No matter how much you attempt to progress professionally, it has no direct benefit on your ability to attract and experience love. It doesn't matter how many meetings you lead, how many deals you close, or how many business problems you solve.
Over the past couple of weeks, I've heard news come out about the failed marriages of politicians, athletes, entertainers, pastors, and various business leaders. Unfortunately, their million-dollar net worth had no impact on their ability to save their marriages. The reality is, no matter how much money you have you can’t buy true love. I have often said: 'I can't be bought but I can be rented for the right price, for a period of time!'
As I sit back and think about the people I have encountered in my life who have been able to successfully navigate the peaks and valleys of marriage, it truly comes down to a few key principles, bare with me:
Learn the art of friendship. Today’s society has created a cart before the horse mentality in the minds of those seeking relationships. We have been trained to identify someone whom we are attracted to, talk on the phone for a couple of days, go out to dinner and a movie, and then pursue an intimate relationship. Unfortunately, this formula has led us to a culture of practicing divorce. Because we haven’t built a solid friendship with the person we are pursuing an intimate relationship with, it’s very easy to abort ship when things in the relationship start to go awry. True friendship keeps you anchored during trying times. This principle works for the CEO who makes millions of dollars or for the blue-collar worker who makes minimum wage.
Learn the art of communication. There are a number of reasons cited for the cause of divorce. Whether you believe the reason is money, infidelity, or something else, it really comes down to the inability to communicate. Communication is the key to resolving many of the issues experienced in life and in relationships The major lesson we should learn is no matter how hard you try, if you don’t speak the love language of the person you’re with, you’ll have issues. Research shows the one common denominator in marriages lasting more than 40 years is healthy communication. There is no income bracket for learning the art of communication; we all have the ability to incorporate this principle in our lives.
Learn the art of sacrifice. Great relationships are made up of two people willing to sacrifice for one another. Neither person has to always get his or her way in the relationship. Sacrifice communicates to the other person that you would rather see their needs met than to personally get your way. Now imagine when you have two people operating under this same principle, it makes for AMAZING relationships. You can tell what kind of relationship you are potentially entering into by observing the person’s willingness to sacrifice. Proceed with caution if the person you’re dating demonstrates a need to always get their way in the relationship. Sacrifice isn't something money can buy, it’s something built into the character of a person.
Want to heat things up in the bedroom? First, cool things down. By employing a technique called temperature play—using hot or cold sensations to stimulate the neuroreceptors under your skin—you can add a little kink to your sex life.
Stimulating nerve endings in foreplay builds anticipation and excitement, highly intensifying the pleasure,
All you need are a couple of ice cubes to get the fun started:
Tease Your Partner
Take several ice cubes out of the freezer and set them into a bowl. Then slowly draw one along your partner’s skin. When she starts to feel the super-cold temperatures, it’ll cause her nerves to perk up and anticipate the sensations to come, Wagner says. If you really want to drive her wild, avoid the erogenous zones—like her nipples or inner thighs—until the very last minute. As you build up her arousal, her body will start to heat up, and those sensitive areas will feel even more sensitive when you eventually touch them with ice.
But a word of caution: Don’t place anything frozen directly onto the genitals. Remember when Ralphie got his tongue stuck to the pole in A Christmas Story? Don’t let that happen to your partner’s lady parts.
Toggle Between Temperatures
When her body gets hot, it starts to loosen up; when it gets cold, it contracts. By playing with her temperature, you'll build and release loads of sexual tension. Try this: Get her all hot and bothered with something warm—whether it’s a lubricant or drizzle of honey on her stomach—and then brush her nipples or her inner thighs with the ice. The shock of cold will send shivers down her spine.
Enhance Oral Sex with Ice
Put an ice cube in your mouth and suck on it before going down on her. She’ll feel the heat of your breath and the frostiness of the cube at the same time, which will keep her nether region alert (from the cold) and relaxed (from the heat),
Bonus: Ice can also prolong your ability to withhold orgasm, thus leading to a heightened state of sexual arousal. If you feel yourself nearing climax too soon, ask her to slow you down with an ice cube—either in her mouth, or along your body—to delay your orgasm a little longer.
here is scene from 9 1/2 weeks. that can give you some ideas.
