There comes a times when you have to put your relationship first!

I swear there is no one else!

If you’re married  or living  with your partner, it’s easy to take for granted that you’ll get to spend time together and that you’ll always feel bonded. But that’s a dangerous mentality because you’ll quickly let everything in your life overshadow your relationship; you’ll let work, social engagements, and family obligations take every spare moment, until you have no quality time left to spend with your partner.

But neglecting your relationship goes deeper than neglecting to spend time on it—there will always be someone or something that believes it deserves most of your attention and loyalty. If you want your relationship to survive, you have to protect it from being overpowered by the needs and demands of others. Here are 15 times you need to put your relationship first.

WHEN IT’S NOT THAT GREAT OF A FRIEND

I can't believe you decided to stay and watch the game with me! 

There’s barely time to see your closest friends, so you should not be wasting the one Sunday you’ve had free in months by going to your acquaintance’s barbecue. If you and your partner need quality time, pursue that instead of some half-friendship.

WHEN CONFIDENTIALITY MATTERS
While it’s tempting to tell your best friend everything about your relationship, you have to remember that your friend will never have the whole picture like you do. Use your best judgment in deciding what to share with outsiders about your relationship, because they can quickly misconstrue information, take it out of context, and judge your partner negatively. Now you’ve made it awkward for him to be around those people.


WHEN YOU HAVEN’T HAD SEX IN A WHILE
If you haven’t had sex in weeks, it’s time to stop letting one more damn thing get in the way. Skip the pre-dinner cocktail party, or the previews at the movies, or the two-hour sale at Bed, Bath, and Beyond; you’re getting busy today. If you don’t make time to be physically close, you’ll stop feeling
emotionally close.

WHEN YOUR PARTNER IS SICK OF ALL THE OTHER STUFF THAT KEEPS COMING UP!

Going though these bills is really depressing me!

When your partner is sick, and even when he insists that he doesn’t need you, don’t go to some meaningless party or night club. You would want your partner to stay home with you rather than go rage if you were sick and you know it.

WHEN YOUR PARTNER IS DEPRESSED
Having a depressed partner can be a very confusing experience. Usually, it feels like you can’t do anything to help them, and so you ask yourself, “Should I just go out with friends? I don’t do any good by staying here.” But the truth is that while you can’t necessarily help the situation, you can hurt it by seeming like socializing is more important than being a support to your partner.

WHEN THERE’S ONLY ONE VACATION BUDGET
If you can only afford to go on one trip this year, and you and your boo have been hurting for quality time, spend that budget on a trip with your partner. Your girlfriends might want you to spend it on the Vegas trip they arranged, but if your partner is willing to spend his vacation budget on you, you should be willing to do the same for him.

What do you mean  I'm not invited to the party? 

WHEN YOUR INVITATION ONLY ADMITS ONE
As a woman, you’ll often have the experience where your invitation to an event or party only admits one. Why? That party is trying to gather as many attractive women as possible, to attract high profile guests. But if a party won’t let you in with your MAN, screw them.

WHEN YOUR SOCIAL CALENDARS ARE TOO FULL
If your social calendars are just getting too full, you need to put the breaks on. It’s okay to say no to an invitation, even if it’s from a good friend or family member if you desperately need alone time with your partner. A good friend or family member will understand.

WHEN SOMEONE WANTS TO USE YOUR PARTNER

Thanks for helping me move, your wife
was right you are nice strong guy

Your single friends will probably turn to you every time they need to move heavy furniture, asking if your boyfriend can help them. If your partner has a special skill, like fixing computers, your friends will hit you up about that all of the time. But if your partner is overwhelmed and exhausted, shield him from these requests and just tell your friend he’s busy.


WHEN YOU FEEL LIKE TWO PASSING SHIPS
Any time you get the feeling that you’ve barely seen each other, it’s time to do a serious re-haul of your calendars. If you consistently struggle to see each other for more than twenty minutes a night, right before passing out, you need to quit a fitness class or volunteer program or happy hour or something. Your relationship needs your attention.

WHEN YOUR FAMILY WANTS INPUT

Do  you have to consult your family Every time? 

Your family will want input on where you live, what cars you buy, how you raise your children, how you paint your living room, how you spend the holidays and the list goes on. But ultimately, it’s you and your partner who live with those results and consequences, so it should be you and your partner who decide on them.

WHEN YOU’RE TIGHT ON MONEY
If you’re tight on money, and can only afford to either buy stuff for yourself or help pay for experiences for you and your partner (like movie nights), you should save it for the two of you. You need date night more than you need those shoes.

WHEN YOU’VE BEEN FIGHTING
While you may not feel like being around your partner after a big fight, you probably shouldn’t go out and get drunk, either—that makes it seem like you run away from your problems. If you and your boo are fighting, you just need to cancel girls night. You were only going to be grumpy, anyways

WHEN YOUR BOO HATES YOUR BEST FRIEND’S BOO

Can't you stop Working even for a little while, and focus on ME!

Unfortunately, your partner isn’t going to always love your friends’ partners. And sometimes, you’ll totally see his point. If your best friend has a partner who is insufferable, don’t force your man to go on double dates. Shield him from that situation as much as possible.

WHEN YOUR WORK IS YOUR LIFE
Hey, if you don’t want a relationship then by all means, work 80 hour weeks. But if you really want a relationship, and it’s breaking your heart that you don’t get enough time with your partner, you’ll have to make some sacrifices. You may have to say no to the occasional networking drink or extra project.

People you significant other needs to feel like they are "the Only one!"