With word like "Amazing", "Epic", "Exceptional", "Exhilarating" we have stopped expecting that relationship just need to be "Good" to work long term.
Music Artist sing about: "You are amazing, just the way you are" but does not mention that she is only amazing if she stays just the way she is right now---- forever??. So is he talking about aesthetics, here. Her smile, her hair, her great figure 8 body. News flash: she will NOT stay "just the way she is right now for too much longer ". she will change somethings voluntarily, and others will be changed by natural progression.
The statistics are alarming. More than half of marriages end in divorce everywhere these days. Yet, millions still marry every year and even more get involved in committed relationships by living together. But, are Most men getting married really willingly or are we doing it because we don't want to loose a good woman... or are we just going thought the motions and instead of saying "I do" Loud and proud we are saying "Me Too." and making it sound like " I do?"
It’s possible to save a relationship that has moved toward the alter, but have an expiration date on it.
It’s up to you, though, to decide whether you want to do that. Is it better for everyone, if there are kids involved or not? Maybe you have invested so much time in it already that it’s not worth turning back? Do you still really love the other person, or are you to set in your ways to make a change? If there are more questions than answers, it might be time to move on, or start paying more attention to the little things. Here are some ideas that you can put into motion to help you keep it all together.
“Well…what do you think?”
It’s a trick! You start scanning her like she’s playing Spot the Different game changer. Did she get a haircut? A manicure? A new purse? Is she wearing a sexy dress? Heels? Red lipstick? ooh a hot pink bikini!
Admit it: We Men aren't exactly known for our ability to notice small (but critical!) details about women. But failing to pick up on what she considers to be a significant transformation—such as when she dyes her hair from black to red, or when she spends an hour putting on fake eyelashes—can land you in hot water. How can you avoid offending her without magically gaining observational superpowers?
It’s actually quite simple, What she really wants you to notice is the effort she puts into things It’s not necessarily the details, it’s the effort she puts into your relationship, into making herself look cute for you, and into making you happy. If she’s standing there with an expectant look on her face, You can’t go wrong with a comment on how much you appreciate the work she puts into your relationship. Just say something like, ‘I love how you always look amazing for me,’ or ‘Thank you for putting so much effort into our relationship.'
Of course, deploy that line too often and she’ll wise up that you’re perpetually clueless. So here are five details she does expect you to comment on.
Hot lingerie
When women buy lingerie for themselves, it’s fun, bright, and flirty. Think Victoria’s Secret and neon-colored bras, boy shorts with cheeky sayings, and stripes and polka dots everywhere. When women buy lingerie for men, it’s a lot sexier: Black, red, or some deep jewel tone, with more straps, hooks, and lace than is probably necessary. If she comes home carrying a bag from Agent Provocateur and wearing a teddy you’ll probably have to cut her out of, you’d better say something. Luckily, it doesn't have to be very specific—a simple “Damn, you look fantastic,” will suffice.
A trip to the salon can completely change her appearance, so you shouldn't be surprised to know that she expects you to notice her new hairstyle. But this can be tricky, especially if she just got a trim and a blowout, rather than going from brunette to blonde. If her hair looks fuller or shinier,you can cover your bases by telling her that you love how she always makes her hair look amazing.
If she’s been spending a lot of time at the gym—even if you can’t really tell by looking at her—you’d be wise to note how great her body is looking. Not only is noticing her gym time part of noticing the overall effort she puts into looking good for you, complimenting her body will encourage her to keep it up. It’s basic behavioral conditioning. You want to reinforce the behavior you like with compliments. Women do this—behavioral conditioning with their men—all the time.
Men don’t notice shoes. For the most part, that’s fine. She doesn't expect you to comment on her ballet flats or her luxury riding boots (though you may want to pay attention to what she’s wearing if you’re trying to gauge her personality), or the super-cute new espadrilles she bought last week. But if she’s sporting thigh-high boots or strappy stilettos, you can safely assume it’s not a choice based on comfort. Don’t worry about naming the shoes or getting technical. Just say, “I love those shoes on you,” and she’ll know you appreciate her effort.