For some, working with the boo is a major plus. You may not work in the same department, but being able to take lunch together and troubleshoot issues with a loved one can be a convenient advantage of having your boyfriend or girlfriend working at the same company you do.
I’m personally not a fan of it since:
1. I can be quite shrewd (i.e. not so lovey-dovey) when it comes to business. I have little desire to protect feelings or sugarcoat things especially when they affect a bottom line. And let’s face it, the male ego can be a delicate one and the female sensitivity and be all emotional etc.....
2. I don’t necessarily want to see my woman before, during and after work. That age-old saying that absence makes the heart grow fonder reigns supreme for me — even if the absence means being as little or as much as a Plane ride away or 100 intersections away.
3. I really don’t like to mix business with pleasure, especially when it comes to professional peers knowing my intimate business. I mean, what happens if you break up? How awkward is that? And how do you vent about a bad day if your woman had a good one, or what happens more often than not she has a bad and I didn't? What about when you’re having an argument? Will the whole office (or half the company) know it? Again, majorly awkward and very annoying.
Some companies take things a bit further, requiring employees to disclose office romances by signing documentation acknowledging their involvement and leaving workers wondering whether it’s really their boss’ business who they’re involved with. Fortune contributor Anne Fisher says it most certainly is, citing that firms seek to avoid legal issues. She writes:
All this talk of contracts and lawsuits might come as a shock to anyone too young to remember a rash of high-profile sexual harassment suits in the ’90s— not to mention a few more recent ones, like the 2011 case where a jury awarded $10.6 million to a Kansas City employee of UBS Financial Services whose supervisor had harassed her.
In fact, a new poll by work-life and benefits consultants Workplace Options suggests the millennial generation is blissfully unaware of how messy, and how nasty, sex in the office can get. Consider: 84% of 18-to-29-year-olds say they’d date a coworker, versus 36% of Gen Xers (ages 30 to 45) and only 29% of Boomers (45-65). Almost three-quarters of millennials (71%) “see a workplace romance as having positive effects such as improved performance and morale,” the report adds.
Love can already be complicated enough. Maybe for married couples this poses less of a problem, but when you’re going through the motions of matters of the heart—those not bound by wedding vows—throwing workplace politics in the mix can add extra strain.
More fallout for couples who work together include interoffice drama that could affect productivity as well as conflicts of interest that could affect team morale and company bottom lines. Some experts differ in opinion when it comes to advice for managers on how to accommodate office romances, with some saying couple comradery should be encouraged and could lead to increased retention.
All in all, the presence of interoffice dating is one that will probably stand the test of time, and if it’s worked for you, kudos.
I will remain part of the group who would not date a coworker. With disclosures being required from major businesses these days, the trend of managers all up in your business in and outside the office may become a prevalent one. Maybe having your boo in the next cubicle isn't that great of an idea after all. So feeling are; let's meet up after work and jog as a way of relieving stresses of the day. we can joke and talk and enjoy our down time together.
I am going to give you some highly coveted information why 95% of guys fall into a sadly unenviable position with women called “The Friend Zone”.
Getting out of that so-called “Friend Zone” is one of the most common questions I get from guys. Let me explain.
There are two major reasons that you are stuck in “The Friend Zone” and you are most likely doing both without ever realizing it.
Not touching enough
skipping or flat out missing the attraction stage
Let’s begin with touching at the right time.
Building rapport with a woman is great. However, rapport does not create the physical connection. To break the bonds of pure rapport and create anchors of sexuality, you need to break the touch barrier early on and intensify that touch over time.
