Guys, don’t you deserve to be swept off your feet, too?

1. Women can make men  feel safe.
2. Women can be there when we  men need them.
3. Women will make us men  feel like a superhero, too.
4. Women can  save a man’s life when he’s in danger.
5. Women can also pick up the check.
6. Women shouldn’t expect less of men than they do for themselves.
7. Women can and should  be inspiring.

Superhero behavior isn’t reserved just for us guys, and that’s a great thing these days. That means sometimes we men get to be rescued, too. –

I remember the first time I saw Christopher Reeve as Superman( I picture myself for days after that as a superhero). I was young,which explains why he was so very  impressionable . He really did make an awesome Man of Steel, always swooping in to help a damsel in distress.

Whether it’s in pop culture, folklore, or on the nightly news, a hero is marked by his or her ability and willingness to protect and save women and children, and even men. Spiderman swings across the city with Mary Jane in his arms. She’s terrified, but eventually relaxes into his powerful partially-arachnid arms. Firefighters, and life guards are generally considered the sexiest men around. Their Calendars sellout every year.  Why? Because they’re always saving people! Being a hero is the ultimate sign of male goodness, right?

But what about when guys need saving? Because guess what, we do sometimes. And the people who love us – are the ones for the job. When I read the above list of 7 points by James M. Sama on how men can be a woman’s real-life superhero, I was reminded of all the ways those who love us good guys can be superheroes to men, too. Here are some of those ways from my point of view:

Guys, society has about a hundred different ways it teaches us not to cry, starting when we were babies. “What a big strong boy!” people declared when they saw your drooling smile. “Brush it off, son” they told you when you skinned your knee. “Just punch him in the nose,” someone recommended when they find out you were being bullied in school. OK, that someone was my Mom, she always said: " make your punches count, knock them out, you have a good left hook and you should use it"

But sometimes you don’t feel big and strong. Sometimes you can’t brush it off, and punching someone in the nose probably led to a bigger fight and maybe a suspension from school. Sometimes, what you need is your own personal superhero. Someone with heroic listening skills, strong arms and a compassionate heart. Well my dad was a cool dad, and worked hard in construction so he was very strong naturally, very slow to anger, which was a great example for me to follow. But I took some things from my mom, she believed in not starting a fight... but be ready to duck first and hit your opponent as hard as you could. which will stun him for a few counts.

If the woman you love most isn’t there to hold you when you cry, they’re not worth your time. Because you deserve a sounding board and a safe place to share your hurts.

A superhero is always swooping in at the opportune moment to grab the damsel in distress and whisk her away from the bad guy.

Well, women should be doing that for us, too. Okay, maybe women can’t punch through brick walls (or possibly even sheetrock), but women can watch your face from across the room and put themselves in the line of fire with a pushy aunt or obnoxious coworker when you’re really starting to sweat. Give her the  signal (code: double eyebrows up or maybe a wink combined with straightening your tie?) and she’ll come in out of nowhere and whisk you away and take you to somewhere better… preferably the bar.

And when it comes to funerals, the loss of your job, or even just doing gross chores at home, your superhero partner should be by your side when she can, helping us guys survive the worst.

Heroic partners never talk bad about their guy. Your guys aren’t the butt of women’s jokes or your ol’ ball-and-chain. Sure, women may need to vent to their closest friends sometimes (so do men!), but what women should  really want is for their friends to see her man as the great guys we are. And women should never, ever humiliate her man to make herself feel superior.

Because guess what? Women are firefighters, lifeguards and cops, too!

I once watched a lifeguard (who happened to be a woman) run into the ocean and pull one man and two children out of a rip tide. She got them onto the beach, then swam out to pull in two more men who were being carried out to sea. Total lives saved that afternoon: 5.

Not all women are going to be as strong and heroic as a first responder, but know that women will do everything she  can to save a life if the need arises. Women can tie a tourniquet, perform CPR and more. Keeping one another safe isn’t just on men.

Of course women (these days) will pay! Why should men always pay? If a woman asks a man out, She should volunteer to pay. If two people are dining together often, as a I’m going to do my best to pay half the time at least. Why? Because I can, and because we both deserve to be taken care of sometimes. So a woman should feel "it's fair" to be an equal on this level also.

On that note, I’ll also get the door for you, but if you do it for me I will not refuse the good gesture. Because I’m helpful like that, and I’m capable of opening a door, it's the gentlemanly thing to do. In fact, I’ve been opening doors my whole life. Got an arm full of groceries, suitcases, babies, puppies, gift-wrapped boxes of shoes, a chainsaw and a nail gun, potted plants or anything else? 'Let me get that door for you,' this would still be my attitude. But it would be nice if women saw it as a good thing to do for me also. In fact, I’ll probably do it sometimes for no reason at all. That’s just the kind of person I am. Your superhero partner should like to help, when you need it.

No matter what anybody tries to tell you, guys are not inherently jerks, brutes, or sex-crazed maniacs. We don’t all lie, we aren’t all cheaters and we’re not more of an animal. Because of that, women should hold men to a high standard, and not want a man in her life if he is a jerk, a brute, act like an animal or a sex-crazed maniac (separate, of course, from being a sexy and sexual person, which can be what a woman thinks is awesome).

So superhero ladies you should expecting a lot from men... this is a great thing. After all, doesn’t a female superhero deserve a partner who treats her well?

Your own personal superhero should be a person you look up to. Don’t waste your time on somebody who is emotionally exhausting you or treats you like crap. Choose someone who makes you feel like anything is possible – for both of you.

Women, of this new century, should be willing to do their best to be someone men admire, not just lust after, whether it’s by kicking ass at work, diving into a hobby, or being a great parent, a superhero partner wants to be someone you can look to for inspiration.

Final thoughts:
It's a paradox; because feeling safe with your  (superhero) partner, your deepest fears have an above average chance to surface. You become afraid and are unable to share what you are feeling.  this is why you need, as a man, a good woman in your life.