Is the bathroom suddenly spotless?
Is the bed made? Are there weird-smelling candles lining the kitchen counter? If your apartment feels strangely hotel-like, guess what: She cleaned up. It’s basically the cheapest maid service ever, because all she wants is a simple thank you, Just say: 'The house has been looking amazing lately —thank you,' this will show her that you recognize her efforts across the board. "Good" is really noticing the little things and complementing on them:
New Shoes
A new hairstyle
Her body make over...
When she cleans up the house!
It’s up to you, though, to decide whether you want to do that. Is it better for everyone, if there are kids involved or not? Maybe you have invested so much time in it already that it’s not worth turning back? Do you still really love the other person, or are you to set in your ways to make a change? If there are more questions than answers, it might be time to move on, or start paying more attention to the little things. Here are some ideas that you can put into motion to help you keep it all together.
Your woman opens
the door after a spa-and-shopping day, and asks you a loaded question:It’s a trick! You start scanning her like she’s playing Spot the Different game changer. Did she get a haircut? A manicure? A new purse? Is she wearing a sexy dress? Heels? Red lipstick? ooh a hot pink bikini!
Admit it: We Men aren't exactly known for our ability to notice small (but critical!) details about women. But failing to pick up on what she considers to be a significant transformation—such as when she dyes her hair from black to red, or when she spends an hour putting on fake eyelashes—can land you in hot water. How can you avoid offending her without magically gaining observational superpowers?
It’s actually quite simple, What she really wants you to notice is the effort she puts into things It’s not necessarily the details, it’s the effort she puts into your relationship, into making herself look cute for you, and into making you happy. If she’s standing there with an expectant look on her face, You can’t go wrong with a comment on how much you appreciate the work she puts into your relationship. Just say something like, ‘I love how you always look amazing for me,’ or ‘Thank you for putting so much effort into our relationship.'
Of course, deploy that line too often and she’ll wise up that you’re perpetually clueless. So here are five details she does expect you to comment on.
Hot lingerie
When women buy lingerie for themselves, it’s fun, bright, and flirty. Think Victoria’s Secret and neon-colored bras, boy shorts with cheeky sayings, and stripes and polka dots everywhere. When women buy lingerie for men, it’s a lot sexier: Black, red, or some deep jewel tone, with more straps, hooks, and lace than is probably necessary. If she comes home carrying a bag from Agent Provocateur and wearing a teddy you’ll probably have to cut her out of, you’d better say something. Luckily, it doesn't have to be very specific—a simple “Damn, you look fantastic,” will suffice.
A trip to the salon can completely change her appearance, so you shouldn't be surprised to know that she expects you to notice her new hairstyle. But this can be tricky, especially if she just got a trim and a blowout, rather than going from brunette to blonde. If her hair looks fuller or shinier,you can cover your bases by telling her that you love how she always makes her hair look amazing.
If she’s been spending a lot of time at the gym—even if you can’t really tell by looking at her—you’d be wise to note how great her body is looking. Not only is noticing her gym time part of noticing the overall effort she puts into looking good for you, complimenting her body will encourage her to keep it up. It’s basic behavioral conditioning. You want to reinforce the behavior you like with compliments. Women do this—behavioral conditioning with their men—all the time.
Men don’t notice shoes. For the most part, that’s fine. She doesn't expect you to comment on her ballet flats or her luxury riding boots (though you may want to pay attention to what she’s wearing if you’re trying to gauge her personality), or the super-cute new espadrilles she bought last week. But if she’s sporting thigh-high boots or strappy stilettos, you can safely assume it’s not a choice based on comfort. Don’t worry about naming the shoes or getting technical. Just say, “I love those shoes on you,” and she’ll know you appreciate her effort.
Is the bathroom suddenly spotless?
New Shoes
A new hairstyle
Her body make over...
When she cleans up the house!
these are little things to you, but are major in her book... so do a little to get a whole lot!
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