Brotha : "Sometimes women just want to be held, shown attention and listened to attentively." Sometimes a soft peck on the lips or the forehead ( this my signature move)  as you pull her closer and squeeze tighter makes her feel like there’s no better place to be (safe). Sometimes randomly bringing home her favorite candy bar, chocolate, ice cream or pack of gum creates a smile you could not have imagined. Having her preferred wine, juice or drink of choice in the fridge shows you care about her and it’s not about you! Take the time to really get to know her, her likes and dislikes so she feels special and understands how much she means to you! Women: You should pay attention and cater to your man as well! Non-sexual intimacy can be just what your relationship needs.