toxic attracts toxic sometimes.

We can all conclude that at some point in our lives, we’ve acted in some emotionally toxic manner, pushing people away. After all, we are mirrors of each other. Sometimes the things we don’t like in others are those same things we suppress in ourselves. But when it comes to relationships, what is it that we are doing that attracts these emotional vampires and toxic partners?

Toxic partners take things very personally.

You are only responsible for your behavior. Unfortunately, we live in constant concern about what others think of us. When we take things personally, we attract drama in our lives. We stop being authentic to our spirits. If you are constantly internalizing things, then you will be attracting those negative characteristics to your relationships.

In a relationship, there are two people. You cannot possibly know every situation in your partner’s life. Therefore, when he/she is having a bad day, don’t take it personally( they are having their bad day not your good day). It could be work related. It could be something completely unrelated to your union. If you don’t want over-sensitivity to be part of your partnership, it’s time to recognize what is yours and what is your partner’s. It’s also important to have the freedom to have your own set of friends. Each person needs their space.

We can all conclude that at some point in our lives, we’ve acted in some emotionally toxic manner, pushing people away. After all, we are mirrors of each other. Sometimes the things we don’t like in others are those same things we suppress in ourselves. But when it comes to relationships, what is it that we are doing that attracts these emotional vampires and toxic partners?

We can all conclude that at some point in our lives, we’ve acted in some emotionally toxic manner, pushing people away. After all, we are mirrors of each other. Sometimes the things we don’t like in others are those same things we suppress in ourselves. But when it comes to relationships, what is it that we are doing that attracts these emotional vampires and toxic partners?

note the following:

1. Toxic partners take things very personally.

You are only responsible for your behavior. Unfortunately, we live in constant concern about what others think of us. When we take things personally, we attract the drama in our lives. We stop being authentic to our spirits. If you are constantly internalizing things, then you will be attracting those negative characteristics to your relationships.

In a relationship, there are two people. You cannot possibly know every situation in your partner’s life. Therefore, when he/she is having a bad day, don’t take it personally. It could be work related. It could be something completely unrelated to your union. If you don’t want over-sensitivity to be part of your partnership, it’s time to recognize what is yours and what is your partner’s. It’s also important to have the freedom to have your own set of friends. Each person needs their space.

2. Jealousy, is a real emotion.

The green-eyed monster is birthed through insecurities. Nothing is more toxic in a relationship than jealousy. The ego will create these elaborate scenarios that play on childhood traumas, past relationships, and old beliefs. When someone is insecure, it will conjure up drama that’s not really there. You will also attract cheaters, liars, and manipulators into your life. an author of Romantic Jealousy: Understanding and Conquering the Shadow of Love, says that “Jealousy is a reaction to a perceived threat–real or imagined–to a valued relationship or to its quality. A nationwide survey of marriage counselors indicates that jealousy is a problem in one third of all couples coming for marital therapy. This helps explain our fascination with stories about the wild things some people  secondsVolume 0If you have a reason to feel insecure, then it’s time to take accountability of your partnership. Is there infidelity issues involved? What is the root of the insecurities? Relationships based on these type of doubts, uncertainties, and distrust are not worth living. Jealousy is maddening, and can show off as pure insanity when it’s at its highest level of emotional turmoil. If things keep coming up then it’s best to take a hard look at the reality. Reality is based on your perception. So, check it out and see what is causing this imbalance.

3. Toxic partners most likely are carrying past pain.

Past traumas, events, and hurt carry on into all facets of our lives. When you piggyback these emotions, you are not living in the moment. You are connecting, attracting, and revamping those issues over and over. We are all wounded. We have all been hurt to some degree. How we process that heartache determines how fast we heal and to what level of forgiveness. You cannot blame your new boyfriend for what the last one did.

Until you face the past, process it, and let it go, there will always be pain. Get help through counseling, spiritual guidance, or support groups. These type of issues manifest in addiction which we attract in others. It’s important to accept your past. Your experiences have made you stronger.

“We learn from our need to forgive. Even if you were hurt terribly, like with a rape or a financial scandal, there may be a place for forgiveness, if not to the one who hurt you, than to a God that may have watched while it happened, or to a situation in which there was nobody there to protect you. There’s always a place for healing and forgiveness can help you heal. Make a difference in the present and the future. If you had been abused, you may wish to protect the world and others from such a fate. This is the next step in forgiving a terrible wrong.”

4. Negative thought patterns.

A negative person will attract a pessimistic partner. A lot of times, we take on the victimization role while our partner takes on the martyr one. We are so miserable in other parts of our lives that we carry these negative patterns into our love life. Unfortunately, a negative person will dispose of your dreams, your self-worth, your abilities and disarm you with their judgment and opinions.

5 Behaviors

We can all conclude that at some point in our lives, we’ve acted in some emotionally toxic manner, pushing people away. After all, we are mirrors of each other. Sometimes the things we don’t like in others are those same things we suppress in ourselves. But when it comes to relationships, what is it that we are doing that attracts these emotional vampires and toxic partners?

FINAL THOUGHTS

There is a healthy balance in a good relationships. There will always be challenges when two people get together, but you don’t have to participate in toxic energy. You are not there to fix anyone. A healthy and loving relationship enhances your best characteristics. It consists of love, trust, respect, equality and acceptance.