Are You sure he is into you??? It’s a relationship not a cling fest! Here are eight bonehead moves NOT to make...... if you want the relationship to last.Ladies.
1. Needy baby greedy baby. Don’t become too dependent. Don’t abandon your friends and family and depend on him for all of your emotional needs. It’s dangerous and honestly, it’s unattractive.
women may believe going all in means giving up all that they have know for years. If a guy wants you all to himself then You have more problems than you are ready for.
2. Great expectations – it’s not just the name of a movie, it’s a relationship killer. Of course you should expect certain things: respect, civility, etc. But don’t think your relationship is a cure-all. And surely don’t expect your lover to lavish you with gifts, even if he got it like that.
Here again some women are stuck in the 19th century not even the 20th century mentality. Take Me, buy Me, Give Me. Give that security I can't possibly do for herself.
3. Remote control – don’t hog the remote control, meaning don’t be the one making all the decisions all the time. This is not about the TV. ladies. men will be willing to give up TV time to spend quality time with you.... but if you keep insisting that it is all about what you want.. never compromising. Never giving an inch. Never trying to understand that the other person wants to be in a give and take relationship. If he is the only one giving you will be alone before long.
4. Jealousy. This is a big no-no. First of all, it’s scary. And it’s not healthy. He is going to have friends and family that he will want to spend time with, too. Slow your roll. Don’t be possessive. If you are on a deserted Island he might still want to call his friends to say what is the score of the Heat/ Pacers game... to ask him to just be all into you and not think about anything or anyone else is just selfish..
5. Boring. Be a little spontaneous now and then. Don’t be so predictable all the time and put your relationship into a rut.
Always the same thing makes Johnie start wanting to not come over.
6. Expecting change. Oh what a big killer! Do not expect your mate to change for you. Like and love ‘em for who men are, not what YOU think you can turn him into. I can write a whole book on how women want to change a man, but she still wants him to remain the man who caught her eye. Men get with women hoping she will not change, women who get with men expecting the man to change. they both will be very disappointed in the end.. and trust me it will end BAD-ly..
7. Flirting with other people. It’s not nice. It’s disrespectful. It’s most likely to piss off your date and start a fuss. All for what? Make sure that you and your partner have boundaries and you know what makes him feel uncomfortable. GROW UP! You are not a display item on the rack looking to be bought by all the buyers who are shopping. If you need that much attention from every Dick, Harry, Peter, and idiots.. they will give you the attention you don't really want!
8. Ultimatums. “If you don’t do this, it’s over.” It will be. Communicate your concerns or wants. Don’t be demanding. If there’s a problem, be supportive without being pushy.
Oooh hell.... are you serious...! Ultimatums are for people who control the gold. If you controlled the Gold then you will not need to give someone else and ultimatum......because you would have all that you need and want. i.e you don't need a man.
A good relationship is a balancing act and one of compromise on the part of both people. Don’t commit murder and kill the buzz before it has even had a chance of an established relationship.Most men are expecting their new woman to be flexible, so don't be an extremest. there are so many pressures that modern day life will throw at both of you.... Men,. want a woman who can carry some of the weight and not be a drama princess. find you inner good sense and be a B.O.S.S. we will appreciate you most if you do that.
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