Here’s how…
One of the most amazing methods for creating sexuality and emotional anchors is to take her intrigue and curiosity about you to new levels through simple but brief touch. This can be as straightforward as slight and casual touch of the hand or shoulder for two to three seconds or less during the course of conversation. Yet, you should be consistently creating these emotional anchors of trust and connection at least once per minute. Otherwise, you may well be headed to “The Friend Zone.”
Rule of thumb…Increase your touch 300%. In other words, touch 3 times more than would normally. The other tendency most guys have is to skip the attraction stage altogether and go head-first into deep conversation and rapport building. Trust me, there is a time and place for rapport building; however, what typically happens is most guys never reach the peak level of attraction needed to stimulate desirable magnetism beyond friendship. This is simply amazing to me, because the friend zone should be where you should be heading first with a new person you are interested in, if you can't be friends how are you going to become lovers or a couple. People keep getting this mess backwards.You want to becomes lovers, and a couple without being friends... SMH
How to get out of 'The Friend Zone'
As I said, there are only a few ways to get out of “The Friend Zone.” First, let me warn you. It takes patience and it takes work. It seems that the male species has an imprint old thoughts and concepts that DO NOT work. If you are used to asking women to go out to dinner or have a drink, toss that thinking out of your mind right now. Getting out of “The Friend Zone” requires a shift in the paradigm of your connection with women.
This new way of thinking creates a win-win situation for you and for her.
The key is to invite her to “meet up” in a comfortable social setting. ‘Meeting up’ can help alleviate feelings of pressure for you both. Yet, there are a few critical aspects of this ‘meeting up’ philosophy that can help create the right environment for creating sexuality and emotional anchors. One of the coolest things I suggest to guys who ask me about getting out of “The Friend Zone” is to invite your friends to meet up at the same location. In particular, inviting attractive female friends not sexually interested in you. When you meet up with her and follow this system, you will see a transformation in the way she interacts with you. Fellahs The Old TV series " Three is Company" was a perfect example of women being relaxed around a guy who does not make them feel like a conquest. the other upside to this math equation is that she will be eyeing (without looking directly at her) your female friend and thinking, "Wow he has good looking female friends..... Is he a player?" or "I know I can make him want me more than her, because she is already in that Friend zone, I don't want to join into an over crowded Friend zone , and compete for his friendly attention!"
Why does this work?
Well, for starters, when she sees you interacting equally in a group conversation and creating eye contact with everyone — female and male — not just focusing just on her, you become more attractive.
When she sees other women are attracted to you, you show value. She starts to desire your attention. However, to get your attention she has to do something to create attraction.
This becomes your opportunity to be extra playful, a chance to flirt and follow the “Attraction Blueprint.” Remember, this is not the time for deep conversation, but rather the time for attraction through laughing and touching. When you have set the stage at the height of attraction, you now have the opening for building rapport.
Do not put attraction on the back-burner here. Touching is still crucial because you are still providing value in a number of stimulating ways.
As you can see, getting out of “The Friend Zone” means recognizing your own behaviors when it comes to women and changing the way you interact.
You are not just another nice guy. You are not one of the 95%. You can provide her value and create emotional anchors that will show her a new part of you that she hasn't seen. I always feel that the art of dancing is the best way to create contact, Latin Salsa dance style work very well because the dances are interactive to the greatest extend. holding hand and spinning and then letting her hand go and see what she does with her hands.. if she puts both on your shoulders, you are heading away from the Dreaded : "Friends zone". *** you better know how to dance or you will not be able lead!
I'm not a neat freak, I should be because it allows me to find things quickly, it also creates space when I need to add something new. Relationships are no different, you can't fit a new person into a junkie space filled with drama with baby Daddies, gossiping friends, hours on social media, and sex with ex's.Chances are if you were to meet Mr. or Ms. Right today you would scare them away with all the mess going on in your life. Hell, some of you literally don't have enough drawer space for someone to leave a pair of draws. Making space for someone to love shouldn't happen after you meet them, it should happen before. So, take my advice and start clearing out your old stuff, old contacts on FB, Twitter, and Instagram, old friends who don't enhance you, and ex's who are blocking you emotionally and sexually....anything that's not consistent with you moving forward has to go! I can't promise you that Prince/Princess Charming will come knocking at your door the next day, but I can promise you that when that special person comes along you'll have room to give the relationship your best shot!Here is my stupid rule.... If I meet you online and invite you for a drink and you don't look like your pics... YOU will be paying for your own drinks until you do!
