She shot him over BAD sex?

Before those of you, who believe in the second amendment go off on a tangent about "your rights..." let me point out to all of you,    second amendment enthusiasts ( remember women now have the same rights as men do this was not the case when the 2nd amendment was written.)

It  is true that Sex sells—but guns are easier to get your hands on these days. Apparently easier than orgasms, also! When female sex orgasms is sparsely had, especially  when it’s bad sex to begin with it can become,
 deadly, dudes you all are playing with fire. I’m guessing that explains why this news stories have been popping up all over for the past few days. In Detroit, a judge just granted bond to a woman who was convicted of assault earlier this year after she nearly killed her boyfriend of 15 years (let point our  a 15 year relationship is not healthy unless it really a committed relationship married or not) when she  pointed the gun at him and shot him “over bad sex,” as the headline put it. Sadie Bell, 58-YEARS-OLD, actually thought that her boyfriend (of 15 years) —who was married to someone else during their more-than-decade-long relationship—was cheating on her, the evidence she used as proof is a little too graphic to repeat). I guess she believed that the man who was cheating with her really was “only there for the kids”—the classic excuse of married cheaters—and was being disloyal to her, despite not being loyal to his wife. SMH.

People have been laughing about this one all over social media. The idea of a mature 58 year old, woman being sexually frustrated and feeling entitled to being pleasured in the bedroom just like a man must seem like a relatively new concept to some people. Also, the idea of a woman being so enraged about a man’s perceived inadequacy has provided a great opportunity for men to boast about how that would never be them—because every man puts it down every single time, Yeah Right?—and given women the chance to correct them with their own personal stories of being sexually unimpressed with their lovers performances.

It has all made for a great battle-of-the-sexes debates, but way too many folks seem to be overlooking the core issue here: This woman is not stable. You don’t go shooting  people just  because you think he has  cheated  you out of  a toe curling orgasm, when you know he is cheating on his wife with you.. 

It’s not OK to attack your Husband, Boyfriend—or, in this case, someone else’s husband—because you think he’s been unfaithful to you. But maybe Bell thought it was. “Her” most recent man is the second man to face a gun talking about having to perform facing the barrel of a gun. She allegedly shot her husband in 1991. She was never prosecuted. this is crazy, maybe she used the Castle doctrine defense.  Unstable or not. She  belonged in jail since 1991.

The other sex story making the rounds is that of a 26-year-old wife who received a spreadsheet from her husband, maybe he should have used this APP before sending it to his wife. detailing the times she’s turned him down for sex in the last six weeks. He sent the document to her work email account as she was heading out of town for a 10-day work trip, then he refused to correspond with her. We, the public, know about this because the ticked-off wife posted the story on Reddit, where Redditors had a field day with the story.

The popularity of this story stems from the reigning stereotype of the wife who is too tired to have sex, and the frustrated husband who is trapped in a  periodic sexless marriage, perhaps every spouse’s greatest fear. Male readers have spent the better part of the last few days debating 1) whether a wife should bite the clichéd bullet and have sex out of wifely duty; and 2) how much of a gigantic passive-aggressive jerk her husband is for a) keeping a spreadsheet, when anyone in a halfway healthy relationship will tell you that keeping a record—mental or otherwise—of a partner’s perceived transgressions is a quick way to misery; and b) refusing to answer the phone after sending said record.

So what’s missing from this blog post? How much these two deserve each other. This couple? They are two peas in a pod of petty. maybe this APP might bring back some spice. The wife clearly isn't happy with the husband and/or their sex life. But instead of speaking up, she passive-aggressively creates excuses to avoid him for the better part of six weeks instead of communicating with him about the underlying problem.

While there are no excuses for his spreadsheet, there is no reason she should have shared that online, even if she didn't have a clue that it would become a national conversation. She’s not as bad as Bell, but she’s no better fit for a relationship.

I  hope that both of these stories are part of some Jimmy Kimmel-esque hoax, like the twerking girl who caught on fire. Unfortunately, these folks might be for real, and even though many of us are laughing, it’s really, really sad. One last note kids are dying because guns made for women look like toys.