Search properly for you lady!

Finding the right woman for a great relationship isn't easy. How do you discover the "one" for you? Knowing who you are, understanding what you want and searching in the right places are all key factors in finding your Ms. Right.

Start by Living  a full life. Leading an interesting and fulfilling life will make you more attractive to potential mates. After all, would you want to date someone who seemingly has no interests, hobbies or friends? Become a well-rounded person by spending time with friends, pursuing your own interests, and developing new hobbies. That way, when you finally meet the right girl, you'll have plenty to offer her in return.

Be confident in yourself. You can't expect another person to love you until you love yourself. While everyone has their insecurities, letting them get the most of you will only make you unattractive to potential mates. If you find you cannot overcome your insecurities, ask a friend to point out your attributes. If that isn't effective, work on building your confidence with a counselor, therapist or a trusted member of the clergy.

Write in a positivity journal, maybe a blog might be more your style <smirking>  keep track of your accomplishments, compliments people give you and any good thoughts you have about yourself throughout the day. Negative thoughts about yourself may not completely go away, but focusing more on the positives in your life will improve your overall feeling of self-worth.

Encourage yourself. Making positive affirmations each day can help you become self-confident. For a few moments each day, look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself something encouraging, whether it's something you believe about yourself or something you would like to believe about yourself. You can even write out your affirmations and place them in accessible locations, like inside your wallet or the welcome page of your mobile phone.
Forgive yourself. Meanwhile, remember that no person is perfect, and everyone makes mistakes. Be sure and forgive yourself when you demonstrate imperfection.

Avoid desperation. Neediness is a good way to repel romantic partners. And those who are attracted to desperation are probably not the best candidates for a healthy relationship. When you meet a girl, don't immediately drop the rest of your life to be at her every beck and call, and don't bombard her with endless calls and texts.

When you try too hard to find the right girl, you also set your expectations much too high. Live a fulfilling life and don't think so much about how you haven't met your soulmate. Love finds those who are not looking. Determine the qualities you seek. You'll find it's easier to recognize a good potential partner when you meet her if you've already determined the characteristics you seek in a mate. Should she be religious, educated, funny, kind to animals or love kids? By knowing what you're looking for, you'll be better equipped to recognize a good match when you meet her

Decide on your drop-dead deal breakers. Everyone has qualities or behaviors that are deal breakers when it comes to relationships, whether they realize it or not. Spend some time thinking about characteristics that you absolutely do not want in your ideal partner. For many, dishonesty is a deal breaker, while others may be opposed to cruelty, prejudice, substance abuse or lack of ambition. Knowing your deal breakers is just as important in determining compatibility as knowing what attracts you, and can save you a lot of wasted time and effort in a dead-end relationship.

Remain flexible. Just because you've decided what qualities attract you, that doesn't mean your ideal mate will possess every one of them. In fact, people are often surprised to find love where they least expect it. Think of your attractions as a guideline, not a strict rule.
Don't judge a book by its cover. Looking for a mate with a particular physique, hair color or facial features is one of the quickest ways to find Ms. Wrong. Even the best looks fade over time, and while chemistry is important, if you have only physical chemistry in common, your relationship is doomed from the start.

Aren't  we doing this too soon?

Final thoughts

Search in the right places. While you should maximize your opportunities of meeting 
new women, don't waste your time meeting them in places that are of no interest to you. 
If you aren't religious, you may not want to meet women at a church, and if excessive
 drinking is a deal breaker for you, you probably don't want to look for a potential partner 
at a bar. Likewise, visit places that are of interest to you. Are you a sci-fi geek? 
Why not meet women at a bookstore or a Library. Or perhaps you are a lover of the arts. 
How about seeking a potential mate in an art class or at a museum?

Demonstrate tenacity. If at first you don't succeed, try, try again. Just because you didn't 
meet your ideal women on one online dating website, blind date or dance class, 
that doesn't mean she won't be waiting for you at the next one. Don't give up on one 
way of meeting women just because it wasn't successful the first time or two. The world 
is full of people, and finding the right partner is very much a numbers game in which 
you'll often meet a lot of Ms. Wrongs before you find Ms. Right.

Keep it casual. Drinks are fine for a first date, and asking her on a quick outing will 
place less pressure on the situation. You definitely don't want to sit through a 
seven-course meal with someone you’ve only just met, especially if it's obvious 
the chemistry isn't there by the time the entrees appear. Choose a familiar setting 
for maximum comfort, and a place that’s convenient for both of you to get to.

Learn about each other through small talk. Because you probably know little 
about the person, you should casually search for common ground. Remember to 
be your own person. Don't pretend you love a certain food or that you know 
everything about a movie you've never seen just to impress your date.

Say what you mean, mean what you say.