Somehow, somewhere, somebody decided that when it comes to dating we can’t just do what we feel, when we feel like it. Instead, they came up with these numeric formulas: if you wait X amount of time to do Y thing, you’ll be married with a baby by age Z. But I just don’t buy that! Old rules are just out dated. women and men need to do what feels right. the only rules they should abide by is not doing stuff that does not feel right or things that a flatly nonsensical. just remember the one thing that is a rule to remember you can not UN-ring a bell. Once you have done that one thing that you can't undo then effort n the world or denial can undo it. So Let's start with the stupidist rules
WAIT TWO DAYS TO CALL
Hold on: when you give someone your number and he calls you that night, or the next day, all you think is, “Aw! He couldn't wait to contact me!” Don’t you want to make somebody else feel that way?
KEEP TEXTS TO THREE LINES
Think four line text messages are too long-winded? Hey—if you’re witty, and it takes you 7 lines to make the person laugh, you just go ahead and write those 7 lines! If they get bored or tired after 3, they’re illiterate or disinterested, in which case you have bigger problems.
WAIT TWO HOURS TO REPLY
Have you ever been glad somebody waited two hours to respond to you? Probably not! If you were sending sweet nothings, you get insecure waiting for a reply, thinking the person doesn't feel the same way. If you were asking a question about making plans, you kinda need an answer ASAP!
DON’T BRING MORE THAN TWO OR THREE FRIENDS
A man with confidence can handle wooing and entertaining your 5 female friends, if that happens to be who you’re with when he asks to meet up on a Friday night.
HOLD OFF ON DOUBLE DATES
Afraid bringing a new guy to a double date is asking too much of him? If he’s into you, he’ll make the effort to befriend your best friend’s boyfriend, and impress your friend.
WAIT 10 DATES TO HAVE SEX
If a guy likes you he likes you—that won’t change because you have sex after 6 dates or 3 dates or whatever.
KISS BY THE THIRD DATE
Feel pressured to have some sort of physical contact before date three or else you fear they’ll be no chemistry? Look: there either is chemistry or there isn't, and it will wait as long as you need.
MAKE HIM PAY AT LEAST $50 FOR THE DATE
Think a guy who takes you on a $30 drinks date is cheap? How would you like to spend $30 every time you just wanted to see if maybe you liked a guy? If you went on just four first dates a month, that’s $120 a month! Maybe for nothing! Let the guy pay what he’s comfortable with.
BE 15 MINUTES LATE TO THE DATE
Think being early or on time makes you look eager? Grow up! It makes you look respectful, responsible and like you have your sh*t together.
WAIT 6 MONTHS TO SAY, “I LOVE YOU”
Maybe don’t say it on the first date, but if things are going well, you can tell if the feeling is mutual. And even if the other person doesn't feel that way just yet, if it’s meant to be, they won’t be scared off by you saying it after three months.
WAIT ONE YEAR TO MOVE IN TOGETHER
Okay in this case there is a number that matters, but it’s not one year! One year is nothing! Think about how many one-year relationships you've had that ended. Probably a handful because you’re really still getting to know someone at a year! Wait two or three years. Wait as long as you can.
WAITING THREE MONTHS OR MORE TO INTRODUCE HIM TO YOUR FRIENDS
If you actively avoid bringing a guy around your friends for three months, he’ll just think you don’t have friends. OR he’ll take offense. He can handle your friends, and it’s okay if things don’t work out with him—your friends won’t be too heartbroken.However you might kick yourself for not receiving that ring burning a hole in his pocket. this might just be the one regret you might not be able to smooth over.. if he start feeling he is the only one thinking seriously about your relationship
WAIT 6 MONTHS TO INTRODUCE HIM TO THE FAMILY
What if your family lives in town? What if you live with them?! What if they visit every month? What if, in your family, meeting your significant other isn't really a big deal? Every family is different: you know what’s appropriate in yours.
