Signs You Can’t Live Without Him!

 the following was written by Farrah Gray
Sometimes, the second time around is not such a good idea. But there are times when hooking back up with your ex can work out. Relationship experts say that there are five basic signs that indicate that getting back with your former love interest is a good idea.

If he spoiled you, letting go is tougher!

1. Do you still like him? Seriously, do you still have feelings for him, and do you actually like him? You can love someone but not really like him. Actually digging him as a person and caring for him are two great layers of foundation for a successful reunion.

2. You both desire the same things. You have similar goals, such as having a family, buying a house or other important life goals.

3. You have not been able to move on. You have tried to forget him and maybe even dated other people. But your heart still seems to belong to him. He made you laugh and smile and you often remember those things, even when you are with someone else.

So let's try again, you know how I feel about you! 

4. You are willing to try again. That may mean that you are willing to make some changes. You have to examine what the problem was and do what it takes to fix it.

5. He is willing to try again, too. Obviously it takes two to tango, so this will only work again if you both are willing to do the work to first, fix what drove you apart; and second, make a new commitment to each other.

Here is my BAD perspective:

YOU CAN WRITE A LIST OF THE WAYS HE’S CHANGED It’s how you keep track and know he’s not just saying it will be different this time.

Looking out to see when he might walk by!

 We all start out liking the other person... but that does not mean that we need to form a union with them. Think about the bride that is just 22 years old.. she is too young and too in-experienced to make a "until death do us part" commitment. Or better yet the guy who is 25 may think that "for better or for worse" really means he will have to suffer to endure all the twists and turns of a long term relationship as his punishment for forming this union. Having feeling in the moment.... is just that in the moment.. and some of us are not ready for the next moments that will bring change.   

YOU HAD A KNEE-JERK REACTION For some of us, “goodbye” is the first line of defense. If you jumped the gun too quickly, don’t let pride keep you from going back to a good thing. If you feel that it’s the right move to make.

We can fix this..... if we try!

 So you have a few things in common, you can list them on one side of a paper......  and then one of you decide that        "this person is Perfect for me!" Oooh hell, there goes all the common sense out of the brain. "Perfect "is always the wrong label to give a potential whatever...... boyfriend, girlfriend, future baby Mama, or Dada.  You are now addicted to that moment, when you felt something, you may have never felt before, and you are stuck, with that feeling as it become stronger..........but maybe it's heart burn.

HE HASN’T PROVEN THAT THE PROBLEM CAN’T BE FIXED

We all make mistakes and most of us deserve a chance to try to turn things around. But again, not too many chances.

Stuck in snow bank!

OK this is very simple for someone like me ....... I see you are stuck in a Rut. It is like being stuck in snow bank with your car, your  wheels are front wheel drive, so they are  spinning and the more gas you  give the more they spin , but you are not going anywhere, get a little help from someone else and gain some traction. and see if you will not be able to move on with your life. As long as you are stationary you will keep thinking about the same things that gave you some pleasure but it didn't last for a reason the pleasure you had together was not meant to be permanent. Nothing is permanent! 

YOU TRUST HIS WORD THAT HE WILL DO BETTER

Despite his flaws, he’s someone you feel comfortable putting your faith in when he says things will be different.

This window reminds me of a prison!

When has anything you tried, in a relationship,  again and again ever worked out well.. the reason most are willing to try to be with someone again after it didn't work out the first time is simple because they didn't fully understand why it didn't workout the first 10 times they tried to make it work. Stop fooling yourself.

YOU’VE HAD TIME TO GRIEVE…

And you’re still in love. The real thing isn’t always perfect. If you thought you’d be over it by now but something is calling you back, it might be time to give this love a second chance. You might regret it if you don’t.

 Just because someone is willing to try again, also.... doesn't mean that  either of you know what you are really doing!!!! Jail stops people from become repeat offenders in the Present time while they are doing  their time in a jail cell. Once they are free to choose their new life, they should never repeat the life they lived before. Don't you think that if it was right from the  beginning you would not have to try again... with the same person.  I rest my case!  

Aaliyah - Try Again