The Scintillating conversations, can be trouble, when you are on the edge of the Friend zone.

There are times when brilliant and clever chats, can lead to trouble you wanted to avoid.

I didn’t anticipate this.

So where do we go from here?

The crazy notion that being just friends, with great chemistry is going to work forever… will drive you and the other person crazy. Your thoughts and her thoughts are often connected, so much so, that you finish each other's thoughts in your head. Yellow flags, pop up in both of your minds. 

Well isn’t that scenario not reserved for couples in-love? Or can it be that there is so much chemistry between you and the other person that feeling of longings are overflowing? Having similar thoughts and even similar desires keeps creeping into the foreground of your minds during conversation this just shouldn’t  be happening. You try hard to think of ways to deflect from what is going on. But neither of you can help what this chemical connection is causing. 

I was told years ago, that having female friends was a good thing but no one explained why some connections are so primal. 

     

We need to stop finishing each other's sentences,

 this can get us into so much  trouble! 

Men think about sex every few seconds. I know some women who have the same problem but because men and women are wired differently..... women  find ways to cover up what they are thinking/feeling way better than men can. Wouldn’t it be so much easier if we just thought the same way, and could just act them out? Trigger words are dangerous because when you have chemistry your brain waves  reach out triggering thoughts in the other person’s brain, causing instant connection  images with the other person. You look at her lips and she looks at yours when you are talking and images float around in both of your brains. The fact that your top button on your shirt is unbuttoned, and her cleavage is showing just enough that you start picturing those lips kissing areas of your bodies, and the 100 degrees heatwave of possibilities kicks in. 

You deflect and try to change the subject that lead to the thoughts that are forbidden. She is your best buddies sister, Or you are her BFF brother, or you are both Ex(s) of good friends. Oooh hell…. What now! You know you should avoid this because it will bring up discussion with others of “how long have things been going on between you two?”

Final Thoughts

Back in the days when women and men that were not couples seldom came in contact with each others friends and family member these problems seldom happened. Men hung out in bars with their drinking buddies, and women went to church group gatherings. There was seldom social encounters between the opposite sex. But now that things are so different. Men that go out without their partners run into women who also go to bars, nightclubs and home gatherings. This can lead to….trouble.

A quick story:

My now ex, was on a trip. So I went to  hanging out at a friends house to watch a ball game. One of their female friends came over… and we sat on the sectional watching the game. she kept looking at me. So after some time her eyes got tired and  she leaned back and closed them. After a few minutes she snuggled up putting head on my shoulder. No one said anything and I tried to not to think about the many times we had a connection in conversations. She was separated from her husband and I was just hanging with friends before my divorce was final. Years later when we were both single again. She had moved to another city, after her divorce, but she came back for a visit. All it took was her asking my friends about me…. A simple phone call from my friends telling me she was in town for a visit… resulted in it taking me  a few seconds to go over to hangout with them and her. 

Our chemistry was still strong  sparks that caused Instant trouble! Then here came the questions… from my buddy.

“So how long has this been going on between the two of you?”