SPEND 2 NIGHTS APART A WEEK
There is no right or wrong number of nights you have to spend with your partner each week. Some couples are happiest if they only spend two nights a week together, because they have plenty of time to see friends! Some couples want to be together every night, and never get sick of each other—good for them. To each their own.
The idea that opposites attract is bull crap! It sounds clever but in reality it makes no sense. Try dating someone with opposite values or opposite attitudes about sex, marriage, raising children, healthy lifestyles, religion, and even cleanliness. The word we should be looking for is compliment, or compatible, not opposite. Which brings me to my point, when things don't work out between couples it's usually because they have opposite views on something of importance, the question is, why then do we torture ourselves over it ending? Disappointed yes, sad, maybe, but devastated hell no! The only reason anyone should be crushed by losing a partner is when they have wasted valuable time, money, resource that can not be recovered and maybe their health has been impacted, other then that, your attitude should be, "Thanks for the lesson...NEXT!" Trust your instincts and walk away when it's obvious that you don't want the same things. It's hard enough to stay together when you have chemistry and compatibility, but you have no chance of making it work, and more importantly, no chance of being happy when you have to force your way into a person's life!
There comes a time in your life, when you walk away from all the drama and people who create it. You surround yourself with people who make you laugh. Forget the bad, and focus on the good. Love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who didn't. Life is too short to be anything but happy. Falling down is a part of life, getting back up is truly living From the time we were kids we were told to love everyone. However, when you don’t like someone then you need to walk away and focus not on him or her, but the dislike you’re harboring you need a release from this. Otherwise, you will allow your piety to take over. Before you know it, you’re using every word as a sword to slice up the other person into pieces. From your point of helplessness, it will be easy to recruit people that will mistake your kindness as righteousness, when in reality it is a hidden agenda to humiliate through the words you use. This game is so often used by women in or after a bad relationships, that it is the number one reason why many people become inactively involved in a relationship. It is a silent, unspoken hypocrisy that is inconsistent. If you choose not to like someone, then avoid them. If you have gotten to the point where you don't love them anymore , then let them just walk away. don't hold on to your frustrations , release them and let forgiveness be your savior. Therefore allowing yourself time to heal through distance. Try focusing on what you shared on the positive rather than the negative aspects you dislike about that person now. Victory is ,of cutting off the chains and leaving iron ball behind, which is like a boxer that hangs up his or her gloves, after consecutive losses; sometimes walking away is what builds character, than the actual fight. Avoid feeling like humble fruit on a tree that falls to the ground and rots, never finding appreciation in the taste of any ones mouth. Say goodbye, as the scars will prevent you from coming back!
Many of my blogs have music videos at the end and pics in the middle of the blog post. so it should come as no surprise that I believe music is the key to good relationships. If a couple shares moment of just wonderful memories of feeling the beat of each others heart in rhythm with what they are listing to they can connect in a very special way . This is why movies have those special love scenes with music in the background for maximum effect. Make sure you listing to the music at the bottom of this post." All of me" from a female singer.
If you are Thinking your bed mate is having a sub-par time—or the best sex of their life? Either way, you're probably right, suggests a new study in the Archives of Sexual Behavior.
For the study, researchers from the University of Waterloo in Canada asked 84 married or cohabiting heterosexual couples to split up and fill out surveys (no peeking allowed!). Questions covered their sexual and relationship satisfaction, how well they communicated about sex as a couple, and lastly, how satisfied they thought their partner was sexually.
