Guys need to speak to women and make them feel comfortable

 

Stop asking me so many questions

I sat at a table a little away off  from a couple on a date. and listened to part of their conversation. One of the things I noticed that the woman was getting irritated at the questions the guy was asking.

Let me turn the table on you
 and ask you the same kind of questions you wanted to ask me

The guy had his phone in hand and he read the questions he wanted answer to.  She didn't like it at all. His cross- examination was not really giving her a comfortable feeling. I know what he was doing. he wanted to impress her with his command of the English language so he read the questions which made him sound like an educated dude. 

She answered a few of the questions then wanted to ask him him some of the written questions, so she took command of his phone.

Lets toast to a fresh start
of having just a simple conversation

we guys speak street lingo most of the time. so we are not always ready to speak proper English to a lady, that we want to impress., some need a script to follow. Women usually want to just talk and not be  interviewed.

example:

So you're meeting an internet stranger in a bar and, naturally, you want to gauge right away if they could be a serial killer. Maybe the dude in question posted only one Tinder picture wherein his eyes were visible, and that single shot betrayed a sort of emotional dead zone; maybe the woman you've been chatting with keeps bringing the conversation back to unsolved murders and the different kinds of knots she can tie (sounds like a keeper, tbh). Maybe you want to just very quickly pin down whether or not this stranger is danger, so you hit them with a bunch of rapid-fire questions to establish a context, a background, a few opportunities to fact-check the information they've previously divulged over text. But before you know it, the first date starts feeling like an interview, or a quiz, and your date seems miffed.

Your desire to avoid stranger danger is not misplaced, but many people aren't going to like or appreciate the feeling of being interrogated — especially by someone they've just met. It can feel invasive, stressful, and wholly antithetical to the natural flow of a first conversation, but so many of us do it when we're excited or nervous. If you're looking for love or even just sex, though, you don't want to drive away prime candidates.

"One of the most common complaints I get after a first date is that it felt like a job interview," Question after question, almost a total interrogation. Leaving no room for chemistry or romance.

None of us wants to make the first impression of having not even a modicum of chill, and probably each of us would prefer not to feel backed into a corner when we still have three quarters of our beer to finish. So here's how experts say you can make a first date feel less like a quiz.

guys, Maybe you are going into the date with a certain number of things you want to know, possibly a catalogue of deal breakers you'd like to check immediately because you're busy and need to stick to the agenda. Resist the impulse to check boxes.

Don’t come in with a script, a list of questions to ask or answer, If you have a script that you are planning to get through you’re not leaving yourself open to pick up on emotion and create a connection or give off emotion and vulnerability. It is the stories and tangent conversations between questions that truly enable individuals to build connections with one another."

In other words, let your date take the time to respond to a question you ask, and listen to their answer. Take that as a jumping off point for your next comment.

You may be aching to ask how many people your date has slept with — but don’t. Not on the first date, or second or maybe third," New York–based relationship and etiquette expert of Relationship Advice  "You may want to know how much money they make — but don’t ask on a first date. And you may want to know what kind of debt your partner has, but don’t come right out and ask this on a first date."

Sure, there are pieces of information you might find critical to assessing a person's long-term potential, but this is a first meeting and not a marriage test. No one wants to talk credit scores instead of what should be casual banter. There are certain questions that can turn a nice first date into the definition of awkward, situation, because they’re inappropriate for someone you’re just getting to know."