I don’t want to be in a relationship because I fear being hurt by love

So why do you  feel this way?

You can not fix what you ignore!

I am going to assume that you feel that way because you have been hurt and/or betrayed
by people that you loved (I’m not going to assume that it is always by a man).
To me it is obvious that if you would not have been hurt you would not feel that way.

As a result of your great pain, you are now afraid that it will happen again,
and how can anyone blame you? I would not want to feel that pain either as a man.
As a matter of fact, I really don’t want to be betrayed either.

What you are doing (ladies)  is throwing out the baby with the bathwater.
It is like refusing to use fire to warm you up because you got burned by fire.
So you freeze your little butt off,(it's getting colder in many Northern city  now that is Fall, so I’m
using this analogy, you suffer in the cold because you can’t handle the pain of being burned again
by the fire. Who can blame you?
To make the problem even worse, when you are afraid of getting hurt again, you somehow attract
exactly the kind of person that will hurt you again. I can see you frowning right now.
Thus, fulfilling your self proclaimed prophecy, and saying to yourself “See, I told you so.”
Your kinda stuck in a maze that has no beginning, but even worse, no end.
But here is were you missing out because every maze designer  started with an entry point
and end with a exit.  I think you have two choices, and since you are an adult, (I hope)
and can make your own choice, I would not allow anyone else to make that choice for you.

Choice one: Never go near anyone that you may fall in love with. If you see love coming,
run like hell, stay safe. Life alone is really not the worst thing in the world.
You can find many other things to do with friends, and you can enjoy many other things alone.

stay away from me, you look dangerous!

Choice two: Heal you pain of past experiences. Go deep within yourself and tap into your deep down knowing that you are loveable. That you deserve to be loved in a great relationship. Perhaps you can even learn to love yourself more too. Most people that are devastated by betrayal end up feeling pretty crappy about themselves. But don’t do it alone, find someone you like and work with them. Build up your self confidence and self worth. Learn how to evaluate people so that when you dare to embark on another relationship you will be much smarter in who you choose. You will not put up with the little abuses that point to inevitable betrayal. Yes, you may get hurt, obviously there are no guarantees in life, but you will be much better equipped to handle it like a loving and lovable human being.

Final thought
Maybe you have been let down in the past or you are afraid to let yourself be vulnerable.

Do you feel you deserve to be loved again and to love? Perhaps you have witnessed or been a part of relationship that have failed in the past and you seen how much it hurt your BFF. Often when we care and let down our guard (even men have this problem) it is a scary thing because we have to make ourselves vulnerable by sharing ourselves with others. Maybe we are afraid of what others will think of us. I’m having trouble answering this question (mentally, because men think differently from women) . I would like to spin this idea on you and think of love like death. If you were constantly afraid of death and you were to figure out  that you are already dead (because you scared yourself to death) then what would you have left to fear. Let’s consider that you are already loved and you can love if you love in a relationship good but even without a relationship you can still love others and yourself. If you already have love in your life currently, then what is there to fear from having a relationship with somebody new. Just remember that there is love that you share with others outside the relationship and there is love that you have for yourself. Keep loving yourself and whatever you share with others will simply be a bonus you've shared.