The results? Apart from the fact that men liking sex is pretty much a guarantee, researchers found that both the men and women in the study were pretty good at reading their partners' levels of sexual satisfaction. In fact, women were spot-on with their perceptions. Men, however, tended to slightly under estimate how satisfied their partners were in bed. WE guys are so delusional it's not funny! that right we think we lay it down every time!
Ladies if you Want him to know you're enjoying it? Don't just turn up the volume on your moans. Scream his name at the right time. A recent The Journal of Sex Research study found that most men want women to share whether or not they crossed the finish line—as well as what really gets them going. So go ahead and ask for exactly what you want in bed—you'll both be happier for it. And most importantly take off the Fake Mask ! No silly sake Ooooh and Aaahs, allowed!
Ladies......Be very careful you don't' live a life where you will be making statement like this, unanimous 40+ year old, someday!
" I woke up one morning to find my husband had decided he liked our neighbor’s 20 year old daughter more than me and now I'm on my own at 40 years of age. There were problems in the bedroom for us; I would not even consider swallowing his load and I refused to take it in the rear; this was a huge problem for him ( because he love the freaky stuff) and the reason he moved on. He told his woman many times that there were lots of women out there who would do what he wanted and she said: " so what…" I guess she got her answer.I know hindsight is 20/20.
I'm sure she is really upset now and feels the lost and thinks perhaps she made the wrong decision in regards to satisfying her husbands who had a need for that type of sex, which is what he really liked; My guess is..... if you want to hold onto your man you better look after his needs in the bedroom, or someone else will. When her ex-husband’s girlfriend walks by smiling at her ; and said: " your ex- husband shots a big load in my mouth; I loved it and swallow it; and the first time he gave it to me in the rear-end it was incredible! you missed out baby…"
Men have a BAD-rep of being horny all day, every day. But—and this isn't news to you secure women who are pretty lustful too. A survey by Elite Singles revealed that 65 percent of women and 69 percent of men think having sex several times per week is ideal. Too bad that isn't the casein most societies. Most couples in their twenties and thirties are knocking boots once a week or a few times a month, reports the Kinsey Institute. Wow, back in my day we guys would put it down at least once a day... so what's going on with this generation X and Y? Is my question.. too much fast food and too little Sexercise... would be my guess!
So why aren't all of us setting the sheets on fire more often? Blame our busy schedules. Studies have found that couples prioritize things like sleep and work ahead of sex------ leaving barely any time to eat dinner together, let alone have a 30-minute sack session. These sexless nights can have serious ramifications for the quality of satisfaction and intimacy in your relationship. A study suggests that the more you and your partner's sexual desires aren't met, the more you're likely to fight and feel dissatisfied with your union.
But there's an easy, convenient, and pleasure-filled solution: the quickie. OK before you freak out, think about the cultures that have siestas daily... What do you think they are doing, just having lunch and taking an afternoon nap? It's all about fast, hot, unbridled passion, and who wouldn't want to make time for so good afternoon sex? With a little foreplay. or phone sex leading up to your encounter, the encounter can take even less time than it would to queue up your sexy-music playlist. Bonus: You can still get the health benefits from longer sex sessions. Sex is a physical activity, so I recommend you do it as often as you can for exercise, but it also helps you relax and adds to your bond as a couple, this is not coming from me... a urologist and reproductive medicine specialist at NewYork-Presbyterian Hospital and author of The New Naked. suggest that Quickies can also inject some spontaneous passion into your relationship. Sometimes women want to be taken. And if that's what you want, then a quickie is excellent. It's just as ideal if you want to be the taker as well. What's more important, if you have trouble having an orgasms through regular intercourse alone, you can change that with Quickies you will experience the rush of adrenaline and oxytocin,(your body's feel-good hormone,) that comes with a sexy hookup at, let's say, by the kitchen sink while unloading the groceries.
So are you game for exciting satisfaction in minimal time? You should have this conversation with your Sex- partner, first because he or she might have it on their to-do-list but are not sure you would be game. there is nothing like when a plan that is in your head, matches what's in your counterpart's head. Que up Marvin Gay;s "Let's get it ON" Ooh Aah baby that's it!
