DO YOU HAVE YOUR MAN’S BACK?

Any man who is serious about pursuing his dream must make sacrifices and work long hours. If his woman is not his biggest cheerleader then what good is she? When times get tough, a man needs a woman in his corner who will put her arms around him and say, “Hang in there, baby, you can do it!” Some women have supported their men financially, some have provided important contacts, and others have put in time to help build the business.
A woman from New York put it this way. “An ambitious man will never be happy unless he’s pursuing something worthwhile, so why not support him and help make himself successful? Then you both win!” Unfortunately, some women are afraid to see their men succeed. They worry that as soon as he “makes it” he will leave the marriage or relationship. My response to that is simple. Never help your man expecting something in return. That’s not being genuine. If you truly love your man, you want to see him win regardless if you stay together or not. This is a classic case of women claiming to love their men unconditionally while at the same time expecting a payoff for the time they put in. In many ways, women can be just as selfish as men. They just don’t want to admit it.

Excerpt from the book, Never Satisfied: How And Why Men Cheat

From My perspective: for too many years  women have expected their man to have their back. However they would rather fly solo if they are successful  career women. Slogan's like "I don't need a man, "I can do bad all by myself". Which is totally contrary to what you are really thinking and saying in private.  Because when you start doing badly you are wishing for "Prince Charming" to come along and rescue  you. He may even need to have a cape, even if it's just in your mind. Like in the in the above paragraph where Micheal Baisden writes about the modern World.  A woman from New York put it this way. “An ambitious man will never be happy unless he’s pursuing something worthwhile, so why not support him and help make himself successful? Then you both win!”
Please note she is thinking go along for the ride because he will be a success faster if you are encouraging him, and then you share in his success. But  how often do you hear a woman express the opposite when she has a dream of success, that she needs to do well so that she can share  her success with her man. These gender specific ideas and  rolls continue to keep most couples back in the 20th century mindset. 

Allow me to toast to our success!

Women are running companies, they  are even running for  presidents and Premiers of  countries  and a whole lot more. Only when their husbands die do we realize that he was a force (behind the scene, helping her to  succeed), for example: Sheryl Sandberg’s ‘Lean In’ .  I guess President  Bill Clinton   and Hillary, Michele and President Obama   are rewriting the scripts for  the next generation. We can only hope that their team work shows us that two great people can flip rolls as public figures and be strong supporters of their spouse efforts .... Let's see if the next generations will get a clue.... . Gender specific rolls are and should be passed tense.   "Ride or die" is a term, as I see it , that should describe as an  old wild  wild west movie. My version "support your partner or die" it does not rhyme but you get the picture! 




Women want intimacy/support and affirmation  these days on their terms , but seldom realize that infelicity by their men  is often caused by of lack of intimacy/support and affirmation that men want on their terms.    Even continuous talking about it will not change it. only compromised  behaviors will........ 
 If you are not willing to compromise... then  just  start

Walking Away