My Last few tips:
Create Mystery
Your man is an explorer by nature. The less he knows, the more he wants to know. That's why you pique his curiosity when you don't initially reveal your innermost thoughts. Example a half full glass of wine sitting on the table when he walks into the room "So who did you drink red wine with, the glass is half full?"
Create Anticipation Delaying gratification makes your man fantasize about you more. When you tease him with sexy text messages or the promise of sex, his imagination runs wild. OK if I have to give you an example on how to do this then you need professional help.
You both need Space We Men want what's out of our reach. If you're not available to us 24/7 and you have an active life outside the relationship, he has time to miss you!
have some Surprises Men flat-line from the familiar. Variety is key. So throwing a new move into your game doesn't just turn him on. It maintains his ability to be attracted to you.
enhance the Scent Biologists believe the reason your odor turns him on is because smell is one of the most primitive senses — it travels a direct route to the brain's limbic lobe, where it can promote an emotional reaction. I'm out!
Whether you are single and serially first-dating, or you are struggling with a distant boyfriend who you want to open up to you, or you want to get that ex boyfriend back –I may have a technique for you!
I has dedicated my life to the art of helping women making their dreams come through maybe even getting the right man by studying the art of attraction and developing a system to help women in every situation get the man they want. I have compiled all of my research and knowledge into an easy to read e-book: ‘Make Him Desire You’. OK it is not mine but I thought I would get you interested in reading the book.
If you are interested in learning some unconventional ways to get a guy attracted to you. If you have relationship problems and want to fix them, or if you simply want to understand men in general better, you need to understand men.
Sure, you want adoration, respect, and the occasional sparkly treat from your man, but more than anything, you want to feel like he's still got the hots for you. Well, here's good news: Contrary to the widely held belief that men lose interest over time, experts now know that guys are actually hardwired for long-term lusting.
It's absolutely true, but it's not without conditions.You have to make a strategic effort to trigger that craving in him once you're in a relationship because the spark in your bond won't last if you neglect it. For that reason, Cosmo has discovered the seven key make-him-ache-for-you strategies that specifically jump-start your guy's desire. Be warned: Once you use them, he'll be sticking to you like white on rice, or black on Nubian.
1. Utter the One Word That Drives Him Nuts!
As Lovey-Dovey pet names makes him feel like your pet poodle, men pet names still don't compare to the electrifying rush your man gets when his name crosses your lips with passion. Just hearing it is an aphrodisiac. It ratchets up his desire because the message you send is 'It's you I'm thinking about and no one else.' And men need to hear that — it's tied to their primal urge to beat out all the competition.
However, just blurting out his moniker as often as possible isn't going to do it for him. You need to make it count. For instance, when you're feeling sexy in a public setting, like in a dark bar, drop it into conversation in surprising spots and pause for a beat or two: "And then...say "Jeremy..." sigh and go to the ladies room and slam the door behind you. or if you are at home head to the kitchen after calling his name, and sit on the counter, He will get the hint. Or you can try another trick when he's putting the moves on you: Just kind of coo his name to draw his focus entirely on to you. Sometimes men are lost in their own heads. But when a woman moan his name, everything feels like it gets more intense between the two of you, like it brings him into the moment.
2. Reach into His Pocket for the Keys
Well, more than just the keys. The lesson is this: "Never underestimate the power of an unexpected touch, Just by stimulating his nerve endings when he's not prepared for it, you create a positive physical connection that leaves your man wanting more. Even better, your guy subconsciously gets hooked on those mini-moments of excitement and craves them when you're not around.
From now on, be on the lookout for opportune moments to touch him "accidentally." For example, don't ask him for his keys...glide your hand into his pocket and slowly take them out. Don't ask him to pass the salt...reach across him, letting your breasts rub against his arm. Don't walk past him in a crowded bar...press your rear into his gear. These sneak attacks work like a charm. If you've been really touchy-feely, the next morning, he'll be really snuggly. It's like your man will want to be closer to you!
3. Keep Him Out of the Loop
The funny thing about men is that telling them less about your life makes them long for you more. Like you using benwa balls when you are out with him. So as much as you might want to share the minutiae of your bitchy workplace or your take on the latest Grey's Anatomy plot twist, hold back. The hard truth is that from his end, that information is overwhelming and just flat-out boring. Men don't have the capacity to endure great amounts of detail. That's one reason why they don't give you the play-by-play of their lives, unless you insist on knowing.
Edit your small talk and you'll make a discovery: The less you tell a man, the more interested he'll become in your day-to-day. If you're vague or dismissive about what you've been up to — like 'Oh, nothing. The usual. Work. Out with the girls' — he will become eager to hear the story. And when he's the instigator/investigator, he listens more closely.
So to hook him in, when you're chatting, give him the conclusion of the conversation first. For instance, "I got the job" or "I saw your buddy Mark," and then stop and wait. You've gotten his attention, now let him draw out the details he's dying to know it from you.
4. Make Small Changes for Big Results
some women get their haircut and their guy don't noticed at all, but when she had her brunette crown streaked red, he will be all over you if he likes red. He always dreamed and will not believe he is now fooling around with a redhead, The reason this new look drives him nuts: Men register eye-catching changes to your appearance, and it draws them to you,Adding novelty will keep his desire for you strong.
There's a catch though: If you want to snag his immediate interest, the change has to be guy-visible. To activate his desire, it has to be a departure from your everyday look. Maybe take a break from your jeans routine and strut around in a miniskirt or try on a long gown. Wear a noticeably higher heels over a red dress that flows to the floor making you took taller (think Johny Gill--- My My My) Or ditch your bra for a day and put a little extra bounce in your step.
5. Compliment Him the Right Way
Just because men don't fish for flattery (when was the last time you heard a guy ask, "Honey, do my pecs look small in this shirt?") doesn't mean they don't love ego stroking. "More than anything, men desire the feeling of being desired,. When a man hears praise from his partner, it reinforces that she's attracted to him, which further intensifies his feelings for her. get him a name tag to pin to his label that tells him he is in charge.... even if he know you are the one calling all the shots.
But there's a trick to buttering up your guy right. You see, men are super-sensitive about too much gushing. It makes them want to gag and run far away. So when you give him props, stick to this tip: The more obscure and exclusive the praise to him, the more genuine it feels. He may dismiss your flattery with a grunt, but deep down, he's loving every second of it.
6. Give Him a Sensory Flashback
Think about when you first fell for your guy. What reminds you both of that time (aside from the conniption fit you had every time the phone rang)? Figure it out and you've found the secret to conjuring up that new-love rush. "When he experiences something that he associates with falling in love with you, those intense, sensual memories trigger a positive physical reaction and generate instant longing," says Bernstein.
Case in point a simple sent can do the trick. It takes me back to when you first met. Smelling that scent gives men the jolt all over again. To get your guy in the moment, revive an old brand of perfume, visit a favorite place from your shared past, or reinstate an early dating ritual. Oftentimes, you won't even need to say anything. These sensory connections are so strong that he'll be transported back in time instantly.
7. Check Out His Competition
Lust works in bizarre ways. Get this: If you want to renew your man's passion for you, slyly capture the eye of another guy. Men do become more attentive and turned on by their partners when they see them being desired by other men When she gets dressed up and guys at the bar check her out, She knows what her date is thinking, "Yeah, that's right. She's with me, suckers," Men definitely get clingier when he can smell the competition.
To stoke your guy's interest, trail a yummy waiter with your gaze or flash a flirty smile at one of his friends when you know he's watching you. And it never hurts to make an extra bit of effort with your appearance when you know you'll be in a situation where other men will admire you. Just the possibility of other guys eyeing you all night will definitely make him appreciate that he's the lucky dog who gets to take you home.
